Mirror, Mirror what do I need to learn today?
Have you ever noticed how much time you spend trying to convince someone of something you believe in? For example, your political views or perhaps you describe in detail how you came to a big decision. Maybe you are trying to explain to someone how you are doing "well" or spend time describing how something came about for the "better". Maybe you are just telling someone how they could lead a better life by allowing themselves to shine from underneath their self consciousness. It is as if we are trying to convince someone else of what we think, so they can turn around and confirm it for us. If they can't confirm it for us, we continue to struggle to explain, convince, describe, etc. in order to get them to see our way. Why can't we just be confident enough in ourselves not to have to explain our actions or describe our decision making process?
This goes beyond just trying to get someone to believe in what you do. Have you ever gone around telling everyone how "fine" you are despite something major happening to you? For example, if you lost your job and you tell everyone around you it is for the best, it will work out in the end, or you are excited for the new opportunities. Maybe you had a miscarriage and you tell people you can try again, or it wasn't meant to be. It is as if we are talking to ourselves too. Trying to convince ourselves that what we are saying IS what we believe or better yet, that if we tell the person in front of us, they will mirror back what we need (that they agree we will be better off, etc.) and that will in turn make us feel better.
My inspiration for you this week is to notice where you are telling others things, you too, need to hear. Then try and tell yourself them more often. If you find yourself telling someone else who lost their job it is for the better, also notice where you might need that same reality (even if you still have a job and are just nervous you will loose it). If you find yourself telling someone to be themselves and not worry about what other people think... tell yourself that too. Our world is a reflection of ourselves and if we take notice, we can create a very healing experience that brings us back to being who we were meant to be. Have fun seeing your reflection!