The term “self-care” is often misunderstood as being synonymous with selfishness. Many hardworking people who are no stranger to self-sacrifice find it hard to see where they could fit self-care into their lives while they’re trying to provide for others. But the truth is, not taking the time to take care of ourselves can lead to exhaustion and high amounts of stress, and it can strain our relationships. In other words, taking care of yourself helps you take care of others. Here are four self-care tips that will help you be the best version of yourself—both for yourself and for others.Read More
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Time is just another tool in your perceptual toolbox. Play around with various time keeping tools, blocking off times of day for specific tasks you might not otherwise felt you could get to. You will seem, all of the sudden you have time for that thing you never thought you would.Read More
It seem like a life long process to get past our fears. It starts when we are babies and continues through our life, dictating our actions and keeping us stuck in the search for peace from it. Our minds are very powerful and fear can be something that stops our manifesting minds in its tracks.Read More
Chakras are just a way to describe energy centers in our bodies. We use different sources of energy in order to be and manifest in the world. There are several different schools of thought regarding chakras, so I am writing from my own experiences and awareness, not from a specific school of thought.
By paying attention to energy fields, you are sending an intention to yourself and your energy to rise to a conscious level of manifestation. You can then use that awareness and intention to refine your energy fields and become a more conscious creator.
Pay attention to your root chakra and see what you can manifest by paying more attention to it. This is the chakra that is at the base of your spine and in its ideal state, spins clockwise in a red color. This is where you store information about survival.
What we think we need and what we actually need can be two different things. Here are common influencers of the root chakra:
· Life and death
· How we felt in early childhood about life
· A sense of community or belonging here
What I've found in this chakra as I have read people is mostly about money, home life, losing children, and loss in general. I have seen all kinds of things stir up someone's survival space that you might not expect. But primarily, you can think of it this way . . .what do you think you couldn't survive without? Food, water and air are obvious answers. But really think about this question. What worries you the most in regard to feeling you can survive life?
This chakra is really helpful to clear out and balance if you experience a lot of fear or anxiety.
It is also very helpful to focus on when you want to feel strong, centered, and capable.
It is most beneficial to focus on what you want to feel, not what you don't want to feel. So if you have identified an anxiety pattern or fear, ask yourself first "What is this fear trying to bring to me?" Once you hear what you are trying to receive, recognize this as an unmet need this negative emotion is trying to meet. Then focus on that unmet need that the negative emotions are calling attention to and try to find ways to gain what you need.
For example, if you're feeling angry about something someone said, when you dig into the anger you find that you want stronger boundaries and your anger is providing that. With that awareness you can focus on the boundaries and not the anger.
Nothing is as important as we make it, especially if we are feeling disconnected, weary, scared, or just plain bad. Dig into the lies you tell yourself and see if you can let go of some of them. See if you can shrink the story down in your mind and take it piece by piece rather than the whole thing having to be solved right now.
The physical symptoms of a root chakra imbalance are easy to notice. When it is balanced you feel safe, calm and ready to tackle anything and your body feels good.
When you have an imbalance, many symptoms can come up. This is just to name a few:
· Lower back problems
· Rapid heart rate
· Fight or flight sensations
· Shallow breathing
· Numbness or pain in the lower limbs
When you body is talking to you about an imbalance though pain or discomfort, give it attention in a loving way. We often try and shame our bodies back into functioning properly. Instead, love it first and ask what it needs. Give it gratitude for holding onto the imbalance and making you aware of it.
You can't make positive changes if you are disgusted with or shaming yourself. First you need to accept yourself and know you are doing the best you can, and then go from there.
THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
Believe it or not, people can plug into our chakras and draw off energy from us. They can do it to us while in our presence or not.
If you have children, they can end up in there because we feel we wouldn't survive losing them. If the children are young and rely on you for survival, it makes sense that they are connected to you there. Once they get older, you want them to anchor into their own sense of safety, independent from what you can offer them.
We are tribal people and the root chakra can be influenced by who we consider our tribe to be or how we interact with those around us. That tribal sense can lead us to give our power away or take it from others.
Other people end up in this chakra if they tell us we can't survive without them or if you think someone can't survive without you. It is a much healthier act of love to encourage self-reliance and independence in the survival space. The tribe can work together in the survival space, but from an energy standpoint, you can only draw on your own source energy when working together.
