Taking Responsibility Without Beating Yourself up
Our thoughts are our magic, our intentions are spells cast to make them happen. Everything around you is something you have created. Good or bad...no exceptions. The key is to start taking responsibility for what you have created. Own it, use it for your highest good and the highest good of the planet...see what happens next.
The downside of knowing this is people often beat themselves up for what they are creating. They shame themselves into things instead of embracing the truth about the law of attraction. Shaming uses the law of attraction's power in a way that feels heavy with responsibility and actually blocks desires and manifestations.
Here is an interesting angle presented by Abraham Hicks.
Drop the Shoulds
First, know that "should," "have to," "must," etc. don't serve you. You are placing responsibility on your manifesting space and bringing in the heavy, bogged down space that actually blocks it.
There is no such thing as should or have to. There is only a choice, your choice, to put your energy into places you desire. Realize that where your energy is going now, you are willingly giving it. You are in charge – where do you want your energy to go? What do you want to create in the world around you? Who do you really want to be in that world
Make Friends with your Desires
Stop apologizing for what you want. As long as you are in alignment with your greatest desires, you will find truth in what you can have and what you really want. I often see people afraid to even look at their true desires for fear it will throw their whole life off course. They feel like they "have to" stay on the path they have chosen and they soldier on, wondering why they are becoming more and more unhappy.
We are taught not to be selfish or greedy and those are great traits to avoid. But rather than avoiding something, how about moving toward what you want instead?. Most people want love, connection, peace, a feeling of faith and trust in themselves and the world around them.
What do you want? Do you even know? Have you ever really given yourself the space to answer those questions without taking into account your limitations, responsibilities and/or other people's projections about what you "should" want? Take a moment to write those desires down. Your desires may change over time, and that is okay too.
Instant gratification is another negative force that keeps us from fully allowing ourselves to stay in touch with our desires. We think that if we desire it, we must have it...NOW! Therefore if we feel we can't have it now, we won't even acknowledge wanting it. The pain of acknowledging the desire and not having it met is too great, so we avoid the desire.
However, if you can turn that desire back into playful pursuit you can shift how you go about finding ways to meet the desire. Like a scavenger hunt, begin to look for ways that the universe is already helping you manifest what you want and letting you come into more alignment with receiving it.
Don't examine everything
Once we get going with being more aware and present with ourselves we can sometimes take it too far. Yes, pay attention to your thoughts, intentions, and emotions, but don't examine everything.
Your mind tricks you into wanting to categorize things into good or bad. It is trying to convince you that if you only do it "right" you will feel great all of the time and never have another problem.
To avoid problems is not the point. Align yourself with the great creator within you. Play with life and all that you create and trust yourself.
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