We have all heard the down and out stories of how people hit rock bottom and that was the catalyst for the rising up. We have heard those stories of triumph over the impossible negativity we see in the world. We are overcoming little "rock bottoms" all of the time. It is our success over our struggles that gives us the trust in ourselves to take risks and carry on. It is the success in our moments of weakness, that remind us of our strength.Read More
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Doing this work has given me a very clear sense of how much I am addicted to people pleasing. Oh man do I want to make people happy, almost to a fault. However I have also learned through this work that I can not control the information that is being given just to make you happy or tell you what you want to hear. I can give you the positive spin of things, which is the optimistic nature of your guides. But I can't tell you the things you want to hear and the answers you want to have just because you want them. Often time the answer is hidden from view. Just for the sake of the journey. The journey is yours to have and if you already have the map, you may not take all the paths you were meant to. So the truth is kept from you, to help you grow and learn. Some times people feel tricked by this stance. But your guides are just your guides. They don't have all the answers either, nor should they. This is your life to lead. Your answers to figure out.
So when people are seeking answers and not guidance, I am not the help you are looking for. But when you realize that you are always on the right path, it is just helpful to have a flashlight, then you working with your guides and your energy to find YOUR answers. I can help with that!
If you are looking for someone or something to give you the answers you seek, you are on a fruitless journey. However, if you are willing to see yourself as the answer to all that you want and are, you are on the right track. Others are brought into your life to guide you and help shed light on things, but it is never good for you to give them the power to have your answers. You will get false information and find yourself following thoughts and ideas that are not your own, which never leads you to your happiness. Use others in your life to gain perspective, but seek the truth within yourself in the end.
My weak spot in my body is my lower back. It is actually part of what started me on the journey to wake up and pay attention to what is really happening. Anyway, I have a massage therapist that I use that is nothing more than a miracle worker! She just can get right to the issue and get it out for me. My back being out today gave me the motivation to write about how our energy is energy and what our bodies do is what the rest of our energy systems do too. For example, when she gets into a tight spot, the body flinches and protects the spot. It is painful and it doesn't want to feel this pain. At this point in the massage you have two choices, skip the spot or dig in deeper. If you skip it, the problem remains and festers, eventually causing more problems throughout the body. If you dig in deeper, the body resists the pain, but eventually is forced to let go and relax. What a gift to let it go! Now it may be sore and need healing after the release, but it is so much better than hanging on to it.
Now apply this emotions. We avoid the painful ones and stuff them when they come up. Problems come up because of this and it festers and causes more problems. If we just feel the emotions and get it out, it releases and we move on.
Apply this to mental processes. If we avoid things that are difficult or just think about the surface issue over and over, you never get that thought resolved and it takes away the energy to process other things. But if you dig in and figure out why you are mentally processing something, you can resolve it with more clarity.
You get the point, it might be better to focus on things rather than let it hang out and cause problems.
I want to share a video with you of my son. He is reading from my book, Insightful Inspirations, and he is reflecting (on his own, unscripted and unplanned) about his experiences with getting hung up on a blind cord. :( His advice, stop trying to ignore it. Face it and let it go.
Insightful Inspiration Get a massage! Well, okay that is just a nice to have. Notice where you are feeling pain, tension or struggle and avoiding actually digging in. If these are particularly painful places to go to, get some help! Coaches, counselors, therapists, ministers, ME... we are all here to help you work through the painful places so you can release them. Support, to help you face what you aren't facing and move past it. What a gift. Give it a shot! :)
We are finding it hard to trust anything any more. What once seemed certain is no longer and what someone tells us is going on can't be trusted. Gone are the days of being able to trust blindly. You can't look to others for the truth. Is all lost? Are we victims of a society that is gone wrong? Or maybe we are shifting to an age where we no longer look outside of ourselves to find the truth. We are shifting to the only thing we can trust is ourselves. However we don't even trust that! When we are making this shift to having to trust ourselves first we get resentful, angry and blame each other for this shift. We fight it and blame others "damn you, now I have to listen closer to myself next time!"
However, what if you could trust everything outside yourself because you could trust yourself, with 100% certainty, that you are always aligning with your highest good? What if you could see the wisdom of your ways without fear of mistakes, being taken advantage of, or going down a path you never intended? You can!
When you are in alignment with yourself, listening to your internal wisdom, seeing the beauty of your life from the connected eyes of trusting yourself, you see a world that free. You open up to your experiences because you aren't afraid of them. You experience things to the highest possible level because you trust your judgement of when to stop without second guessing. You engage fully in relationships without fear of misunderstanding another's intentions and getting hurt.
How do I trust myself on this level, you ask? Well, it starts with being willing to try to stop thinking of the concept of self trust is bad! It is the only thing you have, but when you have it, everything else can be trusted too. You have been doing it backwards. Start taking time to tune in and pay attention to your gut.
Start making a habit to listening to your gut. Start working on the issues that keep you from that trust in yourself. If you aren't trustworthy, why not? If you can't trust you, how can you expect anyone else to and how can you trust anyone else? I am not saying the voices in your head are all correct. But if you start to listen, you can start to tell the difference between what is good guidance and was isn't. This is one of the biggest questions you can ask yourself, can I be trusted? If you can't, time to find out why. Make a change so you can freely live your life without blame of others and without fear of yourself?