The Balancing Act
So how do you balance all this out? Meditation is always a great way to tune into your energy systems.
But if you are not a big meditator, here are some other ideas.
· Surround yourself with people that make you feel safe.
· Create a sanctuary in your home you can go to that represents safety when you are feeling out of balance (it doesn't have to be big).
· Eat root vegetables.
· Connect with nature and express gratitude for the earth.
· Chant LAM (sound for the root chakra).
· Visualize roots reaching into the earth and grounding you here.
There are many videos and meditations out there. I love the ones with nice sounds. Here is one.
Here are some affirmations for the root chakra.
· "I am safe."
· "The world supports me and wants me here."
· "I am grounded."
· "I love my body being in the physical world."
If you find any resistance to those affirmations above, that is also a good indication that your root chakra is blocked. Dig in and find out why you are resistant and what you are telling yourself instead.
In my office I carry some awesome sprays that help with balancing the chakras and give you something to carry with you. Let me know if you want to try one at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Happy balancing. Book an appointment below if you need further assistance with balancing your energy.
Unemployment, divorce or any other life crisis where you feel rejected can be devastating to the manifesting space. If you let it, these kinds of experiences can leave you feeling victimized, wounded and unworthy to have the world work in your favor.
There are periods when we can also get convinced people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We get angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.
But this doesn't have to be a blow to the manifester inside and in fact can actually strengthen your abilities to create an authentic life.
Sometimes we establish relationships with people based on something we give them and when we test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work and endless talent. You get the job and then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over-promise and the level of work you could sustain long term does not match up with the expectations you have set..
You overextended your energy to prove yourself instead of standing in your authentic value and making that work for you. Then your work quantity tarts to go down, and although it might be more reasonable, it isn't what you promised originally and your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like "what the heck, I have been killing myself for this person."
Yeah... and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to your friendships, your relationships, anything. Did you promise something you couldn't sustain? Why didn't you just promise what you could authentically do in the first place and accept that that is enough? You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, rather than burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don't fit.
Counting on others
Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn't there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy. Other people will put "fix it" energy in our space in a time we need to just be with something and so sometimes we need space, even if we don't want it.
It is in the realization of your own strength and understanding of yourself that you find your life to be sustainable. When you are able to show up in ease and grace and have the world around your support that, then you are moving into authentic manifestation.
No victims, only volunteers
Each scenario is not a punishment to victimize you (yet again). It is there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self and highlight the beliefs and situations that you give your power to that are no longer serving you. These situations show up to help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears and self worth issues that have brought you here in the first place. Once you do that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.
Manifesting in your truth
Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment. Where do you feel rejected? What is coming up in this rejection? Do you feel alone? Abused? Used? Under valued? Why is this a bad feeling for you? Is this true? Are you really being abused, used, under valued?
If you are, why are you allowing that to happen? How is that serving you? Are you getting false acceptance from this behavior? Maybe you would like to change it but don't know how. It's okay, just notice it for now and remember that you want to do something different. Keep that awareness and see how things shift. If you aren't feeling abused, etc. then why are you letting yourself get worked up about it? Is it keeping you from looking at the real issue for yourself?
Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist it and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it? Why waste a good opportunity to learn?
We are natural storytellers. We love to pass on information through stories. The story tellers of indigenous tribes are generally held in very high esteem. We read books, watch movies and have conversations revolving around telling stories.
There is a risk with passing on stories, and that is misinformation. We tend to pass on stories no matter what their validity. If it feels real to us, it is real. This is why we have websites like Snopes, so we can check out facts or find out we have been duped. This Slate article speaks of a mythical story of panic, reportedly caused by Orsen Welles' fake broadcast on a Martian invasion. This article emphasizes to the fact that we can can pass on untrue stories for a very long time.
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
How does this play out with subtle energies? Well, not only do we tell our stories to others, but the stories we tell ourselves are the ones we can get most duped by. First, because we generally don't share our full stories to others we don't get called out on how false they are. Second, because the voice we hear loudest is our own. Whatever the story is we tell ourselves, is the story we believe, defend and create in our lives.
For me, the story of how much time I have versus how much time I think I need is never in balance. It isn't an uncommon story. I share this story with many others around me, which makes it worse. We all perpetuate the time struggle.
