Fear & a bad case of the "What ifs"
It seem like a lifelong process to get past our fears. Fear starts when we are babies and continues through our life, dictating our actions and keeping us stuck in the search for peace from it. Our minds are very powerful and fear can be something that stops our manifesting minds in its tracks.
To Have or Have not
Fear can really block our ability to manifest what we want. Sometimes we don't even know that is what is in our way.
The fears we are experiencing may not always be obvious. We may think we want something but in our subconscious mind fear is keeping us from having what we want. For some reason we fear having it or not having it. Either way, fear is in the way.
For example, many people would love an abundance of money, so why don't we all have abundance of money? It can boil down to our programs, automatic lumping of things or events together to make them predicable. In regard to money, some people fear having money means people will only like them because of their wealth and they're worried they won't be loved authentically. Other people fear having money means they must have stole it from someone else in some underhanded way. Even more people don't believe they deserve large amounts of money because no one around them seems to have it. Either way, his is all fear, fear, keeping you from allowing something into your life.
Reflection of Your Fears
One of my fears (based on a past-life) is around taking medication. This fear can even include herbs. I have a serious aversion to it and even feel like I am dying for the first few days I start something new. I know this about myself, so I don't run around like a crazy person claiming I am dying, but I sure have to work on releasing it and allowing it to go through me.
Once I mustered up the courage to take a certain medication, despite reading all of the horrible, possible side effects. I had conquered this fear! So for, six days in, I was okay. Then in good vibrational fashion, I ran into a mom at my kids' school who tells me about her husband being very sick with drug-induced hepatitis and having to have his gallbladder removed.
She tells me the story and then of course I have to ask, "What medication was he on?" Eek! Of course it was the same drug I'm taking and she then tells me more horror stories about this drug. This poked at the deep-seated fear inside of me so hard I couldn't concentrate! This showed me I clearly hadn't processed all of the fear within me yet. If I had, I would have hardly noticed this conversation. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even have had the conversation, as the universe always brings me what I need to hear. So back to the awareness drawing board on this one, because some fear is still lurking under the surface.
Your Past is Talking
Once we have decided we want something, we either go out and get it or run it by our mind for permission to have it. If our safety space or a fear is triggered by the desire, it won't allow you to go out and get what you want.
Generally this happens because of a past experience with either your desires in general or your desires for those types of things. In the past something scared you about creating what you want and you placed a program in your subconscious to protect you from that ever happening again.
Are you talking yourself out of having what you want? If you have a lot of answers to this question that you feel are logical and want to defend as “correct”limitations, go back and ask yourself if there is something from your past that is holding you back.
Sometimes all it takes is to get a handle on your thoughts and indulge in supportive, encouraging thoughts instead of fear-based "what ifs." The mind does better if you entertain it, like having a good debate with a friend. Listen to it, don't judge it at first, but then notice if the mind is making things bigger than they need to be. Sometimes we find it easier to entertain the bad scenarios rather than the good ones out of self-preservation. But what are you preserving exactly?
Think of something you are currently working on having. Something you really want. Ask yourself these questions in either a journal or in your mind's eye.
- What is the likelihood of you getting what you want? Why or why not?
- What would happen if you got what you wanted?
- What would happen if you knew for sure you would never get what you wanted?
- Who in your life shows you an example of having what you want? Are you like them? Why or why not?
- Who in your life shows you an example of not having what you want? Are you like them? Why or why not?
Did you come up with some reasonable answers? Did you find any hidden fears in there? If not, go back and look at your answers again and see if you can uncover the hidden fear either of having what you want or not.