My inspiration came early this week, with the annual meeting with the teachers at my son's school. Anyone who knows me, knows this is a story that goes on and on and is one with many lessons for me and my family in it. The lesson I am gleaning from it this week is the art of being yourself. What do you do if the world has a hard time with accepting who you are? I see it one of two ways, you either go extreme on just not caring what the world thinks and just being as unacceptable as possible or you over compensate and be what ever the world wants you to be. Either way, it is difficult to just remain the self that you are in the face of this judgement. We may eventually heal ourselves back to our authentic selves, but normally, along the way we have been told at least some part of that authenticity is not acceptable.
Why do we do that to each other and our kids? We have bought into the programs that if you are THIS way then you will be liked, successful, lovable, etc. and if you are NOT that way, then you are not liked, successful, lovable, etc. Who wrote the book on all of this? Who has the magic code? We all do! But only for ourselves. Not anyone else.
I think this is why releasing judgement is so important. Judgement keeps us from being ourselves even if we are just judging other people. I called this "promises" because we tell ourselves if we act a certain way we will be promised success. Does that really work?
Insightful Inspirations of the week
Be aware of what behaviors you are acting out just because you were told you should. Notice what behaviors you are doing for some reward, that may never come at all. Notice what lies you have told yourself for promises that don't seem to be coming at all. See if you can lighten up on yourself for a week on what you can and can not show the world. The more of yourself you show to the world, the more amazing you will feel and I think you will be shocked to see how the world responds.