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Chakras are just a way to describe energy centers in our bodies. We use different sources of energy in order to be and manifest in the world. There are several different schools of thought regarding chakras, so I am writing from my own experiences and awareness, not from a specific school of thought.
By paying attention to energy fields, you are sending an intention to yourself and your energy to rise to a conscious level of manifestation. You can then use that awareness and intention to refine your energy fields and become a more conscious creator.
Pay attention to your heart chakra and see what you can manifest by paying more attention to it. This is the chakra that is at the chest area somewhere around the heart, spins clockwise in a green color. This is where you store information about your affinity for things, being loved, lovable and loving.
When the heart chakra is blocked, you have difficulty connecting with others. You feel unloved and find the world hard to be in. The heart chakra can get blocked from a single deep wound or can develop over time. The heart chakra can also be blocked if they are feeling bad out their body in any way, including feeling as if it isn’t working properly.
Layoffs or job related rejections
Lack of perceived support from others
An environment that values mental over likability
There are many indicators of over active or under active heart chakra. Primarily you are looking for feeling rejected or overly needy for love and attention.
The blocked heart chakra can look like any other blocked chakra. It has a range of emotional symptoms. The primary one is feeling unloved, alone, unworthy. The tricky thing with this is we all have a touch of insecurity running through our system and that isn’t always a heart chakra block.
A heart chakra block often manifests as a wall to love. Meaning when you are offered love, you reject it or hold it away from your energy field because you don’t trust taking it in or think you will have to repay the love somehow.
Often times you want to work with the root chakra and heart chakra to create safety to receive and give love. It is also common to manifest a third chakra imbalance with this chakra meaning either you are completely yourself, but not receiving love for it (blocked heart, open third) or not being yourself, but receiving love (blocked third, open heart.)
The physical symptoms of a heart chakra imbalance are easy to notice. Often times the person’s shoulders are slumped to protect the heart or their arms are crossed when they talk.
Imbalance symptoms can include:
Tightness in the chest
Excess muscles in the trapezius muscles
When a body is talking to you about an imbalance though pain or discomfort, give it attention in a loving way. We often try and shame and force bodies back into functioning properly. Instead, love it first and ask what it needs.
THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
People can plug into our chakras and draw off energy from us. They can do it to us while in our presence or not.
Often time people will draw off energy from the heart chakra when they want approval from you. They also might want you to be put down so that they feel better about themselves.
You might have someone in your life that is very needy or an “endless pit” for attention and affirmations from you. These people would be better off pulling this energy from within, so if you are over compensating for that person, you are not helping them. Pullback your energy and protect your boundaries by affirming that you have love for them and reminding them to look back on themselves for that love as well.
People who want your approval for any reason can hijack your heart chakra. Notice when you are allowing it to happen and balance out your heart chakra to clean up the relationship.
THE BALANCING ACT
So how do you balance all this out? Meditation is always a great way to tune into your energy systems.
But if you are not a big meditator, here are some other ideas.
Write a gratitude journal to yourself.
Put loving sticky notes on your mirror.
Connect with warm-hearted people who you feel safe with.
List out all the things you have done well in your past.
There are many videos and meditations out there. This one is an interesting one.
Affirmations for the heart chakra:
"I am loved.”
“I love the world I have created for myself.”
“I am loving.”
“Kindness comes through me and to me.”
“I are perfect just the way I am.”
If you find any resistance to those affirmations above, that is also a good indication that your heart chakra is blocked. Dig in and find out why you are resistant and what you are telling yourself instead.
My 10 year old son called me from school this week to tell me that he cut his face on the playground. I asked him if his glasses were broken... no... I asked if he need to come home or go to the doctor... no... So then I gave him what he really called for, which was mommy sympathy. :) I didn't feel the pain for him, or cry for him that it happened. (Empathy) I just told him I was sorry that happened and asked him how he was and gave him my love. (Sympathy) As you are out in the world engaging with people, it is important to know how to tell the difference between compassion, sympathy, empathy and all things in between.
Empathy is rarely helpful, although many of us are empaths and, without trying, feel what the other people are feeling. The reason empathy is not helpful is because it just drags you down into what that person is feeling and offers no help, guidance, love or support. I like to refer to this as getting into the mud with someone to try and get them clean. Now you both are dirty and you are getting nowhere.
Sympathy can be helpful and often times it is all we really want when we tell our stories. When we complain about work, family, friends, etc. We aren't saying "fix this for me" we are simply saying "listen and sympathize". Yes, on a soul level you are choosing this experience, but at the same time, sometimes our choices suck. :) This is often where relationships get strained. One person says "they never listen", mainly because they rarely sympathize. Often times we are trying to offer advice or fix someone, when all they want it an ear.
Compassion can be a tricky one. We use compassion in a variety of ways. We can have compassion for the Tsunami victims in Japan. We can have compassion for our dying grandmother. We can even have compassion for our children, when they are struggling with the oh so common social issues. But what is compassion really?
Wikipedia says "Compassion (from Latin: "co-suffering") is a virtue —one in which the emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy (for the suffering of others) are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnectedness and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood." I have blogged about compassion many times as I see it as a critical part to our human exisitance, experience and spiritual growth.
But quite honestly, I see it differently than the latin word of co-suffering. I see it as being able to understand someone on a deeper level and to not condone their actions, but understand how they are feeling anyway. You don't condone a murderer, but after learning about his abusive childhood, you might gain some compassion for him as a damaged individual who had no other skill. I see compassion as the ability to see each other as connected, human and flawless in our flaws in our wisdom of "oneness".
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Check in with your interactions this week. See yourself from the perspective of these concepts. Are there any adjustments you want to make in your interactions? Play around with it, see what you can and can not offer out easily. Maybe it is hard for you not to try and "fix". Maybe it is hard for you not to empathize and suffer with others. Make note of where you are and point yourself in the direction you want to be. As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences.
The interaction between the fourth and first chakra can be very intense. As I read this for people I see a lot of past-life energy stored here as well as struggles to love ourselves and the world and feel safe. This is about feeling safe to love. The pictures within shows a funny example of when you think it is safe the love knocks you over and you aren't so sure!
This space is about survival in love. Love of the planet, love of yourself, love of friends, love of lovers, etc. Have you ever broken up with someone and it hurt so much you felt like you were going to die with pain? That is the first and fourth communicating. This doesn't have to be a painful thing though. But often times we feel threatened to open ourselves up to love, because we feel vulnerable and unsafe. We feel like if we show too much love, people will take advantage of us and hurt us.
However, when they are communicating, we are in touch with the power of love and feel safe in that feeling. Which to me, is one of the best feelings in the world. We feel our connection between us and the world we live in. We feel safe to nurture ourselves and others because we do not fear the consequences, we just trust them. This can be a powerful enhancer of your ability to happy in your life. If you don't feel safe to connect with love... this makes social situations painful, the planet feel unsafe, and the world seems like a cold and lonely place.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Check in with yourself. Do you think this communication is working? Do you feel safe to offer love to everyone? Are there certain people you don't feel safe to love? How come you don't feel safe? Do you have the mindset that being open to love is naive and makes you an easy target?
We are all connected and connecting is safe on so many levels. When done with the intention of love and compassion, the returns can be astounding. This week, try and open yourself up to love someone you wouldn't normally feel safe to do so with. Maybe it is the homeless guy on the street and you ofter him a smile and eye contact. Maybe it is your signifant other who has hurt you in some way and you open yourself up to show that it hurt because you LOVE them and care, not that you are closed off to them.
Find safety in love. It is the only thing that gets us through the day.
Have a love filled week!