Kids begin using their energy field the moment they come into the world. They learn to expand it and shrink it depending on what they want to experience. But this adjustment is so automatic, we all forget we can influence our experiences by consciously modifying our energy field.
Set it up
We brush our teeth and comb our hair but we often neglect our energy field. If you take two minutes to acknowledge your energy field you will be able to change the way you automatically perceive your world and begin consciously perceiving things.
Here is a very simple energy exercise by Donna Eden you can use with your kids every day. (She filmed this one with her daughters.)
I'll bet you notice when your child's energy is pulled away or when it's pushed way out. You feel it. You just don't have the words to describe it. Everyone functions best if their energy is about arms length around them in all directions. Some kids like to stretch their energy way out into the room. This often looks like hyper, distracted energy. Other kids like to shrink their energy in. This often looks like shyness or stubborn behavior.
Start talking to your child about their energy field and ask them to notice where their energy is if you notice it is not arms length around them. They know, they just have to be asked to notice. They also often know, once they notice, that adjustments need to be made. Just encourage them to notice and they will begin to use their energy more consciously.
Kids often learn energy habits from their parents. If you are a big energy field and demand control over your space you can sometimes cause your child to be a shrinking energy field. They are trying to find room for themselves, which often leaves them unavailable to you to engage with the way you intend. See if you can notice if you are dominating energy around you or are being submissive. If you are doing either of these, just set the intention to hold your energy field in the vibration you would like to, arms length around you and invite them to be themselves in the field with you.
Avoid shame or blame
It is easy to learn about these things and then use them to shame each other. "You are in my energy field and taking over." But the best thing to do is be playful and easy about all of this. Energy is just energy and taking it too seriously won't help things flow, it will just shut things down.
Feel free to share your experiences in the comments section.