Do you think with your head or your heart? Why not both?
Tap into yourself! Let your wisdom run deep and wide. Notice which parts of yourself you labeling as "bad" or "useless". Does it make sense that you are labeling it that way? What are you telling yourself is the reason for doing so? Look into those reasons. Can you play devils advocate and debunk them?
Try and see if you can open yourself up to a different perspective. Go through the energy centers this way and see if you can have them both at the same time, fully and completely, or does one get sacrificed for the other?