How can you manifest what you are worth if you don't know what you are worth and you aren't facing what is blocking you from that knowledge. Self worth is a great place to start in figuring out how you are blocked to manifesting what you want.Read More
Filtering by Tag: thoughts
For the most part people don’t see you, they see their idea of you, through their own filters of what they are. It is important to remember this when taking feedback from other’s or allowing other people to be the directors of your inner story.
On the flip side, it is also important for you to remember you do it too. Take ownership of your projections as your own inner truth and you have a whole new way of working with subconscious mind. Working with the subconscious mind, helps you see how your reality is being shaped by beliefs that you have, that you don’t even know you are manifesting from.Read More
Let's get real, no one goes through life without the sting of betrayal. It is part of the journey we are on. As you become more aware of the concept that you create your own reality, you must also take responsibility for everything you experience as something you have created.Read More
People get falsely lured into thinking that if you just know what is coming next, you will be okay and things will go well. Even if we can see the tidal waves coming, we can't always escape being swept away by them. In fact, if you can see them, the chances are you are going to get swept away by them.
Let me tell you quite bluntly, the fear of the unknown is holding you back. You don't have to wait for all things to be clear to trust your gut. You don't have to ask yourself what will be, you just have to look around and see what is.Read More
Emotions seem to be the easiest thing to share amongst friends; it's almost like a virus. One person feels happy and passes on to the next and the next and so on. That is ideal... but not always how it goes.
More often one person in line is angry and yelling at the cashier which puts you in a "what is wrong with people?" mood which leads you to go home and yell at your kids, which makes them mad at the each other and so on. Emotions are contagious and the sooner we learn to recognize the difference between our emotions and the people we are with, the easier time we will have in knowing ourselves.
Empathy as a survival skill
Empathy is defined by dictionary.comas "the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another." If you are experiencing the feelings, thoughts or attitudes of another, how do you know you are acting in your own best interest and not the person you are empathizing with? If you are identifying with someone else's emotions and making decisions based on those emotions, they may not be right for you.
Empathy can be a survival skill. When we are born we can't talk yet and don't know much about the reality we have just arrived in. With this skill of empathy, we can read each others thoughts and emotions and make decisions on how we will engage with the environment.
"What am I really feeling?"
Things go off track when we don't know where our thoughts and feelings start and the other person's begin. We are always picking up on each other's energy in subtle ways. We feel each others state of mind and often change our behavior and feelings about the situation accordingly.
If you can begin to acknowledge when this sharing of energy is happening, you can begin to understand yourself more clearly and start setting new intentions. By paying attention to your ability to pick up on other people's thoughts and emotions, you begin to see when you are letting someone else's negativity win.
By becoming aware of how easily you change course based on what another person is doing or feeling you will be able to stop being a victim of others and empower yourself to dictate your mood and actions.
What mood are you bringing to the room?
It is also helpful to observe those around you, especially children, as they pick up on your moods. Watch for that moment from when they switch over to what they were feeling independently to what they are feeling when they notice you. Then ask yourself, is this how I want others to feel around me?
You have more power than you think. If you walk into a room defensive and uptight, that is how the room will respond. This isn't to control how everyone else is feeling, but just to set an intention within yourself of the influence you want to be in the world.
Our thoughts are our magic, our intentions are spells cast to make them happen. Everything around you is something you have created. Good or bad...no exceptions. The key is to start taking responsibility for what you have created. Own it, use it for your highest good and the highest good of the planet...see what happens next.
The downside of knowing this is people often beat themselves up for what they are creating. They shame themselves into things instead of embracing the truth about the law of attraction. Shaming uses the law of attraction's power in a way that feels heavy with responsibility and actually blocks desires and manifestations.Read More
An unconscious mantra is the things we say out loud or in our head to ourselves without even paying attention to what we are saying that works as an incantation or prayer to the universe. In other words the announcements we make out loud that bring more of the same into our lives. How do we identify these mantras and change them?Read More
We have all heard the down and out stories of how people hit rock bottom and that was the catalyst for the rising up. We have heard those stories of triumph over the impossible negativity we see in the world. We are overcoming little "rock bottoms" all of the time. It is our success over our struggles that gives us the trust in ourselves to take risks and carry on. It is the success in our moments of weakness, that remind us of our strength.Read More
Often we are a cluster of pain programs and suffering. Natalie Merchant's "Break Your Heart" lyrics "don't spread the discontent, don't spread the lies" is excellent advice to move past that stage into one of contentment.
