Have you ever noticed how much time we spend trying to convince someone of something we believe in? Maybe it’s your political view, a big life decision, or even your explanation for how you’re doing “fine.” You might find yourself describing your choices in great detail—almost as if you need the other person to understand so that you can believe it yourself.

We are meant to create, not just once, but repeatedly. Creation is our destiny. It’s what keeps us engaged, satisfied, and growing. It’s not the having of the thing we dreamed up; it’s the process of dreaming, building, shaping, and moving forward.

Don’t be diminished by those around

Start by not diminishing others around you. Even if they are engaging in the shame, blame and judgment as a way to motivate you, don’t play. Go beyond those techniques of manipulation and control and start lifting yourself and other’s up.

If you struggle to do this, that is okay. Start somewhere. Notice that by just setting the mention to drop the need to be right all of the time, shifts your relationships and your life.