The secret ingredient of success - YOU!
So often we spend our lives trying to fit in and conform to what people say they want from us. Most of the time, when we give people what they say they want, they still aren't happy. Why? Because what they really want is us, not some version of ourselves, modified to try and please them.
The people who can not handle us in our true, authentic form, are not meant to be in our lives. Why do we force this so much? Most of it is just training from childhood. "You are better off being liked."
"You will be more successful if you are liked."
Seriously, there is even a book out there called "How to win friends and influence people." Now this is true to an extent. You probably don't want to go around making enemies. However, sacrificing who you are in order to be something good to everyone doesn't work either. This is especially true in your professional lives. No matter what you do as a profession, if you aren't you, you are depriving the world of your gifts.
Yes going to school, training yourself, learning how to do things is important. But it doesn't stop there. You authentic twist on the topic is what makes it your gift.
Think about it. Doctors all go to school and get taught roughly the same thing. That does not make all doctors equal. The ones who add their personal touch to their business are typically the ones that people most enjoy. This goes for anything. Our personal touches is what makes our service to the world unique. If you can't authentically add you personal touch to what you do, perhaps you should look for a place in life where you can add your personal touch.
Where are you conforming? What are you putting out there to other people? Is it you, or a version of you that you think people want to see? How do you know they wouldn't like the real you better? You business may need that extra spark you have been hold back on giving. What are you afraid of in relation to being 100% you? Can you move past those fears and do it any way.
Pick one thing you know you are holding your authenticity back from. Look at it clearly and see if you can bring more of yourself into that activity. Pay close attention to what comes up when you try and do this. Sometimes it takes practice. It takes time to see that people won't react as harshly as you thought they would. No one is as hard on you as you are.
Once you start adding your personal secret ingredient, things will flow easier. You will be more successful with it. You will even enjoy it more! Give it a try and share your story.