When a story becomes an addition
As I become more stressed, I start to spin my story deeper and deeper. Anyone who tries to convince me that my story is unreasonable is likely to get a defensive response and I weave the further the story in order to convince the other person that my stress is valid. This does me no good on an energy level, but I am hooked and I do it anyway. It is like a drug and I lose my power to it.
As I have worked with people over the years, I have seen clear energetic addictions in most people's lives, some are healthy, others are not. Most of it has to do with how you learned to be in the world. What your parents, teachers and peers showed you your life was like.
As much as you can blame your parents or society for your imbalances it is ultimately your awareness and intention to change that bringing you into balance again. For whatever reason, your soul wanted to learn that lesson by being in it and then bring yourself out of it. So now is the time to change the story. Start finding new ways to tell yourself how to get things done or engage with your friends.
Some other examples of negative energetic addictions include drama, anger, sadness, hopelessness, victimization and "work." You may even use these states of being to motivate you. Motivate you to go to work, make a change or just get out of bed in the morning. Paying attention is always the key to these things.
Take a moment to notice your energy addictions. Where do you spend a lot of your time? In a state of peace, stress, anger, etc.? Is it possible that you are addicted to this frequent state of being? Take a minute to make a pact with yourself to notice that this energy is a choice. Do you want to choose differently today? Give it a try. Tell yourself you want a new story.
You can also ask some follow-up questions, for example, is this a mental addiction or an emotional one? Where do I store this story in my body? Can I get the same results with a more positive spin on this story? I would love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share.
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My internet connection has been down all day, which surprisingly is why I have time to write this blog. (kind of ironic) But the month of May was not a balanced month for yours truly. I traveled to Australia (in too short of time period to adjust either way) and just had too much going on in all areas of my life. I knew I was out of balance, however for some reason I couldn’t seem to slow it down. I kept saying “next week will be better”. Well now it is official, this month of June is better! I am returning to “normal” and bringing myself into alignment again. Why did I let myself get so out of whack, primarily because I was experimenting with time and how much I could pry in, but also working on my ever present lesson of boundaries and saying no. I do learn a lot from my slides out of bounds, so I am grateful when I can return to myself and see the other end for what it really was. It also reminds me how good it feels to be in balance and encourages me to stay there.
I can’t say I have found downtime yet. I am still working on it, but I now understand why I need it. The idea that our whole energy system can just go, sleep, go, sleep is not how we were built. We were designed to follow a cycle, a more gradual coming online of ourselves and a more gradual return to rest. The bell curve of our energy rather than peaks and valleys, is key.
Without this down time, we don’t have time to collect ourselves up, reflect on what is going on, or listen to our subtle energetic messages within us and around us. It is like being able to see the scenery, it can only be done when you slow down enough. That doesn’t mean you always stop, you may have to go quickly to get to the place you want, but then slow down and enjoy it.
Time for some scheduled downtime. Give yourself some time to just stop and be. Time to rest, take inventory on how you are feeling and reflect on the gratitude for all you have done (or survived). Downtime can be whatever you want, as long as it slows you down enough that you can pay attention and feel rejuvenated afterward. Give it a shot. As always, I encourage you to share what you do for downtime. It might encourage someone else. Share on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/insightfulinspirations.
I have been so busy that I haven't had time to blog about my news! I have published a book! Insightful Inspirations, conversation starters with your authentic self. http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000531426/Insightful-Inspirations.aspx This book is a compilation of blogs, work with others and just general wisdom I have recieved. It is designed to be held in your hand, holding a question in your mind and then open it up to some perspective. I hope to have a card deck that goes with it one day. The artist who did my cover, Stephanie Ingraham with Siyo, will be doing that artwork.
I have to admit that I was pretty nervous to put this book out. Even though I have had it written for over two years, there is just so much exposure with putting this out. I have already found one typo, despite having several proofs and am not sure I like how it printed with the questions on the back of the page. But the gift of this experience is that it is a perfect healing opportunity for my perfection issues! It doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful. That is the amazing gift I will find here, how to just trust and accept my imperfections.
On the flip side, I am even more worried it will do well! :) Fear of success I guess. But part of me worries that I won't have time and won't appreciate the exposure. Again, another amazing opportunity to face my fears and heal. I am catching myself saying "It is just a little book" or "Yeah, no big deal". Wow, who knew I would have such a hard time embracing my accomplishment! I am releasing this issue as well and look forward to whatever this brings.