You have heard it a thousand times from me and other self-help guidance counselors to "think positive" or "love yourself first." Of course you know that is what you are supposed to do. So why aren't you doing it?
The Shame of Thinking Positively
Thinking positive isn't always well received by our peers and authority figures. Often when we come to our bosses with good news, they shame us into noticing what is broken and needs to be fixed. We get obsessed at looking at what isn't working as a way to try and encourage it to work.
Our peers perceive our positive thinking as naive or thoughtless. They see us taking our eyes away from what needs to be done to focus on the flakey behavior of "free thinkers" and rebels.
See if you can find your positive-thinking shamers and as kindly as you can, ask them to help you shift. Make them your biggest advocates for positive thinking. If they aren't up to the job, or you don't feel like you can ask them, work on releasing their opinion from the top of the meaningful pile. Try and reduce how seriously you take their opinion and know they are projecting their own limitations onto you.
Suffering to Deserve
Another thing we often do is "suffer enough to deserve." Sick enough to deserve help. Worked hard enough to deserve a break. Struggled enough to deserve something better.
Catch yourself "suffering to deserve." Shift it up and allow yourself permission to deserve from a different place. Deserve help because we all desire connection and to help each other. Deserve a break because you are always doing your best. Deserve something better because you have learned from your mistakes and are ready to learn from your successes too.
Expectations and Assumptions
You cannot pretend you don't feel bad, that is suppression of your energy. But what I am suggesting is to check in when you are stuck in automatic pilot with feeling bad. You can feel bad and then give yourself permission to feel good.
Even when you look around and don't see any good yet. This isn't a fake it activity. This is just about realizing that in what you expect to see is what you will see. If I suggest to you to notice all the blue cars on the road today, you will. Your mind enhances what you focus on. If you expect to see kindness and love from people, you will. Change up your expectations to find negative experiences lurking around every corner. Change up your assumptions about people and how you will be treated and see what happens next. This doesn't mean there won't be people who will hurt you or be rude, but your mind will hold onto the positive experiences more easily.
Here is more on how beliefs are driving your experiences from my Coaching Club videos.
I love my job! The conversations I have with the unseen helpers in our lives, always excites me. I am motivated by inspirations, intentions to help and the improvements I see in others. I am not motivated by the concept of more, torturing myself to perform unattainable goals, but ushering myself into doing even more of what I love. How are you motivating yourself to get to your next level? How are you monitoring your progress on that goal? Here is a fun way to think of setting intentions that doesn't require struggle and stress.
Think of your desire for an outcome to be like that purchase of a train ticket to that outcome. For example, you want to find a job. You buy this ticket and get on the train of that intention. You trust that as you sit down on this train you are getting to your desired outcome. This doesn't mean you do nothing while on this train. But what it does mean is you have to stay on the train. Don't look out the window to see if you are on the right track, look out the window knowing you are and you are enjoying the journey. Don't stop the train and try to go somewhere else midway because you aren't sure you will get there, keep steady on your intention. Know that you are on the right track if you are remaining loving, positive and in alignment with yourself and your intentions.
You might want to respond "Well when you buy a train ticket you know where you are going and that you will for sure get there. How do I know I will get there? Every time I look for a sign that I am getting there, I don't see it."
Here is the response, "You can't buy a train ticket from California to Kansas and expect to see Kansas every time you look out the window at the track. The landscape changes frequently as you travel to your intended destination."
We put out our intentions for things to happen, not realizing several landscape changes have to happen first to let that change take place. We get fearful as the changes happen, we doubt, we fret and we get impatient. All of this gets in the way of us allowing things to happen and flow in as we have requested.
