Jade knows this and deals with it ALL in presence and grace. It works in all types of dis-ease because of this. Maybe that’s why it traditionally has been considered a Stone of immortality. Jade is the first Stone that I (Marilyn) ever had a healing with and I believe it has imprinted all my cells with an empowered journey with my body that I gratefully adore.Read More
Filtering by Tag: Heart Chakra
Chakras are just a way to describe energy centers in our bodies. We use different sources of energy in order to be and manifest in the world. There are several different schools of thought regarding chakras, so I am writing from my own experiences and awareness, not from a specific school of thought.
By paying attention to energy fields, you are sending an intention to yourself and your energy to rise to a conscious level of manifestation. You can then use that awareness and intention to refine your energy fields and become a more conscious creator.
Pay attention to your heart chakra and see what you can manifest by paying more attention to it. This is the chakra that is at the chest area somewhere around the heart, spins clockwise in a green color. This is where you store information about your affinity for things, being loved, lovable and loving.
When the heart chakra is blocked, you have difficulty connecting with others. You feel unloved and find the world hard to be in. The heart chakra can get blocked from a single deep wound or can develop over time. The heart chakra can also be blocked if they are feeling bad out their body in any way, including feeling as if it isn’t working properly.
Layoffs or job related rejections
Lack of perceived support from others
An environment that values mental over likability
There are many indicators of over active or under active heart chakra. Primarily you are looking for feeling rejected or overly needy for love and attention.
The blocked heart chakra can look like any other blocked chakra. It has a range of emotional symptoms. The primary one is feeling unloved, alone, unworthy. The tricky thing with this is we all have a touch of insecurity running through our system and that isn’t always a heart chakra block.
A heart chakra block often manifests as a wall to love. Meaning when you are offered love, you reject it or hold it away from your energy field because you don’t trust taking it in or think you will have to repay the love somehow.
Often times you want to work with the root chakra and heart chakra to create safety to receive and give love. It is also common to manifest a third chakra imbalance with this chakra meaning either you are completely yourself, but not receiving love for it (blocked heart, open third) or not being yourself, but receiving love (blocked third, open heart.)
The physical symptoms of a heart chakra imbalance are easy to notice. Often times the person’s shoulders are slumped to protect the heart or their arms are crossed when they talk.
Imbalance symptoms can include:
Tightness in the chest
Excess muscles in the trapezius muscles
When a body is talking to you about an imbalance though pain or discomfort, give it attention in a loving way. We often try and shame and force bodies back into functioning properly. Instead, love it first and ask what it needs.
THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
People can plug into our chakras and draw off energy from us. They can do it to us while in our presence or not.
Often time people will draw off energy from the heart chakra when they want approval from you. They also might want you to be put down so that they feel better about themselves.
You might have someone in your life that is very needy or an “endless pit” for attention and affirmations from you. These people would be better off pulling this energy from within, so if you are over compensating for that person, you are not helping them. Pullback your energy and protect your boundaries by affirming that you have love for them and reminding them to look back on themselves for that love as well.
People who want your approval for any reason can hijack your heart chakra. Notice when you are allowing it to happen and balance out your heart chakra to clean up the relationship.
THE BALANCING ACT
So how do you balance all this out? Meditation is always a great way to tune into your energy systems.
But if you are not a big meditator, here are some other ideas.
Write a gratitude journal to yourself.
Put loving sticky notes on your mirror.
Connect with warm-hearted people who you feel safe with.
List out all the things you have done well in your past.
There are many videos and meditations out there. This one is an interesting one.
Affirmations for the heart chakra:
"I am loved.”
“I love the world I have created for myself.”
“I am loving.”
“Kindness comes through me and to me.”
“I are perfect just the way I am.”
If you find any resistance to those affirmations above, that is also a good indication that your heart chakra is blocked. Dig in and find out why you are resistant and what you are telling yourself instead.
