Insightful Inspirations - Leanne Holitza

Energy healing, intuitive guidance

Leanne Holitza is an Intuitive healer working with your energy and thoughts to align you with your highest potential. Allowing you to experience more of what you already have, making room for more.  This site offers help with all areas of life through individual sessions, classes, yoga sessions, and more. My expertise also includes working with intuitive children. 

Personal Space and Managing our Energy Bubbles

Kids begin using their energy field the moment they come into the world. They learn to expand it and shrink it depending on what they want to experience. But this adjustment is so automatic, we all forget we can influence our experiences by consciously modifying our energy field.

Set it up

We brush our teeth and comb our hair but we often neglect our energy field. If you take two minutes to acknowledge your energy field you will be able to change the way you automatically perceive your world and begin consciously perceiving things. 

Here is a very simple energy exercise by Donna Eden you can use with your kids every day. (She filmed this one with her daughters.)

Start talking

I'll bet you notice when your child's energy is pulled away or when it's pushed way out. You feel it. You just don't have the words to describe it. Everyone functions best if their energy is about arms length around them in all directions. Some kids like to stretch their energy way out into the room. This often looks like hyper, distracted energy. Other kids like to shrink their energy in. This often looks like shyness or stubborn behavior. 

Start talking to your child about their energy field and ask them to notice where their energy is if you notice it is not arms length around them. They know, they just have to be asked to notice. They also often know, once they notice, that adjustments need to be made. Just encourage them to notice and they will begin to use their energy more consciously. 

Check yourself

Kids often learn energy habits from their parents. If you are a big energy field and demand control over your space you can sometimes cause your child to be a shrinking energy field. They are trying to find room for themselves, which often leaves them unavailable to you to engage with the way you intend. See if you can notice if you are dominating energy around you or are being submissive. If you are doing either of these, just set the intention to hold your energy field in the vibration you would like to, arms length around you and invite them to be themselves in the field with you. 

Avoid shame or blame

It is easy to learn about these things and then use them to shame each other. "You are in my energy field and taking over." But the best thing to do is be playful and easy about all of this. Energy is just energy and taking it too seriously won't help things flow, it will just shut things down. 

Feel free to share your experiences in the comments section. 

Perspectives and Perceptions

Dictionary.com provides seven different definitions of perspective. Wikipedia breaks it out into groups, i.e. graphical, visual, cognitive. All of which are relevant to the topic of understanding your place in the world.  In addition to that, we are going to cover the idea of perception which Wikipedia explains as organizing and interpretation of sensory information in order to understand the environment.  

A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbor’s.
— Richard Whately

Here we will focus on the idea that both perception and perspective play an important role in how we engage with our energy and the energy of other's and how your kids can benefit from understanding these topics a bit more.  This is a useful tool in being able to understand how we are engaging in the world and how our energy affects the way the world works with us based on what we put out and the perceptions and perspectives of others and how taking that personally, may not make sense. 

Talking to kids about perspectives. 

In kids class we use props such a picture frames with pictures in them, to demonstrate this issue. I have one group of kids look at one side of the picture and one group of kids look at the other and explain the sides to each other. Then we talk about neither side being wrong or right, or the interpretation on what they saw. Try this at home next time your kid is complaining someone is not seeing things their way. Ask them what the other person might be seeing that would make things seem different. If the child is in the heat of the moment, you may have to wait until the emotions calm down a bit. 

Try not to project your perspective onto them until you have talked through all sides. Then ask "may I tell you my perspective?" If you push to hard on this topic, you could make them more concrete in their own position. They will feel like they have to be louder and stronger, rather than soften.  

There is a fun Ted Talks video you can watch with your kids on this topic here. 

Talking to kids about perceptions.

This topic is a lot more subtle and requires more maturity to see other people's sides of things. The best place to start on this topic is to just get them familiar with their own perceptions, rather than trying to get them to perceive how other's perceive. You can start with easy things, using the vocabulary they can understand such as "how do you think the weather will be today?" Then explore why they came to that conclusion. Start to notice how they perceive things. Are they feelers, seers, listeners, etc. Listen to their responses and start to notice where your child is picking up cues from. Everyone does this differently with different intensities applied to each child. 

The more you know about your child's way of perceiving (and your own) the more you can use it to create a dialog with them about understanding what you are seeing and how it might be creating a different reality and energy field than those around you. 

Play with it your self and see what you discover. Feel free to share your own comments below. 

Shame and Guilt

I have recently been turned on to the ideas of Brene Brown, which gave me an idea on a very important issue to address. The difference between shame and guilt. Shame is when you apply something you have done to who you are as a person. Guilt is when you apply a mistake you made to something you have done. There is a big difference in the emotional health of a person, but also energetically it is significant. 

As conscious parents you are hopefully working diligently to protect your child's self esteem. But we want to teach the children to also protect their own self esteem. 

Other people in the world will shame, guilt and blame them and it is important to know what to do with that energy. Here are a few tips to share with your kids. 

