Opening yourself up to the possibilities that your needs (and desires) can be met in unexpected ways, opens your manifestation abilities up to a whole new level your life has yet to see. Give it a shot!Read More
You don’t have to flee into the mountains to live in a cave while pondering the meaning of the universe, thank goodness. That sounds very unpleasant, and your family would never allow it, anyway. There’s an easier way: by making adjustments to your physical and mental health efforts to gain deeper insight into your connection with the world while nurturing your soul. Here are a few ideas that will help you on this important journey.Read More
By Brad Krause
A major life event, whether positive or negative, is an opportunity to re-evaluate many of your behaviors and make changes that will lead you on a positive path. Keep reading for how to turn the things that turn your life upside down into a chance to change for the better.
Losing a job
There is no doubt that losing a job, especially one you’ve held for many years, is tough. When you have a family to care for, the loss can be even more overwhelming as you scramble to figure out how to make ends meet. But despite a temporary setback, a forced job change does not have to mean permanent devastation.
The moment you are released from your 9-to-5 obligations is your first chance to change paths. You have an opportunity to swap careers and pursue something you truly appreciate. You can turn your passion into a paycheck. For instance, if you enjoy photography, look for career opportunities at photo studios, as a photography assistant, or as your own boss shooting events, weddings or headshots. In addition to having a chance to make money, doing things you love will allow you to experience new happiness. You may even meet new people that will benefit you along the way.
Kids leaving for college
According to Money Crashers, empty nest syndrome isn’t the end of your parenting years but the beginning of your time to reconnect with your spouse or partner. While it is perfectly normal to feel a little sad when your children fly the proverbial coup, there is no reason to sit alone in an empty home.
Take this opportunity to restyle your home for the way you want to live. Decluttering – even if it means emptying the kids’ rooms – is a great way to give yourself a mental health boost. You may even wish to downsize and move to a smaller home that costs less to upkeep. This will give you the money to pursue travel or other interests and eliminate many home maintenance tasks. Move cherished but rarely used items into storage if you won’t have room in your new home or after redecorating. Fortunately, renting storage doesn’t have to set you back significantly: the average price of a self-storage unit booked in Broomfield, Colorado is about $114.
Even under the best circumstances, dealing with divorce is difficult. Leaving a relationship can leave you with shattered self-confidence. But it’s also a jump-off point to remodeling yourself into a person you are proud of. DevelopingGoodHabits.com explains that confident people have no problem finding happiness within themselves. The end of a bad relationship is the perfect opportunity for you to do just that so your next relationships are healthy and happy.
Your health is one aspect of yourself that you largely control. Although there are genetic factors and unexpected situations, your actions directly affect your health. When you have a health scare such as prediabetes, you are being given a second chance to change your bad habits.
One bad habit you can change is how you eat. Remember, what you put into your mouth is the fuel your body has to stay healthy. You have the power to stop smoking and change your exercise routine and alcohol intake.
Life takes many unexpected twists and turns. Use them wisely, and you will be that much more prepared to enjoy the ride. While you might not be able to control everything, you can take charge of how you react to change and give yourself a better future.
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The term “self-care” is often misunderstood as being synonymous with selfishness. Many hardworking people who are no stranger to self-sacrifice find it hard to see where they could fit self-care into their lives while they’re trying to provide for others. But the truth is, not taking the time to take care of ourselves can lead to exhaustion and high amounts of stress, and it can strain our relationships. In other words, taking care of yourself helps you take care of others. Here are four self-care tips that will help you be the best version of yourself—both for yourself and for others.Read More
We, Marilyn and Tohmas Twintreess, directly and gratefully listen to Stonebeings and have for a long time (lifetimes actually). It is the base of our international business/travel/services/workshops, evolution and FUN!!! Literally. Consider this: The Mineral Kingdom is the bones of the Earth Mother; therefore it is the physical foundation for all life upon this planet.
