Neutrality as an act of presence
Eckhart Tolle has brought to our awareness the power of presence in our lives through his books such as The Power of Now. He has outlined how we cause ourselves misery by worrying about stories of the past or ideas of the future. But hidden in that wisdom is a message of neutrality.
Neutrality basically means not to take sides. When you apply it to looking at your life and the people in it, you gain a whole new power you didn’t know how to tap into before. It helps you shift both your perceptions and perspective. Read more about the difference and concepts of perceptions and perspectives on my previous blog.
Neutrality is really about mindfulness. It is about connecting your mind, body and spirit to the truth of a situation, rather than the stories around it. It allows you to step back from the unspoken rules of life and observe what is happening around you without judgment.
This stuff is going mainstream. Check out Rep. Tim Ryan talking about the need to teach mindfulness to our children.
Stepping back and paying attention with a calm and aware mind is key to neutrality.
Bending the rules
Remember the rules are only the rules because we all agree to them. We can change them at any minute either within ourselves or externally as a group. The key to this shift is not to convince each other to change, but to mindfully look at the situation and step back to see a new perspective you never saw before.
Rules were written in the past for the past and some of them need our present perspectives to realize it's time to change them. When we turn our "autopilot" off and really look with fresh new eyes, solutions we would have never thought of bubble to the surface. We can easily weigh pros and cons of all sides of a situation and decide with clarity from there.
Human beings are natural rule breakers. We always want to prove we can do new things. When we do this with mindfulness and neutral perspectives we see more possibilities than we ever could from our judgment space.
Do not mistake neutrality as a way to disconnect. You still care about the outcome. You still want the best for all involved. You are just using your awareness to bring in more possibilities.
Open your heart as you listen with neutrality. Understand that everyone is doing the best they can the best way they know how. No one gets up in the morning hoping to do his or her worst. If you keep that in mind, then you are able to look at situations, especially conflict, with love and acceptance first.
We are all seeking ways to be more peaceful and feel better about ourselves. If we step back from judgment and employ neutrality more, we put ourselves in alignment with harmonious situations. As we go looking for good vibrations rather than judgment, we find them. Go looking for them.
Here is another video on judgement.