  • Ground your energy to the earth
  • Find your center
  • Protect yourself
  • Notice if the statement is based in present time (often people bring up the past)
  • Fill in with gold energy to find your truth about what is being said. 

I have a blog about these topics for adults here. For kids, if they don't know these techniques you can just ask them, when things are calm, to practice feeling their body/mind connect into their belly or seat. Ask them to notice this space when they are feeling threatened or challenged. (you can also check out my schedule for kids classes)

It is always good to go back and reflect on conflicts after things are calm. Discussing where the truth of the negative statements lie and their personal responsibility for the conflict to begin with. It is much easier to find your center and stay grounded if you know how to do it in calm times first and then practice doing it in times that are more challenging. 

If you don't know the power of shame and guilt on your kids, I highly recommend you research it further. 

As a parent on an energetic level, the best thing to do is also know your emotional hooks to your kids. Kids hook us into emotions we might not always have control over. If you learn your emotional hooks in advance, you will be less likely to result to shaming, because you will have enough emotional control to engage the coaching, rational mind instead. 

I would love to hear your comments. Feel free to share your thoughts and questions on this topic. 

 

Contagious Energy

We encounter contagious energy in a variety of settings on a daily basis.  Sometimes it is fun, such as a giggle attack or a fun party. Other times it is damaging, such as conflict and struggle in a classroom. There are many stories about how panicked crowds trampled each other in their group panic or groups of people being conned into doing something normally incomprehensible. 

You can teach your kids how to understand how this energy works and how to use it. When the energy is fun and engaging, it is a good thing to tap into. It connects us and joins us in communal feelings that can move us forward and create a lightness in our lives. When it isn't good for us or is manipulative or negative we can teach our children how to step out of the collective energy and maintain themselves. 

Energetic boundaries

Teaching the children about how to understand their own energy system will help them manage contagious energy. As you would teach your children about good touch and bad touch, you can also teach them good energy and bad energy lessons. 

Remind them that their energy extends arm length around them in all directions. Have them check into how their are feeling in their own energy space so they can be familiar with how their energy feels to them vs. the rest of the world. Ask them to notice how their space around them feels as they enter different environments or different people come into the room. 

Balance is key

Step with care and great tact, and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act.
— Dr. Seuss

We don't want to teach our kids to wall off from the world around them we want to teach them how to understand themselves in the world. When working with contagious energies, the goal is not remain completely immune. That would diminish the human experience. The real goal is understand yourself enough to know what is good for you to engage in and what isn't. 

Have your child reflect on experiences of contagious energy after you notice them. Ask them how they felt around that person or setting. Ask them if they felt it was good or bad for them. If they determine it is bad, ask them how they could have avoided that experience. Questioning rather than telling helps them learn their own balance rather than replacing one contagious energy with another (yours). 

Trust their gut

If your children tell you something is fishy, trust them. Listen to their feedback about the world. Sometimes they show shyness or nervousness for good reason and we dismiss it, telling them that everything is "fine". Practice listening to your kids when they have a gut feeling that says "stop" or "go slow" and help them find their energetic space so they can feel safe to proceed. If you teach them to trust what they are sensing, you allow them to feel empowered by their senses rather than victimized by them.

Mindfulness for Kids

Wouldn't it have been great if you would have been shown how to slow down and smell the roses in life when you were a kid? The truth is, kids need reminding of mindfulness as much as we do. Mindfulness will help them catch their own mistakes, calm down their energies and allow them to conquer more of their world. 

 

Here are five tips to get your kid to be more mindful. 

1. Ask questions about what they are experiencing

By asking questions about what they are noticing you are encouraging them to slow down and think about what they are doing. We spend a lot of time telling our kids about things. Asking them allows them to think about their point of view and start developing their own ideas about what life is all about. 

2. Give them choices and then ask them why they made that choice

By now you have probably heard the importance of offering your children choices. If not, a good article on why this is important can be found here.  But an added benefit to having choices and then discussing how you come to a choice helps children begin the art of self reflection. Allowing their mind to turn back on a choice they have already made and reflect on that choice as a process. It brings mindfulness into their decision making skills. 

3. SLOW DOWN

No one can be clear under pressure. If there is too much going on, too quickly, all of your resources go to the action and things become automatic. When you slow down it allows your resources to turn inward as well as outward. You get a chance to think about what you are doing and experiencing. If your pace in life is quick (I know mine is) this may take some mindful effort on your part as well. Slowing down during a meal, homework or other day to day activities gives everyone a chance to take a breath. 

4. Get a mindfulness routine going

Pick a time when your family will work on being mindful. If you set up a routine, you are more likely to focus on it. The best part is you can be mindful anywhere. You can drive to school and reflect on what the trees look like today or the air smells like. You can walk somewhere and notice how the air feels on your skin, the sounds that are in the air, the sensations in your body. Setting up a mindfulness routine will help teach your kids that mindfulness is an important commitment that you value. 

5. Be a good role model

You know kids learn though the actions of their parents, not just the words. Demonstrating you being mindful is the best way to show kids how it is done. Wondering why you should care about mind, body, spirit alignment at all, read my article on HubPages.