In continually listening to the Stones, we discovered that physical base so rich that it is metaphysical as well. Crystals support all life (You are reading this on a crystalline-based device aren’t you?) and all manifestation on all levels. With them, there is nothing we cannot respectfully do and be. For me and Tohmas, that is the basis of our personal, professional and spiritual life, and we are profoundly honored to share that with you.
Through Insightful Inspirations’ generosity, we propose to listen to Stones specifically for you and your part of the world. Monthly, we will ask the Stones which one wants to be offered to you for your particular healing and abundance, within that month’s cycle of learning and healing potential (according to the Earth Mother’s cycles). Leanne will share that with you and if you say, “Yes!” you’ll be on adventure with a Stone that respectfully ASKED to come and support you. Talk about a lovely, loving foundation for manifesting whatever you truly choose!!
We, Marilyn & Tohmas, will pass on the Stone information it asked us to tell you about its energy, and Leanne will share the 3D logistics of how to bring this Custom-Listened-to Stone into your life, and *Leanne, being the stellar healer and inspiration she is, also can facilitate you integrating the crystalline magic into your being: physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychically.
Told you this ought to grab you!!!!
*Thanks to Leanne for making this program possible— for bringing it easily to fruition so you could readily drink in these benefits. Few people on the planet are as quick to manifest magic as Leanne. Y’all are very very blessed to have her in your midst and we are grateful to be co-partnering with her (and you) in such a profound, unique, sweet program as this!! ROCK on!!!!
This month: Phosphosiderite
“I connect with my own center and live from there forever.”
Good for heart chakra and physical body. Works well with the new energies and integrates the body into present time.
So often we spend our lives trying to fit in and conform to what people say they want from us. Most of the time, when we give people what they say they want, they still aren't happy. Why? Because what they really want is us, not some version of ourselves, modified to try and please them. We want genuine connections, ones that are freely given and offer us space to truly be ourselves as well.Read More
What are you trying to "understand" better? What information are you trying to analyze, pick a part, think through? Are you in balance with it? Is it create ease and fun in your life or chaos and struggle? If it is creating chaos and struggle, can you let go of it a little bit. Let it show itself to you rather than you figuring it all out.Read More
Often times people ask me, "Why the heck did I attract this? What could I possibly learn from this experience?" To that I always respond (generally with a giggle) "Oh so much!" And I am not just being optimistic.
Here are some tips to identify the root issues of your patterns.
Time is just another tool in your perceptual toolbox. Play around with various time keeping tools, blocking off times of day for specific tasks you might not otherwise felt you could get to. You will seem, all of the sudden you have time for that thing you never thought you would.Read More
What is healing anyway? Our relationship with the state of being unwell is often so uncomfortable that we can’t accept it. We criticize and blame ourselves and/or our conditions for making us unwell and focus all of our energy on understanding the problem. As we focus on the problem, we expand it. This expansion actually clarifies our desires through the reflection of what we don’t want. Sometimes we get stuck there. So how can we heal?Read More
The law of attraction talks about the fact that what is in your life is what you have attracted into your life by magnetizing yourself to it. All other things are not in match with your vibration. But how do you get in alignment with that vibration is the big question of having more of what you want out of life. The question becomes "How?!"Read More
Emotions seem to be the easiest thing to share amongst friends; it's almost like a virus. One person feels happy and passes on to the next and the next and so on. That is ideal... but not always how it goes.
More often one person in line is angry and yelling at the cashier which puts you in a "what is wrong with people?" mood which leads you to go home and yell at your kids, which makes them mad at the each other and so on. Emotions are contagious and the sooner we learn to recognize the difference between our emotions and the people we are with, the easier time we will have in knowing ourselves.
Empathy as a survival skill
Empathy is defined by dictionary.comas "the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another." If you are experiencing the feelings, thoughts or attitudes of another, how do you know you are acting in your own best interest and not the person you are empathizing with? If you are identifying with someone else's emotions and making decisions based on those emotions, they may not be right for you.