What track of intention are you on? Are you watching the landscape change and allowing it to morph into the intention you have already set or are you trying to control it by trying to see too far ahead? If you have set an intentional destination for yourself get on that train and trust it will take you there. Let yourself notice your own barriers to your travels and gently maneuver around them allowing your life to make room for this intention you have set. A little patience might help here too. :)
My weak spot in my body is my lower back. It is actually part of what started me on the journey to wake up and pay attention to what is really happening. Anyway, I have a massage therapist that I use that is nothing more than a miracle worker! She just can get right to the issue and get it out for me. My back being out today gave me the motivation to write about how our energy is energy and what our bodies do is what the rest of our energy systems do too. For example, when she gets into a tight spot, the body flinches and protects the spot. It is painful and it doesn't want to feel this pain. At this point in the massage you have two choices, skip the spot or dig in deeper. If you skip it, the problem remains and festers, eventually causing more problems throughout the body. If you dig in deeper, the body resists the pain, but eventually is forced to let go and relax. What a gift to let it go! Now it may be sore and need healing after the release, but it is so much better than hanging on to it.
Now apply this emotions. We avoid the painful ones and stuff them when they come up. Problems come up because of this and it festers and causes more problems. If we just feel the emotions and get it out, it releases and we move on.
Apply this to mental processes. If we avoid things that are difficult or just think about the surface issue over and over, you never get that thought resolved and it takes away the energy to process other things. But if you dig in and figure out why you are mentally processing something, you can resolve it with more clarity.
You get the point, it might be better to focus on things rather than let it hang out and cause problems.
I want to share a video with you of my son. He is reading from my book, Insightful Inspirations, and he is reflecting (on his own, unscripted and unplanned) about his experiences with getting hung up on a blind cord. :( His advice, stop trying to ignore it. Face it and let it go.
Insightful Inspiration Get a massage! Well, okay that is just a nice to have. Notice where you are feeling pain, tension or struggle and avoiding actually digging in. If these are particularly painful places to go to, get some help! Coaches, counselors, therapists, ministers, ME... we are all here to help you work through the painful places so you can release them. Support, to help you face what you aren't facing and move past it. What a gift. Give it a shot! :)
I am probably going to have this post pop up with a bunch of porn sites with my title choice... but this is something I have been thinking about for awhile. How come we have pleasures in life that we should feel guilty about? If you ready my blog you know I love to define things first. So here we go... Guilty, according to dictionary.com - having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; justly subject to a certain accusation or penalty; culpable: The jury found her guilty of murder. Wikipedia describes please as - Pleasure describes the broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking.
So in other words, guilty pleasures means an enjoyable mental state that is a crime or wrong.
When I think of guilty pleasures I thinking of chocolate, a drama movie or an extra long nap. To me those are things I am indulging in. Things that maybe make me happy but shouldn't. How is that possible... how could my happiness be wrong? Maybe it is the over indulgence in these pleasures that sends it over into unhappiness that is really wrong. (too much of a good thing) The rest is programming... I should like to eat something healthy, instead I am craving sugar.
Too me in the essence of trusting your own intuition and your own energetic needs, if you crave a guilty pleasure, you should go for it. But I guess I would add a caviat that you were in balance with yourself first. If you are grounded, centered and clear and you still want chocolate... what is the harm? A balanced person probably would have balanced pleasures. Where it is guilty is when we are out of balance with ourselves and desire things that aren't good for us.
So really what we are guilty of is not pleasure but being out of balance. This sounds more like it! This sounds more reasonable to me. Heck, there is even a Web MD page on being out of balance, that is how common it is.
Next time you feel a "guilty pleasure" coming on, stop and consider maybe something else it out of balance. Consider giving yourself a break to balance your feelings, mental state and physical body together and then check in with that pleasure. Do you still want it in a balanced state? If yes, but you still feel guilty, you may just be bullying yourself with "have tos
I often make the wonderful mistake of sharing my guides messages with my husband, only to have them thrown back at me constantly for the next month. I actually do love it, but this one was a challenge because it came up often. The guidance for me was that if I am not contributing love to it, I shouldn't put energy into. That meant everything! I thought, I am a loving, accepting, spiritual person... that should be no problem. Holy Cow! It was harder than you think. It wasn't long before I found myself hitting walls with it. The first place it came up was with my kids! The people I love an accept the most. As they began to act out and do their normal kid things, I found myself getting worked up and frustrated. This was not contributing love to the situation. The first time this happened, I sent love to my youngest son (just with my heart and mind, not saying a word) and he began to calm down before my eyes. It would seem that would be enough to anchor the guidance in. But I am human too and these situations arise again and again. Thank goodness for my husband (although maybe not thinking that at the time) as he yells out "send it love!" everytime I begin to slip up.
