I was once visited in a dream state by a group of masters from several different lineages. They showed me something that has never left me. Every action we take keeps us locked into a certain perspective. The more we repeat the same thing, the more solid that reality becomes. So, if we want something in our life to change, we have to look honestly at what we're doing that keeps things exactly as they are.

I had my first child at 23 and I had it all planned out. We'd been married for two years (meeting my criteria of being married for at least two before having kids ), my husband was about to turn 30 (meeting his criteria of having kids before then), and I was finishing my master's degree while seven months pregnant (meeting my criteria to finish the degree before having kids.) I had a job, a house, and I'd read every book on that shelf about how to have a baby. I followed all the rules. It was going to be perfect!

If you've found yourself Googling "energy healing" lately, you're not alone. Search interest in the term just hit an all-time high. So did searches for "how to be spiritual." Something is shifting, and millions of people are turning to their search bar to make sense of it.

I want to get on my soapbox for a minute.

We are living in a time when we need energy healers more than ever. We need people who are attuned to the subtleties of the non-physical realm, people willing to work with the unseen to create real, meaningful change. Mindfulness, meditation, and yoga have become mainstream…and that's wonderful! But there's still a quiet hiding happening among people who are intuitive (or who are longing to become more intuitive).

There's still a stigma.

You slept eight hours, ate well, and took your vitamins. And yet…you're exhausted. That bone-deep kind of tired no amount of rest seems to fix. If that sounds familiar, your body isn't lying to you. Physical fatigue has physical causes. But energetic fatigue? That lives in a different layer. It lives in the stories you carry, the emotions you suppress, the connections you keep, and the inner dialogue that runs on a loop.

Here are five of the most common (and most overlooked) energy drains I see show up again and again in my clients:

You've told the truth, you've released resistance, and you've begun embodying the person you're becoming. Now, it's time to do the thing all that inner work has been preparing you for — Act!

After two decades of working with energy, consciousness, and manifestation, I can tell you this with absolute certainty:

You cannot manifest from denial. You cannot quantum leap from a story. You cannot create clearly from distortion.

As we grow emotionally, spiritually, and energetically, our relationships naturally change. This doesn’t mean something is broken. It means something is alive and evolving.

When you shift how you think about relationships, everything softens.

If we could just take a tip from the book of cats. They lick each other, curl up together, and blur the lines of personal space. Yet, they also have limits. Sometimes they swat, hiss, or simply walk away. They’re crystal clear about when enough is enough. Humans, however, often struggle with this balance.

There’s something magnetic about someone who believes in themselves. Not in the loud, brash, overcompensating kind of way — but the quiet confidence that says, “I know who I am, and I’m showing up for my life.”

When you hit that strange stretch of life, where the calendar claims you should feel grounded but you don’t, it can feel like someone changed the rules without telling you.

Midlife crisis? Maybe.

But what if it’s something else?

The law of attraction teaches us that everything has been drawn to us based on our energetic vibration. What does not align with our frequency does not exist in our reality. But the real question is: how do we align ourselves with the vibration of what we truly desire?

Where will I meet my new love? Where should I move to? Where should I put my business? The thing that I want to get across to you it is not about location, it is about your vibration.

Ever feel like you're constantly chasing the next big thing? New job, new relationship, new you? While setting goals is important, sometimes we forget to appreciate where we already are and where we have been. We're so busy chasing that next achievement, that we miss out on the joy of the present moment. We also miss out on the opportunity to launch from where we are, rather than from where we have been.

Creativity serves as the heartbeat of innovation and personal expression. Whether you are an artist, a writer, or an entrepreneur, the ability to harness and rejuvenate your creative energies is essential for success.

This week, a client asked me about overcoming fear surrounding their newfound interest in metaphysics. She expressed concern that her friends and family would think she has lost her way or is getting into something scammy. I get it, fear of the unknown is real, especially with metaphysical mysteries. She wanted to explore energy healing and her own intuition, but she was concerned it would break the rules that she was living by in her family, religion, and friends.

In relationships, we spend a lot of time trying to be seen. Our points of view, convincing others to see our side of things, trying to get people to acknowledge the efforts you have put in, etc. No matter how hard you try and be seen and how much you are seen, they are still seeing their point of view from their point of view and vice versa. It is impossible for anyone to completely see your point of view because there is only one seat at that table.

All of your life experiences make you unique in how you perceive things. Scientists have studied this concept for a long time. They have studied consciousness, identical twins, and things like the Mandela effect (false collective memories.)

When is it time to reinvent yourself and start anew? How many times in our lifetime do we have to think about a new phase, a new process, a new you? Why do we even have to go there again and again? Because we are all about cycles, rhythms, and renewal. Our whole physical experience is about cycles and beginning and ending.

Step One: Identify the Habits of Identity

Your thoughts are not the same as your intuition. It can be difficult to discern the difference between the two. Your thoughts are a system of experiences, social conditioning, habits, and the attempt to preserve the ego. But here are some ways to evaluate your thoughts.

When you are in a time of transition, for example moving to a new house, new job, new relationship, etc. you are feeling unclear about where you are headed and nervous about what you are leaving behind. It is a gap between the known to the unknown. But the gap is where the freedom lies.

Right before you start that new job, you can release old patterns of being at work and start fresh. Right before you move to a new house, you can go through your things and clear out the things you no longer need. This is an excellent time to reevaluate, slow down, and recreate.

You are not yet in an automatic pattern or have gone unconscious with your day-to-day. What a great opportunity for awareness and intentionally creating new relationships with you day-to-day.