Empathy can be a survival skill. When we are born we can't talk yet and don't know much about the reality we have just arrived in. With this skill of empathy, we can read each others thoughts and emotions and make decisions on how we will engage with the environment.
"What am I really feeling?"
Things go off track when we don't know where our thoughts and feelings start and the other person's begin. We are always picking up on each other's energy in subtle ways. We feel each others state of mind and often change our behavior and feelings about the situation accordingly.
If you can begin to acknowledge when this sharing of energy is happening, you can begin to understand yourself more clearly and start setting new intentions. By paying attention to your ability to pick up on other people's thoughts and emotions, you begin to see when you are letting someone else's negativity win.
By becoming aware of how easily you change course based on what another person is doing or feeling you will be able to stop being a victim of others and empower yourself to dictate your mood and actions.
What mood are you bringing to the room?
It is also helpful to observe those around you, especially children, as they pick up on your moods. Watch for that moment from when they switch over to what they were feeling independently to what they are feeling when they notice you. Then ask yourself, is this how I want others to feel around me?
You have more power than you think. If you walk into a room defensive and uptight, that is how the room will respond. This isn't to control how everyone else is feeling, but just to set an intention within yourself of the influence you want to be in the world.
Being a mother of two square pegs that down right refuse to be put into round holes, I have had my fair share of struggles with the school system. As a mom it has required me to stay grounded in my truth. As a healer, it has tested my limits of compassion and understanding.
Our perspective in the world is very personal. Our filters of how we view a situation involves a complex brew of our past, our beliefs, our programs and our position in the situation.
Where we sometimes get hung up is when we need to convince others to see our side as the only truth. But one person's experience does not have to invalidate your own. Each experience is its own and it isn't a requirement that the whole world have the same experiences as us to have our experience be true.
Two Sides To Every Story
Taking this a step further, in order to heal ourselves sometimes it is helpful to see truth in the other side of the story. You probably won't be able to see the other person's truth 100% because you are still using your filter, however, a compassionate view into the other side can offer a healing to you as well.
In my case, I might being inquiring into myself about what a teacher's story could possibly be. I do this while at the same time, hold space for my truth as well.
I can have compassion for the teacher who has a full class, with several children who have special needs, one of which loves to debate every rule and issue with a passive aggressive behavior that he has down to a science (that's mine.) Learning not to take that teacher's perspective personally is also a huge gift.
Looking at the other side of the story while holding space for our truth with compassion. Our side being that our child is very intelligent and has a very unique and useful personality. If he is guided in the right direction his talents for bucking status quo can take us all to a new level.
When you are doing this two sided work you are likely hanging onto the other side's perspective as a personal attack of some sort. You might even feel that there was a violation against you, at no fault of your own. Hanging on to these things isn't going to help you feel lighter, more connected and ready for the next thing. It will leave you feeling gun shy, bitter and resentful.
Release the victim before you inquire into the other side. Watch out for your need to defend your view point and make the other person wrong as you look.
- What is happening here really?
- Why do you care what this person has done?
- What does it matter?
- Is it over and done with? If so, can you move on and forgive and forget? Why not?
- What parts of you feel wounded?
- What feelings do you feel? Do you feel hurt? Angry? Betrayed?
In my situation my mothering is questioned when my children won't fit into the expectations of the school. That hits me to the core and I want to prove is wrong, no matter what. But here is the catch, I don't have to prove it wrong!
I am a wonderful mother to my children. I know this and do my best with them every day. But I had to heal this part of myself, realizing that some part of me must have wondered if she was right. Otherwise, why would I care?
The other thing that pokes me to the core is a perception that teachers believe that my children are "bad" in some way. Again, I want to prove that wrong. This is more about me wanting to see the world accept my unique child without question. I so badly want the world to accept me too. Again, perfect place to work on healing myself. By looking at this I can allowing both my children and I to accept ourselves as we are, rather than trying to convince the world to accept us. Teaching them to love themselves first, then listen to the input of others.
