I am trying to teach you something here!
We all know life is a challenge. We wouldn't have it any other way. How boring would life be if we knew everything that was coming or could easily overcome obstacles? The key is to acknowledge the challenges for what they are... co-creations of our lives. I know it is hard to see suffering and believe on some level that person created it for themselves. Of course they didn't do it on purpose, but there is a part of their divine intellegence that wants them to have this suffering experience. Something to learn from. This same thing comes to you. Some things in life, you can't do without suffering. Not because you WANT to suffer, but because you struggle with seeing life any other way unless something drastic comes along to change it. If we knew how, we could easily learn all things without suffering. But for what ever reason, we have set ourselves up to "learn the hard way" most of the time. How differnt would your life be if you viewed these challenges and suffering in your life as gifts rather than punishments? How would you recieve your challenges? What if you looked at it as an opportunity with an intention behind it? There is no random order of things. All things happen in perfect timing. The best way to cope with the challenging times is to say "what is the universe trying to bring me here?" "What gift am I to have that I could have no other way?"
Let me give you an example. Several years ago, my husband and I hit a "bump" in the road if you will. He did things, that at the time, I would have thought were unforgiveable. He didn't do anything TO me, but I surely felt like it was done TO me. I struggled with the victim role I was suddenly feeling in. I fought with it and struggled with it and begged the universe to explain itself to me. You know what... IT DID! I soon discovered that I was out of balance with my life. I was devoting my every waking hour to my kids, home and husband. Not a very balanced approach to life, because I left out a key ingredient... ME. Because I felt so victimized from my situation, I gave myself permission to focus on me. I found time to exercise, take classes, meditate more. I did all of things thing, at first, to spite my husband for not taking my gift of self sacrifice fully. Guess what, he didn't want it! He wanted me to be this well rounded person who first took care of me. I wouldn't have been able to do it, if at first, I hadn't felt justified in some way other than, I just need time for me. Now I have time for me, and it is great and everyone is happier. But it took this experience to show me "how" to give to me.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
What are you struggling with right now? Big or small... pick something you want to focus on learning from. Send it love an gratitude for trying to break through to you. Even if it is a struggle to send it gratitude, do what you can here. Then ask it, what are you trying to teach me? What am I suppose to be getting out of this experience. Then, just wait. You will find the answer in your life if you pay attention. It may not come to you in a meditation or as a "sign" but you will start to get hints. You only have to listen and don't doubt the coincidences.
The universe responds to us, we just don't always speak the same language. It is kind of like you are a baby, screaming for something. You don't even know what it is, all you know is you are uncomfortable. The universe has changed you, fed you and burped you and you are still screaming. You need to send clearer, better signals that the universe can understand. This means first, you have to check in with yourself and KNOW what you want to ask for. You are still going to be put down in a place you don't like sometimes. You may protest, but maybe the universe wants you to learn something from it first and then you will be moved again. I am getting the baby metaphore a lot lately, so honor yourselves with that newness that you once had see how it works in your life.
Happy exploring! Email me or comment here if you have questions or comments. I love the converstations with all of you!