Here is where I struggled to send love, but did so anyway: when I was being judged, when I felt hurt, when I felt out of control, when I felt victimized in some way, and when I took things personally. So now I know my triggers, I pay attention to why my guides would be so insistent on this guidance. It quickly became clear that when I couldn't send love to something I was feeling separate and disconnected and contibuting to that disconnect for everyone else! Eek. Not something I would ever want to do consciously. It also made me feel drained and weakened my energy system. Again, something I want to avoid.
I am choosing to pay attention to these situations and contribute love as often as I can. I am human and have to give myself permission to my emotions, but I can still send it love while feeling my own emotions. It is kind of like putting oil on something in the oven. It is still going to cook, the oil is just makes it more tender. :)
I pass this challenge on to you. Send love to absolutely every situation you can this week. Notice when you struggle to do this and see if it gives you information about yourself and where you may be loosing yourself through out the day. These are the situations that drain you of your positive energy. As always, I invite you to share your experiences.
What is the value of frustration? It is a feeling we have all felt and worked with. On a higher level, what is the purpose of it? Wikipedia has frustration defined as "a common emotional response to opposition." If we disect that a bit, it is basically our response to things around us not being in alignment with where we are. So does that mean we should change or the environment around us needs to change? I 100% believe, based on personal experience as well as working with clients, that when we change ourselves, the environment automatically responds. If we are aware of our inner workings, we will be aware of what our frustration is truly asking for. The difficulty is that frustration is often very distracting from doing anything mindfully, unless you let it. Abraham-Hicks says that everything is about two things, what is wanted and what isn't. What ever you put energy on expands and often when we are frustrated we focus on what is frustrating us, which is what isn't wanted, which causes it to expand. This blogger, http://www.discoveringpeace.com/the-abraham-hicks-emotional-guidance-scale.html, posted the emotional scale leading back to peace, based on Abraham-Hicks' teachings. So if we follow this theory, we focus on the source of frustration,which causes us to feel overwhelmed, which if we focus on what is overwhelming us, causes us to be dissappointed, when we focus on the disappointment, we go into doubt... and so on. We are in a downward spiral until we either hit bottom (Fear) or reverse what we are focusing on.
So lets apply this to a standard struggle... finding a job you love and enjoy. If you are feeling frustrated with the idea that you don't have a job you love and enjoy and you focus on what you don't have, you will slip down this scale. However, if you use this feeling to help you realize what you do want, a job that fulfills you and comes to you easily, then you may at first feel like it isn't possible to have it, but if you still continue to focus on what you want, your pesimissim will fade and you will just begin to be bored with your current situation, which may motivate you to have optimism that if you use that boredom to focus on what you want you can have it. Up that ladder you go! As long as you continue to choose to focus on what you want, you should be able to rise up to what you can feel joy over. To some, this sounds impossible. But let me tell you... this is so true. Difficult to practice some times, because we are trained to focus on what isn't working... but SO true if you consciously choose your path.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Choose the path to joy. Use your frustration to tell you what you are in opposition about. What are you trying to point out to yourself. If you can work on letting yourself focus on what you want, regardless of the apparent obsticles, you will prove to yourself your own power over your life and well being. Give it a shot and share with me on Facebook what keeps you from being able to follow through with this, we might be able to give you some ideas on what will help you continue to move in the right direction!
Separation is kind of the key to all things that ail us in these human bodies. We are separate from one another in form and mind but not in spirit and reality. Together we create our reality, but we do so from separate minds and experiences. This provides a ripe learning ground for our souls, but a lot of complicated matters for our perceptions. When we perceive ourselves to be separate we believe that we must fight another for the resources that are available. We believe that we better or worse than someone else. We believe that judgement of someone else is necessary to gauge ourselves. We believe that our actions don't always affect others if they don't know about it or see it. We believe that as separate beings we are alone, most of the time. I once heard someone say "You are born alone and you die alone, get use to it."
