Influences - what are they doing to your life?
Influences... the free dictionary defines this as "A power affecting a person, thing, or course of events, especially one that operates without any direct or apparent effort". We have so many influences in our lives which I think we are only consciously aware of about 10% of the time. It could be something obvious, like what your friend said to your yesterday or a blog you read. :) But it could also be something subtle, that you don't give much attention to. Since this definition says "without any direct or apparent effort" I would venture to guess most of the time you are responding to the influences without even knowing it. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with love, peace, abundance. The things you want. And when you aren't surrounded by those things, it is hard to GET surrounded by those things, sometimes. Because you are influenced by the energy around you. Time and time again I see people gravitating in clumps of friends and family that have the same energy around things. This is not always supportive, even when these are their apparent support systems. For example, the friend who tells you all guys are jerks and you will never find a good one, so you might as well settle for what you can get. Or the group of friends who all are struggling to be happy with their lives and sit around and complain together.
Don't get me wrong. I love to surround myself with people who get me and validate my struggles and don't tell me to "get over it" or "I am in control". But sometimes I need to be reminded of how reality is flexible and I am in control. If I was always just a confirmed victim by my support system, there shall I remain. So I want to make a conscious effort to surround myself with friends who encourage me to be the most whole person I can be. Who that it may change over time as we all grow.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Take a look at your influences in your life. Write them down. Are they supporting you in where you want to go in life? Are they helping you be the best you can be? If not, what can you do to shift the power this influence has in your life? This doesn't mean you have to disown people. You have the power to interact with these influences any way you want, if you are aware. Notice these influences and take what you need, leave the rest.
Part two... as you are influence, you too are the influencers. How are you influencing people? Are you supporting them to live their best lives?
This doesn't just have to be people either. Think of other influences as well. For example electronics, work, the food you eat, the paint on your walls, the lighting in your room, the clothes you wear. It is all influencing you and those around you.
Interact with me on Facebook! I would love to hear what you think about this. Any of your own insights would be gladly consumed by the rest of us. :)