I often make the wonderful mistake of sharing my guides messages with my husband, only to have them thrown back at me constantly for the next month. I actually do love it, but this one was a challenge because it came up often. The guidance for me was that if I am not contributing love to it, I shouldn't put energy into. That meant everything! I thought, I am a loving, accepting, spiritual person... that should be no problem. Holy Cow! It was harder than you think. It wasn't long before I found myself hitting walls with it. The first place it came up was with my kids! The people I love an accept the most. As they began to act out and do their normal kid things, I found myself getting worked up and frustrated. This was not contributing love to the situation. The first time this happened, I sent love to my youngest son (just with my heart and mind, not saying a word) and he began to calm down before my eyes. It would seem that would be enough to anchor the guidance in. But I am human too and these situations arise again and again. Thank goodness for my husband (although maybe not thinking that at the time) as he yells out "send it love!" everytime I begin to slip up.
Here is where I struggled to send love, but did so anyway: when I was being judged, when I felt hurt, when I felt out of control, when I felt victimized in some way, and when I took things personally. So now I know my triggers, I pay attention to why my guides would be so insistent on this guidance. It quickly became clear that when I couldn't send love to something I was feeling separate and disconnected and contibuting to that disconnect for everyone else! Eek. Not something I would ever want to do consciously. It also made me feel drained and weakened my energy system. Again, something I want to avoid.
I am choosing to pay attention to these situations and contribute love as often as I can. I am human and have to give myself permission to my emotions, but I can still send it love while feeling my own emotions. It is kind of like putting oil on something in the oven. It is still going to cook, the oil is just makes it more tender. :)
I pass this challenge on to you. Send love to absolutely every situation you can this week. Notice when you struggle to do this and see if it gives you information about yourself and where you may be loosing yourself through out the day. These are the situations that drain you of your positive energy. As always, I invite you to share your experiences.
Judgement is such a sticky thing. Fear of judgement makes us second guess ourselves, make bad choices and pretend to be something we aren't. Love of judgement make us scrutinize the people we love and the friends we love to hate. Addiction to judgement make us judge people we only sort of know thinking we know them because we "know the type". My guess is, most of you are doing all three. The truth is judgement is the thing that keeps us separated, not connected. It keeps you down, not up. It holds you back, it doesn't push you ahead.
Some inside scoop on me...
I have a VERY twice exceptional child. Anyone who knows me, knows my struggles (because it is kind of consuming). But it very interesting to me how even when you see my authentic, heartfelt struggles, people still judge. It is probably the hardest place in the world to be judged; my mothering, my child, my perfect love. My kid is not obviously impaired in anyway. In fact, he comes across as being just defiant and self absorbed, albeit extremely intelligent. Even his own grandfather struggles to know how to "accept" him for what he is.
You are probably curious by now what is "wrong" with my child. The truth is NOTHING. Okay that is the spiritual Mom answer. The diagnosis is complex and anyone who evaluates him, says he doesn't fit even the molds of the diagnosis he has. ADHD, Sensory Integration Disorder, Coordination Disorder... who knows really. The fact is, my kids is lovable, extremely capable, intelligent, and AMAZING. When I read his soul, it is wise and uncaring about the things us younger souls want to struggle with. When I see him in the world, he pokes at the very core of the illusion, forcing people to second guess their automatic pilot mode and wake up. His questioning is authentic, not defiant, and quite frankly good for us to hear. We once were grilling him on his grades and he sat smiling. My husband said "You don't get it!" He said, "Yes I do, I have bad grades and I need to focus more on that. But it doesn't have to affect my present happiness." Wow! I want to think like that more often.
My point of my motherly vent is, that we are all so quick to judge. So quick to deny someone acceptance. We forget how that feels when it is done to us. Especially on the topics that we try so hard to do "right".
Let me give you one metaphor that you have heard before from me. If you love a child for it's mistakes, nurture them through it struggles, have compasion for their bad choices, it will grow up to be a loving, nurturing, forgiving person. Because you taught it how. If you scold them, accuse them, shame them and judge them, it will grow up to be a scolding, accusing, shaming and judging person. Who would you like to foster in your world?