This post is inspired by a video clip from the Ted conference that a client of mine sent me. I love this message so much, and it is one I personally subscribe to as often as possible, but being a natural born perfectionist, need reminding of daily. That message is that it is OKAY to be wrong. No really, I swear. It helps us learn. Similar to the challenges post last week, this is me, encouraging you to face your mistakes like wonderful gifts and embrace them. Here is the clip by Kathryn c on being wrong.Shttp://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html
The open mind, the one that is willing to be wrong once in awhile for better ideas than the ones that they currently have, is in my opinion the best gift of all. The Free Dictionary defines an open mind as having a mind that is open and receptive to new ideas. But to me, this means you are willing to say that your current ideas might be wrong. Always willing to reconsider.
The think about giving up old ideas for the sake of new ones, doesn't mean your old ones were ever wrong. For you, they were right, just then. But there comes a time when maybe that idea no longer serves your reality and it is time to look at things differently. Sometimes the only reason we are not willing to do this is because we are afraid to admit we made old decisions from the wrong place. But how about instead of thinking that we are ever wrong, but still being willing to admit it, we think we are always flexible in what can and cannot be true.
I know, I can hear the arguments already. But just try this out a bit on your own "wrong" way of thinking and see if you want to make it "right" for yesterday, but "wrong" for today.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
What thought patterns are you hanging on to that are "wrong" today? What is the world trying to fight you on right now that you are "right fighting" for? Are you open minded enough to explore other possibilities? Can you be willing to let yourself admit you are wrong, to see things differently? Find the freedom that comes from not always having to be right? Give it a try, just admit you are wrong on some things this week. Wear it proudly and show that you are willing to admit it and try things from a new direction. Humble yourself a bit and join the human race. "To err is human" which means it must have a divine key to our ability to be the best humans we can.
As we seek answers beyond ourselves about how things work and why, we may discover the power of the universe guiding and directing us. You will hear about the divine plan and how things are suppose to happen for a reason.
Does this mean that we are not in charge of the guidance and direction we are going? Are we subject to destiny no matter what you do?
No way. Think of yourself a co-creator of your world. You are creating your world using your internal thoughts, intentions, etc. But you are also creating your world with the people you surround yourself with, the choices you make and the agreements on what is real and what isn't that you have made with the people around you.
Harness the Power Around you
We are working together to create a world that we want to live in on a micro and macro level. You are in charge of yourself in this experience and the role you play in it. The trick is tapping into your deeper connections with the world around you. This will help you see your part in the co-creation and the part of divine wisdom that is available to you, but not required for you to take every single direction given. It is all free will, whether you choose to do it or not, and will serve you in some way to get you back to the divine source of yourself.
These resources that show up in your life based on the vibration of desire you have put out. If it shows up, you don't have to take it, but if you choose to take it, embrace it and let it help you.
Think of it like a choose your own adventure book. The outcomes are the same and the themes are already written. But the path to get there is always new and different depending on the choices you make along the way.
Here is a great video to explain the creation space from Abraham.
Take your power back
Are you giving up on directing and guiding your own life for the sake of the divine plan? Are you surrendering yourself into inaction, rather than using the surrender to open up your options and views of the world? Ask yourself if you are misinterpreting your "destiny" in someway that is leading you to inaction and powerlessness. That is not the point of all this. That is swinging the pendulum too far in the other direction. Seek balance and know your free will remains intact no matter what you do. How are you going to use it? That is where your experience of the divine plan unfolds into its own mystery.
Set some clear intentions
Often times I see people stuck in the doldrums of their own unconsciousness. They haven't given themselves permission to even know what they want. They put their desires out on other people and the "what ifs" and don't actually use their free will to create what they want out of life.
Write some things down for yourself. You don't have to know what you want until your life ends, but what do you want now? Tomorrow? Next week? Put some clear intentions around it and show up to make it happen.
I am going through, yet another, major transition. I have blogged about letting go of things and just noticing and just being... but the test comes when big, unexpected changes come. I am finding myself having to remind myself not to resist the change, or go forward with fear. How much do you cling to what is being let go of? Do you try and make things work in a bad relationship no matter what? Do you keep jobs that you hate just because you think you need the pay? Do you keep socks with hole in them, because they still do 90% of the job? LOL To let go of those things, makes room for the next great thing to come in. If we cling, it clogs up the system and then we have nothing of what we want, only a bunch of holes in our socks! When a major end comes up unexpected, do you freak out and try and keep the end from coming? Or do you embrace it and let it go? There is so much freedom that can be felt from loosing things. A job, a house, a relationship... notice what can be gained from the new freedom. Notice what the universe is trying to tell you? It is all just stuff, it isn't WHO you are or WHAT you are... it is just part of the illusion. My inspiration for you this week is just look at what you are clinging on to that wants to end in your life? It could be as simple as throwing out the old sweater you loved so much or it could be a relationship you know is done, but you can't end. What is it for you? How can it bring you freedom to let it go? Can you let yourself have that freedom? Why not? What are you afraid of?
Love to you all.