Comparing yourself to the world?
One of the biggest blocks to our happiness is comparing ourselves to others, or worse yet, comparing our children to others. When we compare ourselves to others we are expecting ourselves to have the same experience as someone else... which is impossible! No one has had the same experiences, with the same personality, the same way, ever. So why do we try and do this. Comparing ourselves to others generally makes us unhappy. It creates a sense of separateness from other people that is competitive and restrictive.
For example, lets say you are comparing your level of fitness to someone else down the street. You either wish you were as fit as them or maybe you are judging them for not being as fit as you. Either way, you have now created a gap between you and that other person that doesn't allow you to connect. Connecting to others is what heals us, makes us grateful for our lives and teaches us about diversity. Why would be want to block that off?
This is just one example, there are so many ways we compare ourselves to others. Sometimes it is to make us feel okay. "Well she drinks like a fish, so I am not even that bad." This may not create a gap with connection in the same way, but it creates a block. It connects us to a part of ourselves that we are afraid to let go of and we are trying to justify. For example, maybe you want more time with your husband or wife but you see you get more time than other people do with your spouse, so you shouldn't complain. This is a block to asking for what you need, which in turn, does create a block.
This nature to compare ourselves to each other also can lead to violence, distrust, and fear of being judged.
So, take a moment and notice where you might be comparing yourself to someone else. Maybe it is something simple or your whole life, but either way, notice what it is doing to your sense of center and self. See if you can just be okay with where you are and where they are, embracing the difference.
Wishing you a compassionate week.