Choosing to be happy
I have blogged a lot about perspectives and perceptions and how they can be changed to change your experience in any given situation. But what if no matter what you do, you can't think positively? What if you are a totally connected person most of the time, but today you just can't see the good in the world? Is something wrong with you? Do you have a block? Are you loosing your enlightenment?!! :) No, of course not. The human experience is designed to be a range of experiences. The good, the bad, the hard, the easy... all wrapped up into one giant box called life. You can't always choose to be happy about where you are. If you were in the Japan earthquakes right now, would you be able to just choose your way to happiness? If you were in the Congo witnessing inhuman acts of violence, would you just choose to be happy? NOPE! That is ridiculous.
The key to all of this is that you choose to be happy when it make sense and you allow other emotions to take over when they make more sense. Here is how this works. If you are on vacation and things seem to just keep going wrong, you luggage is lost, your flight is delayed, your tired and hungry and all there is to eat is crappy airport food. In this situation you CAN choose to be happy. You are on vacation for goodness sake. You may not be doing what you want, but you are safe, you are sheltered and you have the potential to be somewhere great soon. So make the best of it and go exploring the airport. :)
Here is another example, let's say you are being judged by someone else for something they think you did wrong. You try and apologize, you try to explain yourself, but all this person wants to do is make you feel like crap about yourself. Time to choose happiness? Not in my opinion. Time to feel your feelings, set your boundaries and remove yourself from a toxic situation as fast as you can and THEN choose happiness. Your negative emotions are not meant to be suppressed, they are a guide, telling you what is going on. Listen to them, weigh your options, and then choose a route that leads you back to your choice of happiness.
How do you tell which experience is a choose happiness experience or feel the negative experience? You just need to spend sometime asking yourself this. You will know. Does it help me to feel negative right now? Is there something else I am being called to do? Can I change things? Is there a call to change things or just wait?
Insigthful Inspiration for the week
Choose happiness when you can this week, but also pay attention to those negative emotions. What are those negative feelings trying to tell you? Is there something you can do to change the situation you are in? Does it make sense to just try and change your perspective or change the situation? You decide.