I have been using the book on my own since I received it and I have to say, I love having it in a format I can hold in my hand. It is so much fun to use! (If I do say so myself.) So I hope you all will take a moment to check it out and find as much value out of it as I do.
What have you delayed putting out into the world because you are afraid of having it fail? Or maybe you are afraid of it suceeding! What is the worst that can happen? What is the best that can happen? Is it worth the risk?
If you have already faced something like this, share with us. We can all learn from you.
We are finding it hard to trust anything any more. What once seemed certain is no longer and what someone tells us is going on can't be trusted. Gone are the days of being able to trust blindly. You can't look to others for the truth. Is all lost? Are we victims of a society that is gone wrong? Or maybe we are shifting to an age where we no longer look outside of ourselves to find the truth. We are shifting to the only thing we can trust is ourselves. However we don't even trust that! When we are making this shift to having to trust ourselves first we get resentful, angry and blame each other for this shift. We fight it and blame others "damn you, now I have to listen closer to myself next time!"
However, what if you could trust everything outside yourself because you could trust yourself, with 100% certainty, that you are always aligning with your highest good? What if you could see the wisdom of your ways without fear of mistakes, being taken advantage of, or going down a path you never intended? You can!
When you are in alignment with yourself, listening to your internal wisdom, seeing the beauty of your life from the connected eyes of trusting yourself, you see a world that free. You open up to your experiences because you aren't afraid of them. You experience things to the highest possible level because you trust your judgement of when to stop without second guessing. You engage fully in relationships without fear of misunderstanding another's intentions and getting hurt.
How do I trust myself on this level, you ask? Well, it starts with being willing to try to stop thinking of the concept of self trust is bad! It is the only thing you have, but when you have it, everything else can be trusted too. You have been doing it backwards. Start taking time to tune in and pay attention to your gut.
Start making a habit to listening to your gut. Start working on the issues that keep you from that trust in yourself. If you aren't trustworthy, why not? If you can't trust you, how can you expect anyone else to and how can you trust anyone else? I am not saying the voices in your head are all correct. But if you start to listen, you can start to tell the difference between what is good guidance and was isn't. This is one of the biggest questions you can ask yourself, can I be trusted? If you can't, time to find out why. Make a change so you can freely live your life without blame of others and without fear of yourself?
Stress is a common word used to describe a condition that seems to be perpetual these days. It is intense, it is strong and it is relentless! As I take on my stress I look into the energy that is stored inside myself and often times I discover one pervasive thing... too many fractions of time inside myself. I ultimately discover that what I am in resistance to is the present moment BECAUSE I am storing up too much past and future to vibrate well with right now.
Let me put it another way. The thing that has me going in this stressful moment is contributing mental space to too many things at once, none of which are going on right now. I may be keeping a task list in my head for the week, thinking about what to make for dinner, what I am going to say tomorrow in that meeting with the teacher, how I am going to handle the problem at work, etc. You can see it adds up quickly! I may add to it the reeling over something that happened last week in a conflict I had and where is there any room for what is happening right now? There isn't! Since that is the only place I am at any given time, stress is my gauge, my warning light saying "HELLO! You are not in your body, inhabiting the moment you are in your head in five different places at once."
This doesn't end well my friends. Stress is known to cause physical issues, relationships problems, dysfunctional family dynamics, accidents... you name it. All to do one thing... WAKE YOU UP! Make you see now. Do you need an accident to help you put down your list? NO! So, just do it.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Put down your list. Write it out if you must, but bring yourself into the moment we call now. Visualize yourself releasing time from all spaces within yourself making room for the present. Request gentler ways to see the moment and then pay attention to them. You can worry about the past and future all at once, but it isn't going to change a thing about them. But if you focus all your efforts on right now... you can do anything you want with it.
