As the newest work "toy" arrived for my husband and everyone, including me, is gathering around to see... it got me to thinking. All of these things we bring into our life to distract us can often become intimacy blockers. The new "toy" was an iPad by the way. Intimacy to me means that you are vulnerable yet safe, independent yet never alone, understood yet alway as mystery that wants to be discovered. You are all of these things with someone else. This doesn't always involve a sexual relationship. But either way it is a scary place to commit to for most, because it is the place you desire to be so much but fear to loose even more.
So because of these back an forth struggles, we often find ourselves distracting the intimacy. We have electronics for one. For example, laptops, iphones, televisions, radios, etc. We also have the less obvious things such as excessive working, over indulgence in hobbies, chosen "obligations", etc. There are emotions that are hiding under these activities we busy ourselves with. If we stop too long, they might surface and may not be received.
However, when you are able to put down the distractions and truly be vulnerable with another person, you find great rewards there. Magnitism, love, acceptance and pure essence can all be found at the core of this intimacy. Five intimate minutes is worth 30 quick, distracted hours.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
What are you doing to distract yourself from intimacy? It could be with a friend, a lover, a pet, or maybe just yourself. Are you able to truly be with that relationship. Sharing yourself 100% and allowing yourself to connect with the thing that binds you together, the oneness that holds us all together? Put down your electronics, your obligations, your hobbies for just a moment this week. Try 5 - 10 minutes a day to just connect. Find your intimacy blockers and put them in their proper place when it is truly time to connect.
What are your intimacy blockers?