Kids, our friends, or family are all potential targets for our worry. It shows we care about the outcome for them, right? Wrong! When you worry about someone, you are energetically saying "I don't trust you to be okay". Energetically you are sending them concerns about who, what, where, how they are. This energy drops their energy down potentially propelling them further into the issues they are in.
Your thoughts actually weaken the person you are worrying about. You are reinforcing any doubts they are having about their progress and victimizing them in their reality. I would venture to guess that was not your intention at all.
What would be more helpful for the person you love and have concerns for is to support them in their power. Sending them energy to support them in getting what they need out of the situation. Sending them "you are perfect and powerful the way you are and I trust you to be okay" thoughts. Energetically it is the difference between telling someone "you can do it" or "I HOPE you can do it". Which one is more supportive? Imagine how that would feel if someone did that for you, stopped worrying and started cheering you on.
Here are three quick ways to turn a worry into support.
- Focus on what you want for the person, not what you view as a problem that is occurring.
- Check your motives and be clear what is yours and what is really their's to handle.
- Check to see if you think the situation can change. If you think someone is caught in a life sentence of struggle, how could they ever feel empowered by your support?
Bottom line, let that person know you trust them to be okay in the end. Think about how great it would feel if everyone around you said "you can do this" instead of "I hope you survive."