When you listen to recorded meditations you often are told to feel your body. Feel your feet, your legs, etc. This slows down and distracts the mental self. It gives it something to do. It also brings you into awareness of yourself, reminding you of yourself in the separate body, because we are often unconsciously melding with the world. It helps you bring yourself back to the parts that are you with helps with centering and grounding, two things essential for your energetic health. It is often said in metaphysics, where your attention goes energy flows. So I would suppose the opposite is true, where your attention doesn’t go energy doesn’t flow. What would happen to your body, life, energy if you just shifted this one thing? Started flowing energy to a part of your body that is frequent left out. What would happen if every morning for 1 minute, you focus on bringing energy to place inside of you? Why not experiment and see… I am not going to tell you what to expect, but trust me, even the littlest of changes in your energy awareness can have big effects. Pain in those places does not have to be the only way for it to get attention.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
But my blog for you today is not only to remember to breathe and feel your body throughout the day, but to notice what you don’t notice. Pay attention to the parts of your body you ignore or reject. The parts of you, you really don’t allow your consciousness to. Maybe it is your feet or maybe it is your belly because you don’t like the way it looks. It could be your back because when you think about it, it hurts. Just make a mental note of the part of your body that is most ignored. Then spend one minute a day sending loving energy to that place. Visualizing energy moving around this ignored spot in your body. Then pay attention to any shifts that occur. As always, you are welcome to share your experiences.
My 10 year old son called me from school this week to tell me that he cut his face on the playground. I asked him if his glasses were broken... no... I asked if he need to come home or go to the doctor... no... So then I gave him what he really called for, which was mommy sympathy. :) I didn't feel the pain for him, or cry for him that it happened. (Empathy) I just told him I was sorry that happened and asked him how he was and gave him my love. (Sympathy) As you are out in the world engaging with people, it is important to know how to tell the difference between compassion, sympathy, empathy and all things in between.
Empathy is rarely helpful, although many of us are empaths and, without trying, feel what the other people are feeling. The reason empathy is not helpful is because it just drags you down into what that person is feeling and offers no help, guidance, love or support. I like to refer to this as getting into the mud with someone to try and get them clean. Now you both are dirty and you are getting nowhere.
Sympathy can be helpful and often times it is all we really want when we tell our stories. When we complain about work, family, friends, etc. We aren't saying "fix this for me" we are simply saying "listen and sympathize". Yes, on a soul level you are choosing this experience, but at the same time, sometimes our choices suck. :) This is often where relationships get strained. One person says "they never listen", mainly because they rarely sympathize. Often times we are trying to offer advice or fix someone, when all they want it an ear.
Compassion can be a tricky one. We use compassion in a variety of ways. We can have compassion for the Tsunami victims in Japan. We can have compassion for our dying grandmother. We can even have compassion for our children, when they are struggling with the oh so common social issues. But what is compassion really?
Wikipedia says "Compassion (from Latin: "co-suffering") is a virtue —one in which the emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy (for the suffering of others) are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnectedness and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood." I have blogged about compassion many times as I see it as a critical part to our human exisitance, experience and spiritual growth.
But quite honestly, I see it differently than the latin word of co-suffering. I see it as being able to understand someone on a deeper level and to not condone their actions, but understand how they are feeling anyway. You don't condone a murderer, but after learning about his abusive childhood, you might gain some compassion for him as a damaged individual who had no other skill. I see compassion as the ability to see each other as connected, human and flawless in our flaws in our wisdom of "oneness".
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Check in with your interactions this week. See yourself from the perspective of these concepts. Are there any adjustments you want to make in your interactions? Play around with it, see what you can and can not offer out easily. Maybe it is hard for you not to try and "fix". Maybe it is hard for you not to empathize and suffer with others. Make note of where you are and point yourself in the direction you want to be. As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences.
Resistance is an interesting part of the energy field. I use it in a lot of ways in my work. It tells me when someone is believing what they say, for example " I want this new job." I can tell if there is resistance to that thought or not. I can tell if they are able to handle energy healing they are receiving, getting a little push back or resistance when they can. I also use it to find programs inside people, that are no longer working. For example, I MUST work a job in XYZ because that is what I have always done, but I can't seem to get a job there any more. This shows me that you might be being asked to look for something new, but you are resisting. It also identifies that there is fear there about letting go for some reason. Sometimes we have a hard time reading our own resistance or we logic it out and explain why we should be in resistance. But if you pay attention, you can find where you can move into flow and out of resistance. Sometimes we are pushed so hard by the helping forces we can no longer resist because we have no energy left to do so, or things have gotten so hard we have no choice. But you don't have to get there before you stat paying attention.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Look for places you feel resistance. Are you trying to do things the same way as always, only to be met with unexpected results or failure? Are you trying to push yourself too hard? Ask yourself where you can let go of this struggle a bit. Find out why you do it, i.e. because you always have, because you don't know any other way, because you are afraid not to. Spend a moment making an agreement with yourself to pay attention to this resistance and gently allow it to change. Resistance is only helping to show you where you are not in the flow. You can move out of it and return to the flow if you only pay attention.