Take this week to think about how much judgement is running your life. See if you happy with letting it run your life. "Good judgement" is important for yourself, but when it extends into situations you are not familiar with, it is not helpful to you or the other person for you to pass judgement on it. Work on bringing awareness to who you are categorizing, rejecting and downright making feel miserable with your negative energy about them. Pull it back. Own up to what you are sending out and stop it! Love yourself, love each other and do you best to love the world we live in. It isn't perfect, but things don't get better when you judge it, they get better when you nurture it.
We are finding it hard to trust anything any more. What once seemed certain is no longer and what someone tells us is going on can't be trusted. Gone are the days of being able to trust blindly. You can't look to others for the truth. Is all lost? Are we victims of a society that is gone wrong? Or maybe we are shifting to an age where we no longer look outside of ourselves to find the truth. We are shifting to the only thing we can trust is ourselves. However we don't even trust that! When we are making this shift to having to trust ourselves first we get resentful, angry and blame each other for this shift. We fight it and blame others "damn you, now I have to listen closer to myself next time!"
However, what if you could trust everything outside yourself because you could trust yourself, with 100% certainty, that you are always aligning with your highest good? What if you could see the wisdom of your ways without fear of mistakes, being taken advantage of, or going down a path you never intended? You can!
When you are in alignment with yourself, listening to your internal wisdom, seeing the beauty of your life from the connected eyes of trusting yourself, you see a world that free. You open up to your experiences because you aren't afraid of them. You experience things to the highest possible level because you trust your judgement of when to stop without second guessing. You engage fully in relationships without fear of misunderstanding another's intentions and getting hurt.
How do I trust myself on this level, you ask? Well, it starts with being willing to try to stop thinking of the concept of self trust is bad! It is the only thing you have, but when you have it, everything else can be trusted too. You have been doing it backwards. Start taking time to tune in and pay attention to your gut.
Start making a habit to listening to your gut. Start working on the issues that keep you from that trust in yourself. If you aren't trustworthy, why not? If you can't trust you, how can you expect anyone else to and how can you trust anyone else? I am not saying the voices in your head are all correct. But if you start to listen, you can start to tell the difference between what is good guidance and was isn't. This is one of the biggest questions you can ask yourself, can I be trusted? If you can't, time to find out why. Make a change so you can freely live your life without blame of others and without fear of yourself?
My 10 year old son called me from school this week to tell me that he cut his face on the playground. I asked him if his glasses were broken... no... I asked if he need to come home or go to the doctor... no... So then I gave him what he really called for, which was mommy sympathy. :) I didn't feel the pain for him, or cry for him that it happened. (Empathy) I just told him I was sorry that happened and asked him how he was and gave him my love. (Sympathy) As you are out in the world engaging with people, it is important to know how to tell the difference between compassion, sympathy, empathy and all things in between.
Empathy is rarely helpful, although many of us are empaths and, without trying, feel what the other people are feeling. The reason empathy is not helpful is because it just drags you down into what that person is feeling and offers no help, guidance, love or support. I like to refer to this as getting into the mud with someone to try and get them clean. Now you both are dirty and you are getting nowhere.
Sympathy can be helpful and often times it is all we really want when we tell our stories. When we complain about work, family, friends, etc. We aren't saying "fix this for me" we are simply saying "listen and sympathize". Yes, on a soul level you are choosing this experience, but at the same time, sometimes our choices suck. :) This is often where relationships get strained. One person says "they never listen", mainly because they rarely sympathize. Often times we are trying to offer advice or fix someone, when all they want it an ear.
Compassion can be a tricky one. We use compassion in a variety of ways. We can have compassion for the Tsunami victims in Japan. We can have compassion for our dying grandmother. We can even have compassion for our children, when they are struggling with the oh so common social issues. But what is compassion really?
Wikipedia says "Compassion (from Latin: "co-suffering") is a virtue —one in which the emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy (for the suffering of others) are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnectedness and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood." I have blogged about compassion many times as I see it as a critical part to our human exisitance, experience and spiritual growth.
