Insightful Inspirations - Leanne Holitza

Energy healing, intuitive guidance, oracle cards

Leanne Holitza is an Intuitive healer working with your energy and thoughts to align you with your highest potential. Allowing you to experience more of what you already have, making room for more.  This site offers help with all areas of life through individual sessions, classes, yoga sessions, and more. My expertise also includes working with intuitive children. 

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Manifesting what you are Worth

How can you manifest what you are worth if you don't know what you are worth and you aren't facing what is blocking you from that knowledge. Self worth is a great place to start in figuring out how you are blocked to manifesting what you want. 

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The Energy of Betrayal - A Fifth Dimensional Approach

Let's get real, no one goes through life without the sting of betrayal. It is part of the journey we are on. As you become more aware of the concept that you create your own reality, you must also take responsibility for everything you experience as something you have created. 

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Are those mine or yours? - Contagious Emotions

Emotions seem to be the easiest thing to share amongst friends; it's almost like a virus. One person feels happy and passes on to the next and the next and so on. That is ideal... but not always how it goes.

More often one person in line is angry and yelling at the cashier which puts you in a "what is wrong with people?" mood which leads you to go home and yell at your kids, which makes them mad at the each other and so on. Emotions are contagious and the sooner we learn to recognize the difference between our emotions and the people we are with, the easier time we will have in knowing ourselves.

Empathy as a survival skill

Empathy is defined by dictionary.comas "the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another." If you are experiencing the feelings, thoughts or attitudes of another, how do you know you are acting in your own best interest and not the person you are empathizing with? If you are identifying with someone else's emotions and making decisions based on those emotions, they may not be right for you.

Empathy can be a survival skill. When we are born we can't talk yet and don't know much about the reality we have just arrived in. With this skill of empathy, we can read each others thoughts and emotions and make decisions on how we will engage with the environment.

"What am I really feeling?"

Things go off track when we don't know where our thoughts and feelings start and the other person's begin. We are always picking up on each other's energy in subtle ways. We feel each others state of mind and often change our behavior and feelings about the situation accordingly.

If you can begin to acknowledge when this sharing of energy is happening, you can begin to understand yourself more clearly and start setting new intentions. By paying attention to your ability to pick up on other people's thoughts and emotions, you begin to see when you are letting someone else's negativity win.

By becoming aware of how easily you change course based on what another person is doing or feeling you will be able to stop being a victim of others and empower yourself to dictate your mood and actions. 

What mood are you bringing to the room?

It is also helpful to observe those around you, especially children, as they pick up on your moods. Watch for that moment from when they switch over to what they were feeling independently to what they are feeling when they notice you.  Then ask yourself, is this how I want others to feel around me? 

You have more power than you think. If you walk into a room defensive and uptight, that is how the room will respond. This isn't to control how everyone else is feeling, but just to set an intention within yourself of the influence you want to be in the world. 

Thanks to the Rock Bottom

We have all heard the down and out stories of how people hit rock bottom and that was the catalyst for the rising up. We have heard those stories of triumph over the impossible negativity we see in the world. We are overcoming little "rock bottoms" all of the time. It is our success over our struggles that gives us the trust in ourselves to take risks and carry on. It is the success in our moments of weakness, that remind us of our strength.

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Don't spread the discontent

Often we  are a cluster of pain programs and suffering. Natalie Merchant's "Break Your Heart" lyrics "don't spread the discontent, don't spread the lies" is excellent advice to move past that stage into one of contentment. 

You have heard it a thousand times from me and other self-help guidance counselors to "think positive" or "love yourself first." Of course you know that is what you are supposed to do. So why aren't you doing it?

The Shame of Thinking Positively

Thinking positive isn't always well received by our peers and authority figures. Often when we come to our bosses with good news, they shame us into noticing what is broken and needs to be fixed. We get obsessed at looking at what isn't working as a way to try and encourage it to work. 

Our peers perceive our positive thinking as naive or thoughtless. They see us taking our eyes away from what needs to be done to focus on the flakey behavior of "free thinkers" and rebels.

See if you can find your positive-thinking shamers and as kindly as you can, ask them to help you shift. Make them your biggest advocates for positive thinking. If they aren't up to the job, or you don't feel like you can ask them, work on releasing their opinion from the top of the meaningful pile. Try and reduce how seriously you take their opinion and know they are projecting their own limitations onto you.

Suffering to Deserve

Another thing we often do is "suffer enough to deserve."  Sick enough to deserve help. Worked hard enough to deserve a break. Struggled enough to deserve something better. 

Catch yourself "suffering to deserve." Shift it up and allow yourself permission to deserve from a different place. Deserve help because we all desire connection and to help each other. Deserve a break because you are always doing your best. Deserve something better because you have learned from your mistakes and are ready to learn from your successes too.

Expectations and Assumptions

You cannot pretend you don't feel bad, that is suppression of your energy. But what I am suggesting is to check in when you are stuck in automatic pilot with feeling bad. You can feel bad and then give yourself permission to feel good.