I was in VitalHearts resiliency training this week. I highly recommend it to anyone who is in the healing fields themselves such as nursing, social work, etc. The concepts in it are practices I use and teach to my healing students already, presented in a very practical manner for the "typical" person. In this training, someone told a story about someone in her office trying to offer help that wasn't asked for, but they thought was needed. She asked this person if that person even wanted this type of help, and he said no, but she needed it. It inspired me to blog about it! We all do this, offering help we think people need it, not really asking if they even want our help. Maybe they don't want to change, or maybe they don't want to change the way we think they should want to. Yet we persist in our trying and resent them for not being able to accept our help.
Insightful Inspriation for the week
Check in with yourself. Are you offering someone help that isn't asking you for it. Are you trying to "fix" someone in a way that maybe they don't want to be fixed? Is it causing resentment? Notice what you are doing and try and release you need to help in this way. Offer help where you it is wanted and back off where it isn't. It is nothing personal, we are all just only ready for what we are ready for.
Maybe someone is even doing this to you. If this is happening to you, rather than by you (or both) maybe you need to gratefully thank them for their help, but inform them that you aren't interested in changing in the way they want you to.
Transitions - movement, passage, or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change as defined by dictionary.com. This is the primary time for all energetic things to go out of whack and the crazy thing is, we are always in transition. So what does that mean for our energy? It means it is time to be aware of why it goes out of whack to begin with.
When you are in a time of transition, for example moving to a new house, new job, new relationship, etc. you are feeling unclear about where you are headed and nevous about what you are leaving behind. It is like a gap. But the gap is where the freedom lies. Right before you start that new job, you can release old patterns of being at work and start fresh. Right before you move to a new house, you can go through your things and clear out the things you no longer need. This is a excellent time to reevaluate, slow down and recreate. You are not yet in an automatic pattern again! What a great opportunity for awareness.
Transitions don't have to be big either and you could even just be going through a transition within yourself that no one else even knows about. Maybe you are deciding to eat differently or think differently, maybe you are even deciding to just breath differently. :) These are all little opportunities to pay attention and make any small adjustments you would like to set yourself on the forward path.
Now what throws you off in times of transitions? Resistance, not being present, trying to hard, just to name a few (links back to older blogs about these topics I frequently visit). The key to the transition is to pay attention to everything that shows up in the gap. Your fears, you struggles, your thoughts, your friends and family's thoughts are all things to notice because they are hints as to where you are headed next if you don't pay attention to them now.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
What transition are you fighting with right now? Are you trying to close the gap and "get on with it" rather than being present with the time in between?Or maybe just the opposite and you are struggling to stay in the in between because you are afraid of what is on the other side. Pay attention, these are fears and patterns you have carried with you for a long time. You can clean your energetic closet during this time as preparation for what is to come next. There is nothing to predict or plan for on the other side yet. Take the transition to make the next steps the solid ones you want.
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As I do my work on this level I come to understand adversity seems to be the human condition available for all us to go to, if we choose. If our lives are lucky enough to have food, shelter, and cars, we create new adversities to face such as unemployment, abuse, addictions, etc. It seems to me that adversity is always available for us to have if we so choose. As I always love to define words, just because it really helps highlight the issue, Meriam-Webster dictionary defines adversity as: a state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty or adverse fortune. I heard an inspiration on Marianne Williamson's Miracle Thoughts podcast, from the Oprah Spirit Network, about Women being empowered. I am probably going to butcher the summary, but what I heard was stop saying you are not empowered and take your power. It is there for you to have (if you live in countries where women have equal rights, but I would venture to guess this stands for where ever you are).
