Boundary Check
If we could just take a tip from the book of cats. They lick each other, curl up together, and blur the lines of personal space. Yet, they also have limits. Sometimes they swat, hiss, or simply walk away. They’re crystal clear about when enough is enough.
Humans, however, often struggle with this balance. In my own life, it is going to be a lifelong journey. The journey of asserting my truth, while understanding others might have a different experience than I intend them to. Sometimes I am too rigid, sometimes too loose, which might confuse those around me and cause resentment even in myself. But no matter where you fall on the spectrum, one truth remains: healthy boundaries are essential for your energy, relationships, and well-being.
Boundaries and Energy Healing
From an energetic perspective, boundaries are more than just saying “no” or “yes.” They’re about the invisible lines we draw around our energy field, our aura, that define what we allow in and what we keep out. When our boundaries are weak, we might absorb other people’s emotions, drama, or stress, leaving us feeling drained and disconnected from ourselves. When our boundaries are overly rigid, our energy field can become contracted, keeping love, support, and authentic connection at arm’s length.
Energy healing teaches us to become conscious of these dynamics.
For example:
Leaky Boundaries: You may find yourself doing things you don’t want to do, feeling obligated, or walking away from gatherings completely exhausted because you’ve taken on too much of other people’s energy.
Rigid Boundaries: You might notice yourself shutting down emotionally, keeping secrets, or quickly ending relationships instead of working through challenges. The energy feels blocked or “walled off.”
Neither extreme is healthy for your energetic system. The goal is to create flexible, empowered boundaries. Ones that protect your energy without cutting you off from love and connection.
Where Do Boundary Issues Come From?
When I tune into clients, I often see boundary challenges rooted in childhood conditioning. Maybe your parents discouraged boundaries altogether, teaching you that saying “no” was selfish. Or perhaps they modeled rigid walls, never letting anyone in, including their children. Neither approach is inherently “good” or “bad,” but both can leave you with patterns that feel limiting as an adult.
If these patterns aren’t addressed, they can show up as difficult relationships, recurring conflict at work, or even power struggles with your kids. The good news is: once you become aware, you can shift them.
Energy Healing Practice: Strengthening Boundaries
Here’s a simple practice you can try:
Ground Yourself: Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and imagine roots extending from your feet deep into the earth.
Visualize Your Aura: See a sphere of light around your body. Notice if it feels open, leaky, or walled off. You might even use your arms to stretch out and feel your physical space.
Set Your Boundary Intention: Imagine adjusting this light so it feels comfortable, firm, but not rigid; open, but not unguarded.
Seal with Love: Fill the outer edge of your aura with golden light, affirming: “I choose boundaries that protect my energy and allow love to flow.”
Approach this with curiosity and even humor. Instead of beating yourself up when you notice boundary struggles, try: “Ha! There I go again, letting my energy leak. Time to shift!” Playfulness lightens the process and keeps you from falling into self-criticism.
Enjoy this growth journey. Your boundaries are an ongoing practice, and right now, you are exactly where you need to be.