Even when you look around and don't see any good yet. This isn't a fake it activity. This is just about realizing that in what you expect to see is what you will see. If I suggest to you to notice all the blue cars on the road today, you will. Your mind enhances what you focus on. If you expect to see kindness and love from people, you will. Change up your expectations to find negative experiences lurking around every corner. Change up your assumptions about people and how you will be treated and see what happens next. This doesn't mean there won't be people who will hurt you or be rude, but your mind will hold onto the positive experiences more easily.

Here is more on how beliefs are driving your experiences from my Coaching Club videos.

Energy Addictions and the Stories We Tell Ourselves

We are natural storytellers. We love to pass on information through stories. The story tellers of indigenous tribes are generally held in very high esteem. We read books, watch movies and have conversations revolving around telling stories. 


Some of these things are true and some of them lies. But they are all good stories.
— Hilary Mantel

There is a risk with passing on stories, and that is misinformation. We tend to pass on stories no matter what their validity. If it feels real to us, it is real. This is why we have websites like Snopes, so we can check out facts or find out we have been duped. This Slate article speaks of a mythical story of panic, reportedly caused by Orsen Welles' fake broadcast on a Martian invasion. This article emphasizes to the fact that we can can pass on untrue stories for a very long time.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves 

How does this play out with subtle energies? Well, not only do we tell our stories to others, but the stories we tell ourselves are the ones we can get most duped by. First, because  we generally don't share our full stories to others we don't get called out on how false they are. Second, because the voice we hear loudest is our own. Whatever the story is we tell ourselves, is the story we believe, defend and create in our lives. 

For me, the story of how much time I have versus how much time I think I need is never in balance. It isn't an uncommon story. I share this story with many others around me, which makes it worse. We all perpetuate the time struggle.  

When a story becomes an addition

Oh how we love to spin.

Oh how we love to spin.

As I become more stressed, I start to spin my story deeper and deeper. Anyone who tries to convince me that my story is unreasonable is likely to get a defensive response and I weave the further the story in order to convince the other person that my stress is valid. This does me no good on an energy level, but I am hooked and I do it anyway. It is like a drug and I lose my power to it.

As I have worked with people over the years, I have seen clear energetic addictions in most people's lives, some are healthy, others are not. Most of it has to do with how you learned to be in the world. What your parents, teachers and peers showed you your life was like.

The Cure

As much as you can blame your parents or society for your imbalances it is ultimately your awareness and intention to change that bringing you into balance again. For whatever reason, your soul wanted to learn that lesson by being in it and then bring yourself out of it. So now is the time to change the story. Start finding new ways to tell yourself how to get things done or engage with your friends. 

Some other examples of negative energetic addictions include drama, anger, sadness, hopelessness, victimization and "work." You may even use these states of being to motivate you. Motivate you to go to work, make a change or just get out of bed in the morning. Paying attention is always the key to these things.

Take a moment to notice your energy addictions. Where do you spend a lot of your time? In a state of peace, stress, anger, etc.? Is it possible that you are addicted to this frequent state of being? Take a minute to make a pact with yourself to notice that this energy is a choice. Do you want to choose differently today? Give it a try. Tell yourself you want a new story.

You can also ask some follow-up questions, for example, is this a mental addiction or an emotional one? Where do I store this story in my body? Can I get the same results with a more positive spin on this story? I would love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share. 

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Massage it out

My weak spot in my body is my lower back. It is actually part of what started me on the journey to wake up and pay attention to what is really happening. Anyway, I have a massage therapist that I use that is nothing more than a miracle worker! She just can get right to the issue and get it out for me. My back being out today gave me the motivation to write about how our energy is energy and what our bodies do is what the rest of our energy systems do too. For example, when she gets into a tight spot, the body flinches and protects the spot. It is painful and it doesn't want to feel this pain. At this point in the massage you have two choices, skip the spot or dig in deeper. If you skip it, the problem remains and festers, eventually causing more problems throughout the body. If you dig in deeper, the body resists the pain, but eventually is forced to let go and relax. What a gift to let it go! Now it may be sore and need healing after the release, but it is so much better than hanging on to it.

Now apply this emotions. We avoid the painful ones and stuff them when they come up. Problems come up because of this and it festers and causes more problems. If we just feel the emotions and get it out, it releases and we move on.

Apply this to mental processes. If we avoid things that are difficult or just think about the surface issue over and over, you never get that thought resolved and it takes away the energy to process other things. But if you dig in and figure out why you are mentally processing something, you can resolve it with more clarity.

You get the point, it might be better to focus on things rather than let it hang out and cause problems.

I want to share a video with you of my son. He is reading from my book, Insightful Inspirations, and he is reflecting (on his own, unscripted and unplanned) about his experiences with getting hung up on a blind cord. :(  His advice, stop trying to ignore it. Face it and let it go.