This is so true for most of us. We go around saying how empowered we want to be, how hard we have it and we want it to be easy. We focus on our adversities and not on the miracle's that come out of it. The speech therapist at my son's school gave me a book, called Trail Mix, about kids overcoming adversities such as learning disabilities, leukemia, etc. Those are true adversities to overcome, but the thing I hear when I read this book is when you are facing a true adversity, you have no choice but to go forward. Adversity brings in the possibilities of profound understanding of yourself and the world around you. When things are easy, you don't put awareness on making it better.
I am not saying to diminish how you are feeling about your own adversity because someone always has it worse. That just invalidates who you are. I am saying use this adversity to show you the parts of yourself that want to shine through the experience. The essence of you that wants to be more present in your life when all of this passes.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
What adversity do you feel you are facing right now? Are you dwelling in the story of the adversity or are you looking for the lessons and magic it holds for you? If you aren't facing an adversity right now, think back to a time you did and how you came through it a brighter person. Commend yourself for the strength you have and trust you will continue to have it, no matter what life throws at you. The key is, are you wise enough to glean the wisdom from the experience when it is over. The answer there too is YES!
Would you let your car tell you where to go, what to do, or how to be? Of course not! Even if your car was equipped with an artificial intelligence system like the show Knight Rider, you wouldn't let the car run your life! This is basically what we do with our minds. Our thoughts are just part of who we are, yet we let our thoughts, both conscious and subconscious, run our lives. We are driven by our minds on everything from what to wear for the day to what careers we should get into. Even when we start to awaken to something more, we crave information and understanding so that the mind can digest the concept of "awake" and "enlightened". But enlightenment is so much more than just knowing something about the spirit. It the experience of spirit.
Here is where this goes wrong. Your mind is just a tool for you while you are here. When you die, you are not your mind. When you were a baby, you thoughts were still developing, yet you were still you. So although the thought gurus of the metaphysical world, like Louise Hay, says "change your thoughts and change your life"" and this is VERY true, it is also about going beyond the mind completely in order to reconnect with the bigger sense of you.
When you are able to contemplate on all that makes up who you are and what you are doing here, the message becomes much clearer than just your thoughts. The universe responds to this question with experiences that help you unlock your deeper sense of self.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
You are so much bigger than your thoughts. Live you life beyond what you are thinking. Incorporate it into everything else you are experiencing emotions, spirit, sensations, etc. Ask for help from the universe or your God to show you who you really are, beyond your thoughts. Then see what unfolds in your life. Reconnecting with your spirit means shedding the shackles of the illusions that you are only your mind and body and opens you up to the endless possibilities that are already available to you.
Spend some time doing something that helps you quite your mind and see what other parts of yourself shine through.
This topic is by request. If you would like to request a topic feel free to post it to my facebook page or send me an email at email@example.com I have often been found saying that you don't have to learn your lessons the hard way, you choose to. This doesn't mean that some bad things don't just happen. But for the most part, the struggles that arrive in our life, especially with other people, often carry a message you have agreed to learn. I believe we agree to teach each other things about the way things work and often times to agree to be pretty hard on us until we do learn it. It is the concept that the message is first whispered, then it is said loudly and finally a ton of bricks are dropped on your head and it is screamed into your ear.
We often dismiss the whispers. Why? Well, it can be for a variety of reasons, but mostly because we are stuck in one way of being. Until we are ready to adopt a new way of being, we tend to try and stick with our standard plans. When something comes along and knocks us off of our axis, we tend to throw our arms up and say "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" and finally listen to the answer. Not always though... we might try and still cling to the old way of being, making it even harder on ourselves and daring the universe to knock us over again and undoubtedly it will.
So the question for this blog is really, how do I know what lessons I am trying to learn before I get knocked off my axis? (Correct me if I have the question wrong, but this is the question I am answering.) I don't have an easy answer for you, but I can give you a few tips as your insightful inspiration for the week.
Sometimes however, you just have to experience what you are experiencing (rather than avoid it) in order to learn your lesson. Sometimes even knowing the lesson doesn't teach it to you. It is like telling a child the basic concept of multiplication and then saying go do it, including the entire range of numbers large and small. It is difficult to tell you in a blog how to address this fully and completely because life is the school. But I can give you a place to start so that you can be more aware in your lessons rather than being victimized by them. Use my suggestions as a place to start and then build your own list.