We are, however, very connected in all ways. Our energy entangle together in all things. We know this deep down within ourselves. Most of us as humans learn compassion and empathy, which leads us to connecting with other people's experiences of the world. Most of us forget at times that others do not know the world exactly as we know it and forget to explain things from our point of view, thinking everyone should already know it. Most of us feel the need to connect with at least one other person on a regular basis, in order to feel fulfilled. Most of us are capable of seeing that our actions do affect others and make choices accordingly. We never completely forget our connection either.
When we see each other as reflections of ourselves, we can begin to see we are fragmenting what was once whole, to better understand it. When we can see that the illusion of separate is mearly an experiement in better understanding, we still respect the connections we all have. When we are able to connect to the real dilemas of being separate we can appreciate the true gift of connection.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Contemplate this idea that you are a separate being from everyone else around your. Your ideas, experiences, perceptions are all your own, shared by no one. Then contemplate all the ways you are connected to others and how others have effects on you ideas, choices, actions, etc. Take notice where your actions, feelings, etc. have an effect on others. Are there any adjustments you want to make to this perception of connected versus separate? Do you want to balance this perception out one way or another a little more or are you happy with your current believes. Weigh the benefits of both and see how that automatically shifts your idea on the subject.
When you listen to recorded meditations you often are told to feel your body. Feel your feet, your legs, etc. This slows down and distracts the mental self. It gives it something to do. It also brings you into awareness of yourself, reminding you of yourself in the separate body, because we are often unconsciously melding with the world. It helps you bring yourself back to the parts that are you with helps with centering and grounding, two things essential for your energetic health. It is often said in metaphysics, where your attention goes energy flows. So I would suppose the opposite is true, where your attention doesn’t go energy doesn’t flow. What would happen to your body, life, energy if you just shifted this one thing? Started flowing energy to a part of your body that is frequent left out. What would happen if every morning for 1 minute, you focus on bringing energy to place inside of you? Why not experiment and see… I am not going to tell you what to expect, but trust me, even the littlest of changes in your energy awareness can have big effects. Pain in those places does not have to be the only way for it to get attention.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
But my blog for you today is not only to remember to breathe and feel your body throughout the day, but to notice what you don’t notice. Pay attention to the parts of your body you ignore or reject. The parts of you, you really don’t allow your consciousness to. Maybe it is your feet or maybe it is your belly because you don’t like the way it looks. It could be your back because when you think about it, it hurts. Just make a mental note of the part of your body that is most ignored. Then spend one minute a day sending loving energy to that place. Visualizing energy moving around this ignored spot in your body. Then pay attention to any shifts that occur. As always, you are welcome to share your experiences.
I was reading Dragonspell to my oldest son this week, that I picked up from the used bookstore, Calico Books. I love used bookstores! Anyway, there was a line in it that I thought was so true I was inspired to blog on it. The line said "I'm changing so much on the inside. I keep learning things that seem to me I should have known all along." How true this is. When you are in a self transformation, the changes are happening in places no one can see, but everyone can feel. Often times this new awareness and knowledge feels like things we should have known all along. Probably because we do know it, we just chose to keep it hidden until we were ready. The thing I tell everyone is that your beliefs changes with the understanding of yourself and the world. It doesn't make your old beliefs wrong, it just makes them out of date. They were right for you at one point as are your new beliefs right for you now. Sometimes we are unwilling to let go of old beliefs just because we have built so much of our lives around it, it would mean admitting it all had to change to change the belief. It would mean admitting that somewhere along the line we made a wrong turn. We made decisions out of the wrong belief system. So, we often times just stay stuck in an old way of thinking, just to keep ourselves from having to make these drastic changes.
My proposal is, rather than looking to the outside world and saying "there is so much to do", let the changes that are happening within you help you shape your world, with ease not effort. Try and just let go of the idea that you were ever wrong or that where you are now is not where you are suppose to be. Instead, embrace where you are as perfection and flow with the changes that are coming from within you, without judgement or fear.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
Inside yourself is all the wisdom you need. It is always waiting for you to discover it. Even if it looks like an outside source, i.e. a blog, a book, a mentor, these external realities are being created from your inner wisdom. Check in with what you are beating yourself up over not "knowing" before. Let go of judging yourself from this place and see this new awareness that you "should have" known all along as coming in at the exact right moment. Before now, you were not ready to see yourself and the world with this knowledge. Now the changes on the inside have lead you to a new definition, which asks you to be fluid as your awareness is always expanding and redefining the world as you know it. Let go of the fear of change and old ways of thinking and embrace the things you knew all along but weren't ready for them yet. Flow with it, you will love the results!
