Death, a break from the training
Over the last three weeks I have been helping my family stand vigil with my grandfather who passed away on June 6. He hasn't been feeling well and became very ill about three weeks ago. Over the last three weeks we have all been through trying to figure out what was wrong, what choices to make to fix it, and then accepting the only resolution was death of his physical body where our role turned us into, what appeared to be, helpless hand holders. For me this process brought up all the things I already know to be true in a way that really had no physical resolution. My work typically involves helping people live better lives or learn to enjoy the one they have. I have even worked with people who have already passed. But never have I had the opportunity to work with someones soul through the death process. I learned a lot! The whole thing ended with the tremendous gift my grandfather gave me, in allowing me to be there, standing with him, staring in his eyes, as he left his body. I say this is a gift, because I got to see his fight to leave his physical body suddenly merge back with the togetherness I know we all come from. I got to see him leave his heavy physical reality behind to rejoin himself and all things in the light that is the realm I work with daily. I got to see him still exist beyond the reality I am currently in. Which makes me a stronger healer and allows my grief to be backed up by work with the healing of the soul.
The biggest thing I had reconfirmed in this process is that the physical realm, for us, is a soul expansion. A school for us to practice, play and explore things we can not when we are in the lightness of spirit. The heaviness of our physical body is kind of like working with resistance weights. You build strength because of the resistance. The fight to get into the planet is a unique and amazing story. The birth process is like a major struggle to enter into the physical realm. The death process (for some) is a similar process. The labor to let go of all the heaviness you have picked up over your lifetime and let go of the realities you have come to know so well. My grandpa worked through his process of relearning to trust the connection beyond himself. It was amazing to watch and something I could only hold space for, nothing I could rush him through by "healing" him enough. At one point I even saw him get mad at his angels and loved ones for trying to rush him. They reassured him that they were just there for him and he could leave when he was ready.
The Hospice team we worked with even told us that the life you lead and the things you have undone before you go, affects how you die and the process of it. It is about allowing the process of our life and death to take place, no forcing anything, but just easing things into a space where all things are possible.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Allow yourself to acknowledge the process of your life and your choice to lead it the way you do. No one else, no even your guides, are in charge of your free will. Empower yourself to see everything that comes to you as your spirit building choice. You don't question if lifting weights or running through the park is good for you. You don't scream at the weight machine and ask it why it is making things so heavy! So why do you question the challenges that come to you? Why do you scream at the universe "why are you doing this to me?" Just get on that challenge, pump yourself up and feel the strength you gain from facing things head on.
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