Take a step back from your head on a situation your are struggling with. Use this moment in your life as ways to heal yourself and look into things further, rather than injure yourself through painful lenses of hurt and victimization.
Love yourself for bringing these scenarios into your life to teach you what you want to learn as a spirit. Embrace them, rather than be victimized by them. Use both sides of the story to bring you clarity and safety to explore the truths that are trying to shine through.
Sending unconditional love and light your way this week.
Our thoughts are our magic, our intentions are spells cast to make them happen. Everything around you is something you have created. Good or bad...no exceptions. The key is to start taking responsibility for what you have created. Own it, use it for your highest good and the highest good of the planet...see what happens next.
The downside of knowing this is people often beat themselves up for what they are creating. They shame themselves into things instead of embracing the truth about the law of attraction. Shaming uses the law of attraction's power in a way that feels heavy with responsibility and actually blocks desires and manifestations.Read More
There is a huge pot of energy we are all drawing on at any given time and it is infinite and abundant. We just have to remember to open up how we receive things and not be so focused on one particular place or person because we think we have “earned it.”Read More
An unconscious mantra is the things we say out loud or in our head to ourselves without even paying attention to what we are saying that works as an incantation or prayer to the universe. In other words the announcements we make out loud that bring more of the same into our lives. How do we identify these mantras and change them?Read More
We have all heard the down and out stories of how people hit rock bottom and that was the catalyst for the rising up. We have heard those stories of triumph over the impossible negativity we see in the world. We are overcoming little "rock bottoms" all of the time. It is our success over our struggles that gives us the trust in ourselves to take risks and carry on. It is the success in our moments of weakness, that remind us of our strength.Read More
The Crown Chakra is the chakra that enables us to move beyond the physical universe. More is always possible with all of these chakras and this is the one that reminds us of the limitlessness of it all.
This is the chakra that is at the top of the head and in its ideal state, spins in a funnel shape above the head in a white color. This is where people store information about how their higher self and their connect to their unity with humankind.
This chakra is the first step into bringing higher-self and divine messages down into the physical body,
When the seventh chakra is blocked, we have difficulty having direction and understanding in our life. We often struggle to understand why we are where we are and can blame others and take on a victim mentality.
- Spiritual brainwashing
- Lack of appropriate boundaries
- Feeling alone or like an outsider even when people are present
- Addictions to news or education, knowing enough
- Taking things to literally
When it is unbalanced or blocked, we feel alone, separate from each other or attached to the physical reality such as routines or dramas. It can be us stuck "in our head" or "over thinking" things or it could be lost in "daydreaming". This chakra is also where external information comes in, regardless of source. I often find the news, parents, and other external control factors blocking up people's seventh chakra.
Many of the chakras can relate to self-esteem, but this one relates to how we interact with our truth vs. the external truth of the world. When we are in conflict with who we are inside vs. the person we are presenting or perceived to be by others, it can create a seventh chakra block.
When the seventh chakra is too open, we feel enslaved by rules of society, religion, order that is dictated externally in some way. The emotion of feeling like you don't know anything or can't do anything right might indicate a block int he seventh chakra.
When the crown chakra is too closed we can be self absorbed, feel like we are the only ones who can make things happen or know the "right" answers. We may feel frustrated with the behavior of others as a broad statement saying "people are crazy" or "the world has gone mad."
The physical symptoms of a crown chakra imbalance can be tricky to identify and treat on a body level and often don't manifest until another chakra, more body based, is effected. Often times the imbalance can be treated in the lower chakras related to the imbalance, but if the primary cause is a crown chakra block and can often present severe, it is best to seek the help of someone familiar with the subtle energy systems and/or professionals that handle the type of symptoms being experiences.
