Just have a little fun, would ya?!
Every oracle deck I have pulled these past two weeks tells me to play. If there is a play card in the deck, I am pulling it. Working with oracle cards is part of my job, but I also use them to play. One of my favorite play decks in The Rebel Deck.
Why is it so hard to have fun?
I can’t tell you how often I have clients in my office who get the same messages from their guides to play, and they respond “what does that even mean?” Isn’t that sad. We are so programmed for productivity and output, we struggle to find play. Yet play is the very way we learn, heal and connect.
I realize the desire for something to be different, is what motivates most of us to keep trying so hard. However, some of this stuff is meant to be easy. It is our own resistance to having fun and enjoying ourselves that keeps it from being so. We have wrongly linked up the idea that a lot of effort equals happiness. Sometimes it is just the opposite.
How do you get energy to move, do more things you enjoy in life! When you do more of what you love, your energy flows in a positive direction. You get more of what you want in life, you are happier, easier to be around, and just more open for your lot in life.
What Energy Are you Putting in?
This is not to say you don't have to do things you may not want to. But even that, notice what energy you put into. If you resentfully clean your house, you are promptly filling your house with resentment. Chances are... whom ever you cleaned for will even resent you for it. This is true for all you do.
Whatever you choose to be doing with your days, be open to the idea that everything is a choice, including how you tackle those projects you call “work.” Play can be embedded into anything you do. Make a game out of it, find humor, or just look into the idea that what you are putting your energy is somewhat silly and ironic.
Is this true for you?
Working on coaching people with stuck energies, I get to see all kinds of reasons people are often not getting what they want out of life. Here are some of the reasons I see people not doing what they find fun.
Don't even know what fun is
Work ethic means fun is wasteful
Expectations of others
Feeling like you don’t deserve it
Conditioning from family that play is lazy
The idea that responsible people don’t play
Afraid to fail or look silly
The battle for resources, if I play I will miss out on resources (i.e. time, money, approval)
If you are struggling to find fun and play in your life, just ask the universe for a little help to bring more play into your day. Then just start to notice... and don't say no to any opportunity to have fun. Once you ask, the universe will present you with fun. Trust me on this. You just have to accept it.
Trust me, people like you more when you have "me" time. So when you start to put it out there to have more fun, the universe (and your loved ones) will conspire to help. They may not know it at first, but you just have to show them how much more fun you will be when you get to remember what fun is.
Be willing to fail at it too and see what happens. For example, maybe you want to try dancing, but you think you are a horrible dancer. Give it a try a couple times, if you are a horrible dancer and you have a terrible time, then quit and find something else. If you are a horrible dancer but you loved it, who cares what people think and do it anyway!
Make it your goal this week to have more fun and see what happens next!