This post is inspired by a video clip from the Ted conference that a client of mine sent me. I love this message so much, and it is one I personally subscribe to as often as possible, but being a natural born perfectionist, need reminding of daily. That message is that it is OKAY to be wrong. No really, I swear. It helps us learn. Similar to the challenges post last week, this is me, encouraging you to face your mistakes like wonderful gifts and embrace them. Here is the clip by Kathryn c on being wrong.Shttp://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html
The open mind, the one that is willing to be wrong once in awhile for better ideas than the ones that they currently have, is in my opinion the best gift of all. The Free Dictionary defines an open mind as having a mind that is open and receptive to new ideas. But to me, this means you are willing to say that your current ideas might be wrong. Always willing to reconsider.
The think about giving up old ideas for the sake of new ones, doesn't mean your old ones were ever wrong. For you, they were right, just then. But there comes a time when maybe that idea no longer serves your reality and it is time to look at things differently. Sometimes the only reason we are not willing to do this is because we are afraid to admit we made old decisions from the wrong place. But how about instead of thinking that we are ever wrong, but still being willing to admit it, we think we are always flexible in what can and cannot be true.
I know, I can hear the arguments already. But just try this out a bit on your own "wrong" way of thinking and see if you want to make it "right" for yesterday, but "wrong" for today.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
What thought patterns are you hanging on to that are "wrong" today? What is the world trying to fight you on right now that you are "right fighting" for? Are you open minded enough to explore other possibilities? Can you be willing to let yourself admit you are wrong, to see things differently? Find the freedom that comes from not always having to be right? Give it a try, just admit you are wrong on some things this week. Wear it proudly and show that you are willing to admit it and try things from a new direction. Humble yourself a bit and join the human race. "To err is human" which means it must have a divine key to our ability to be the best humans we can.
We often find ourselves wishing for life to easier. Dreaming of the day when life is more peaceful, abundance, predictable, etc. But if life were all predictable and easy, wouldn't you be bored? I know... I hear you saying it "I could use a little boredum". But challenges are opprortunities! Opportunities for growth and awareness and better understanding of yourself in the world around you. If you can scream "Yippie!" everytime life threatens a challenge, trust me you will start to feel better. I know you can't expect this from yourself 100% of the time, but give it a try with something small that you have been feeling annoyed about. See how changing the challenge to an opportunity, just in your mind, changes your experience with it.
Insightful Inspiration for the week
What challenges are you wishing you didn't have to deal with this week? Is there a challenge you can change to an opportunity? Look at this issue with new eyes that ask "what can I learn here?" or "What positive thing can I get out of the experience?" Don't lie to yourself and try and fake you love all your challenges. Pick something easy, that you can start to play with a bit. Once you learn that it works, then go bigger and bigge
Resistance is an interesting part of the energy field. I use it in a lot of ways in my work. It tells me when someone is believing what they say, for example " I want this new job." I can tell if there is resistance to that thought or not. I can tell if they are able to handle energy healing they are receiving, getting a little push back or resistance when they can. I also use it to find programs inside people, that are no longer working. For example, I MUST work a job in XYZ because that is what I have always done, but I can't seem to get a job there any more. This shows me that you might be being asked to look for something new, but you are resisting. It also identifies that there is fear there about letting go for some reason. Sometimes we have a hard time reading our own resistance or we logic it out and explain why we should be in resistance. But if you pay attention, you can find where you can move into flow and out of resistance. Sometimes we are pushed so hard by the helping forces we can no longer resist because we have no energy left to do so, or things have gotten so hard we have no choice. But you don't have to get there before you stat paying attention.
Insightful Inspiration of the week
Look for places you feel resistance. Are you trying to do things the same way as always, only to be met with unexpected results or failure? Are you trying to push yourself too hard? Ask yourself where you can let go of this struggle a bit. Find out why you do it, i.e. because you always have, because you don't know any other way, because you are afraid not to. Spend a moment making an agreement with yourself to pay attention to this resistance and gently allow it to change. Resistance is only helping to show you where you are not in the flow. You can move out of it and return to the flow if you only pay attention.