First and formost, go EASY on yourself. You can't expect a baby to know all about the world just becuase they are in it. It takes experiences and perceptions and the ability to self reflect to get the picture and even that isn't the full picture. If you are trying to learn a lesson to avoid the consequences of what you think is coming, you might be missing the point. You aren't learning the lesson, you are trying to manipulate the lesson. :)
Insightful Inspiration of the week
If you are struggling with something right now that you can't quite understand the meaning of, you might be up against a major soul lesson. This is where being present really counts. Because if you are bringing in the past, present and future hypothetical into this issue, you could be clouding the lesson.
First, remember you can ask for help. Guides, Angles, God... what ever you pray to, they listen and they help. So send your love to your higher source (or yourself if you can't quite get beyond yourself right now) and ask for help. Ask for clarity, understanding and the grace to accept the lesson. Then listen for the answer. Notice the world around you and see what messages are trying to come through. Trust that these are your answers, regardless of the form they take.
Second, anchor yourself in NOW. This is where the lesson is being presented. Don't project into the future about the what ifs. Look at what is happening right now. Also notice what is NOT happening right now. Be present with your fears, feelings and thoughts. They are your road map to what you are trying to heal. If you are afraid, ask why. Drill in, find out where this fear is rooted in and allow yourself to ask "is this really happening or do I just think it might happen."
Third, give yourself compassion. You are not going to always know right away why you did something. You may have to just trust that the clarity will come later and right now, you just need to be present to see when the messages come. Beating yourself up for not knowing or being in the situation to begin with only drives the pain and hurt deeper and gives you more to do later.
Finally, don't rush through it. Don't make irrational choices just to hurry up and make something happen. People often try to get out of uncomfortable feelings by rushing through things or asking everyone they know for advice so they can say they "tried" to do the "right" thing. Remind yourself that this too shall pass and ride the wave the best you can.
People often come to me to find out what's next in their lives. Sometimes we get very greedy for these answers when we finally decide to ask the question. We want instant answers, NOW! Sometimes we aren't completely prepared for the answers, so they come in at levels you can handle them. Inching you along to find that ultimate answer. Put the question out and then you wait, notice and pay attention. The answer may not come in a word or a resounding next step. It may come as a song, a subtle message in an ad, or even just a friend calling and reminding you who you really are. Pay attention to these subtle responses and you will see the universe is constantly answering your questions. You just don't always want to listen to the answer.
For example, lets say you ask "What should I do next in my career?" and the ultimate response is for you to be doing something completely different than you are doing now. You may not be ready to hear that. So the response that comes back might be just to expand yourself where you are or prepare yourself for a move. Rather than just saying "move careers tomorrow" the universe is gentle with us, gliding us through to our next steps that we have asked for. If only we were so patient with our request for answers as the universe is with us receiving them.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
What question are you asking for instant answers on? What do you think you need to know NOW? Put your feelers out on this question. Notice the sights, sounds, and sensations the world is bringing you in response to this question. Don't over analyze it, just pause and sense. Do you like what you are being shown or are you waiting for a different answer? The answer may be different tomorrow if you want it to be, just put out the request and then wait for the next response. Glide yourself through this process rather than forcing it. You will be amazed at all the answers that have been given and are just waiting for you to notice.
So the school of life is raging on me right now. I am learning about acceptance in the face of judgement in a big way and in my most tender spot... my kids. But this is the best place to learn! It has come to my attention that I occasionally engage in a game of judgement ping pong with people. Yes I admit it. Me who says to release judgement, I do it too. Here is how I was justifying it. I was only judging you AFTER you judged me. The whole "he hit me first" thing. Geez! What a reason to hit back. If we all did this, we never do anything else but hit back. We have to put down our paddles in the game and not play the other side. The reason we don't do this is because we are afraid we will continue to be paddled and we will have nothing to defend ourselves with. But NOTHING ever gets solved out of fear based thinking. SO, I am officially putting down the paddle.
Here is an example. Let's say your friend is telling you that your way of thinking about politics is incorrect. What do you do, you defend yourself. You normally do this by judging their way of thinking instead and we are off in a battle of judgement.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Put down the judgement paddle. You don't have to send that hit back. Just notice it, set some boundaries and move on. You don't have to judge someone else, just because they are judging you. Send them love and light and realize they are only doing it because they are dealing with something within themselves. If we put down our weapons and not hit back, we might find the world to be a much more peaceful place to live.