But quite honestly, I see it differently than the latin word of co-suffering. I see it as being able to understand someone on a deeper level and to not condone their actions, but understand how they are feeling anyway. You don't condone a murderer, but after learning about his abusive childhood, you might gain some compassion for him as a damaged individual who had no other skill. I see compassion as the ability to see each other as connected, human and flawless in our flaws in our wisdom of "oneness".
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Check in with your interactions this week. See yourself from the perspective of these concepts. Are there any adjustments you want to make in your interactions? Play around with it, see what you can and can not offer out easily. Maybe it is hard for you not to try and "fix". Maybe it is hard for you not to empathize and suffer with others. Make note of where you are and point yourself in the direction you want to be. As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences.
This week I had a client ask me about how to work through the fear being projected on her from the outside world about her new methods of embracing metaphysics. It is always a funny concept to me because we often think of our new ideas as strange and unaccetable to the rest of the world. Would you apologize if you were getting more involved in reading the bible or starting a new career? Maybe, if you had a block to it before and it feel strange and unlike the old you. But that is the point isn't it? Not to be the old you, running in circles TRYING to find what makes you happy. You have found a catch and you are going with it. No apologies necessary. Not only that but the people that are around you may reflect the old you that you are shedding. This either means you need new friends or the friends you have will grow with you (not always at the same pace, so be patient). What is doesn't mean is that there is something wrong with you.
If you are establishing new relationships, be it friends or lovers, now is the time to start fresh with the growth. Tell them who you are at this point and time, not who you think they want you to be. That was the old you. The new you is proud of who you are and what you are up to. You don't want to create even more relationships rooted in the false you. It is time to root yourself in YOUR image of you and let the rest of the world take it or leave it. Trust me, there are plenty of people who will gladly take it. It is your gift to give!
Insightful Inspirations of the week
If you feel you aren't safe to fully express who you are, why? What is the worst case scenario? How likely is that scenario? Do you think the real you is unlovable? Do you think the world can't handle the truth of you? What about the concept that the world has a hard time handling all the images you try to pretend are you? The illusions you are projecting of yourself block you off to the fullfillment you want. You can't live the life you want to live if you won't be present to live it. Work with yourself on being more authentic in every situation and make note where you can't. Whether it be a new endevor or something you are just holding onto for a lifetime, work on letting it out. You will be surprised in the gifts it brings.
The interaction between the fourth and first chakra can be very intense. As I read this for people I see a lot of past-life energy stored here as well as struggles to love ourselves and the world and feel safe. This is about feeling safe to love. The pictures within shows a funny example of when you think it is safe the love knocks you over and you aren't so sure!
This space is about survival in love. Love of the planet, love of yourself, love of friends, love of lovers, etc. Have you ever broken up with someone and it hurt so much you felt like you were going to die with pain? That is the first and fourth communicating. This doesn't have to be a painful thing though. But often times we feel threatened to open ourselves up to love, because we feel vulnerable and unsafe. We feel like if we show too much love, people will take advantage of us and hurt us.
However, when they are communicating, we are in touch with the power of love and feel safe in that feeling. Which to me, is one of the best feelings in the world. We feel our connection between us and the world we live in. We feel safe to nurture ourselves and others because we do not fear the consequences, we just trust them. This can be a powerful enhancer of your ability to happy in your life. If you don't feel safe to connect with love... this makes social situations painful, the planet feel unsafe, and the world seems like a cold and lonely place.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Check in with yourself. Do you think this communication is working? Do you feel safe to offer love to everyone? Are there certain people you don't feel safe to love? How come you don't feel safe? Do you have the mindset that being open to love is naive and makes you an easy target?
We are all connected and connecting is safe on so many levels. When done with the intention of love and compassion, the returns can be astounding. This week, try and open yourself up to love someone you wouldn't normally feel safe to do so with. Maybe it is the homeless guy on the street and you ofter him a smile and eye contact. Maybe it is your signifant other who has hurt you in some way and you open yourself up to show that it hurt because you LOVE them and care, not that you are closed off to them.
Find safety in love. It is the only thing that gets us through the day.
Have a love filled week!