You see me as you
I have always known, because of my perspective, that people don't see me, they see me through their filter. Probably the same goes for me and everyone. But this is important to remember! Because as you are projecting on to someone else who they are, remember you have no idea! You are seeing who they are from who you are. To add to this conversation, your subconsious mind does not like to be wrong. So if you believe a person is xyz because of your filters, you will create a reality of people who mirror what you believe. Your mind can't handle it to be any other way. The problem with this is, that we believe what we see is all that there is and anywhere we turn, it is proven to be true! Mainly because our subconsious mind has made sure that we are surrounded with people that validate whatit believes.
When someone comes into your space that doesn't validate your beliefs, you do one of two things. You either a) kick them out immediately from your life or b) you project on to them what you think is "really going on" inside them.
Eitherway, they are still validating your reality too. Now, what if, a person comes into your reality and refuses to play the game. Refuses to let you reject them or project onto them? What then?
I experimented (some what accidently) with this concept recently. Boy it amps up before it calms down. The subconsious fights, struggles and projects like crazy. It creates a victim out of the person it is controlling and makes the invalidator WRONG and MEAN! Now refusing to be WRONG and MEAN, I endured a bit to get to the otherside.... but I think I did get there. I think what happened was I won over the subconsious! I created a new path way in people that said reality can be different! Wahoo! Granted, I think. We will see...
What reality are you refusing to believe in. Maybe it is a good one, that would be good for you to believe in, but you just can't find someone to stand up to your subconsious. Here is an idea, maybe you can stand up to your subconscious. If you want to change a belief system... then do! Change it and see what happens. Fight the need to validate your old way and find ways to validate your new way. That is the meaning of Ghandi's quote, "Be the change you want to see." It means you have to just live it and fight through all the realities you have built to back up your old way of thinking and break through to the new way! Once you do this once, you will realize your own power to mainifest your reality. Give it a shot.