When a client has an imbalance, many symptoms can come up. This is just to name a few:
- Sleep disorders
- Nervous system disorders
- Memory Loss
- Psychological Disorders
- Lack of direction or motivation
The People In Our Lives
This chakra is the one more influenced by outside people. People often will use our seventh chakra energy to influence us to buy things, covert to a belief system, or make lifestyle changes. If the influence is done from a pure, higher self, perspective, it might be a good thing. But you always want to check the motives of the outside influence and your reasons for taking in the information before making it your own.
Parents often block their children's seventh chakra from developing independently, because they want them to stay within their cultural comforts. The rules of life they are abiding by, they want their children to abide by. This is of course great, but if done with an oppressive hand, it can actually cause this chakra to under develop, leaving the individual to always look outside themselves for answers. The seventh chakra doesn't fully develop until after childhood and many different systems have different ideas of when that happens, but at any rate its growth is influenced throughout life.
The Balancing Act
So how do you balance all this out? Meditation is always a great way to tune into your energy systems.
But if you are not a big meditator, here are some other ideas.
- Check in with who you spend your time with, clean up your influences and make an effort to spend time with people that support your truth.
- Explore diversity and find ways to be comfortable around differences.
- Get to know yourself better. Explore what motivates you, what you love and what you need more deeply through journaling, discussion groups, therapy, etc.
ere is a video from Teal Swan about how to open your crown chakra.
Here are some affirmations for the crown chakra.
- "I am safe on planet earth.”
- “I easily connect with my spirit."
- “I am willing to be here and present in your body.”
If you find any resistance to those affirmations above, that is also a good indication that your root chakra is blocked. Dig in and find out why you are resistant and what you are telling yourself instead.
Often we are a cluster of pain programs and suffering. Natalie Merchant's "Break Your Heart" lyrics "don't spread the discontent, don't spread the lies" is excellent advice to move past that stage into one of contentment.
You have heard it a thousand times from me and other self-help guidance counselors to "think positive" or "love yourself first." Of course you know that is what you are supposed to do. So why aren't you doing it?
The Shame of Thinking Positively
Thinking positive isn't always well received by our peers and authority figures. Often when we come to our bosses with good news, they shame us into noticing what is broken and needs to be fixed. We get obsessed at looking at what isn't working as a way to try and encourage it to work.
Our peers perceive our positive thinking as naive or thoughtless. They see us taking our eyes away from what needs to be done to focus on the flakey behavior of "free thinkers" and rebels.
See if you can find your positive-thinking shamers and as kindly as you can, ask them to help you shift. Make them your biggest advocates for positive thinking. If they aren't up to the job, or you don't feel like you can ask them, work on releasing their opinion from the top of the meaningful pile. Try and reduce how seriously you take their opinion and know they are projecting their own limitations onto you.
Suffering to Deserve
Another thing we often do is "suffer enough to deserve." Sick enough to deserve help. Worked hard enough to deserve a break. Struggled enough to deserve something better.
Catch yourself "suffering to deserve." Shift it up and allow yourself permission to deserve from a different place. Deserve help because we all desire connection and to help each other. Deserve a break because you are always doing your best. Deserve something better because you have learned from your mistakes and are ready to learn from your successes too.
Expectations and Assumptions
You cannot pretend you don't feel bad, that is suppression of your energy. But what I am suggesting is to check in when you are stuck in automatic pilot with feeling bad. You can feel bad and then give yourself permission to feel good.
Even when you look around and don't see any good yet. This isn't a fake it activity. This is just about realizing that in what you expect to see is what you will see. If I suggest to you to notice all the blue cars on the road today, you will. Your mind enhances what you focus on. If you expect to see kindness and love from people, you will. Change up your expectations to find negative experiences lurking around every corner. Change up your assumptions about people and how you will be treated and see what happens next. This doesn't mean there won't be people who will hurt you or be rude, but your mind will hold onto the positive experiences more easily.
Here is more on how beliefs are driving your experiences from my Coaching Club videos.
Finding what authentically motivates you is the only way to keep going without burning out.Read More