Insightful Inspiration Get a massage! Well, okay that is just a nice to have. Notice where you are feeling pain, tension or struggle and avoiding actually digging in. If these are particularly painful places to go to, get some help! Coaches, counselors, therapists, ministers, ME... we are all here to help you work through the painful places so you can release them. Support, to help you face what you aren't facing and move past it. What a gift. Give it a shot! :)

Guilty Pleasures

I am probably going to have this post pop up with a bunch of porn sites with my title choice... but this is something I have been thinking about for awhile. How come we have pleasures in life that we should feel guilty about? If you ready my blog you know I love to define things first. So here we go... Guilty, according to dictionary.com - having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; justly subject to a certain accusation or penalty; culpable: The jury found her guilty of murder. Wikipedia describes please as - Pleasure describes the broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking.

So in other words, guilty pleasures means an enjoyable mental state that is a crime or wrong.

When I think of guilty pleasures I thinking of chocolate, a drama movie or an extra long nap. To me those are things I am indulging in. Things that maybe make me happy but shouldn't. How is that possible... how could my happiness be wrong? Maybe it is the over indulgence in these pleasures that sends it over into unhappiness that is really wrong. (too much of a good thing) The rest is programming... I should like to eat something healthy, instead I am craving sugar.

Too me in the essence of trusting your own intuition and your own energetic needs, if you crave a guilty pleasure, you should go for it. But I guess I would add a caviat that you were in balance with yourself first. If you are grounded, centered and clear and you still want chocolate... what is the harm? A balanced person probably would have balanced pleasures. Where it is guilty is when we are out of balance with ourselves and desire things that aren't good for us.

So really what we are guilty of is not pleasure but being out of balance.  This sounds more like it! This sounds more reasonable to me. Heck, there is even a Web MD page on being out of balance, that is how common it is.

Insightful Inspiration

Next time you feel a "guilty pleasure" coming on, stop and consider maybe something else it out of balance. Consider giving yourself a break to balance your feelings, mental state and physical body together and then check in with that pleasure. Do you still want it in a balanced state? If yes, but you still feel guilty, you may just be bullying yourself with "have tos

Sending love

I often make the wonderful mistake of sharing my guides messages with my husband, only to have them thrown back at me constantly for the next month. I actually do love it, but this one was a challenge because it came up often. The guidance for me was that if I am not contributing love to it, I shouldn't put energy into. That meant everything! I thought, I am a loving, accepting, spiritual person... that should be no problem. Holy Cow! It was harder than you think. It wasn't long before I found myself hitting walls with it. The first place it came up was with my kids! The people I love an accept the most. As they began to act out and do their normal kid things, I found myself getting worked up and frustrated. This was not contributing love to the situation. The first time this happened, I sent love to my youngest son (just with my heart and mind, not saying a word) and he began to calm down before my eyes. It would seem that would be enough to anchor the guidance in. But I am human too and these situations arise again and again. Thank goodness for my husband (although maybe not thinking that at the time) as he yells out "send it love!" everytime I begin to slip up.

Here is where I struggled to send love, but did so anyway: when I was being judged, when I felt hurt, when I felt out of control, when I felt victimized in some way, and when I took things personally. So now I know my triggers, I pay attention to why my guides would be so insistent on this guidance. It quickly became clear that when I couldn't send love to something I was feeling separate and disconnected and contibuting to that disconnect for everyone else! Eek. Not something I would ever want to do consciously. It also made me feel drained and weakened my energy system. Again, something I want to avoid.

I am choosing to pay attention to these situations and contribute love as often as I can. I am human and have to give myself permission to my emotions, but I can still send it love while feeling my own emotions. It is kind of like putting oil on something in the oven. It is still going to cook, the oil is just makes it more tender. :)

Insightful Inspiration

I pass this challenge on to you. Send love to absolutely every situation you can this week. Notice when you struggle to do this and see if it gives you information about yourself and where you may be loosing yourself through out the day. These are the situations that drain you of your positive energy. As always, I invite you to share your experiences.

Why am I surrounded by idiots?

People spend a lot of time in my office asking me "Why do I keep attracting this?!" The interesting part of the law of attraction, etc. is that the more we ask that question, the more opportunities we have to answer it. We attract more and more of the things we find so irritating, until we figure out why it is we find it irritating to begin with. This is a difficult concept for people to get when it comes to the teachings of "the Secret", etc. They want to believe they are a victim of their life, maybe because it is easier than taking full responsibility, maybe because they don't know where to start if they have to think they are in 100% control, or maybe it has something to do with fitting it. What ever the reason people want to reject this idea, is the very reason they Key having these experiences.

Here is an example, one of my clients asks me "Why am I surrounded by idiots? Why is everyone in my world clueless and self absorbed?" This very question is kind of like raising your hand in class. You teacher is going to demonstrate your question, so you get your answer. How do they demonstrate it? Not by giving you the opposite of what you asked, but by giving you a closer look at what you asked, in other words, bringing you more clueless idiots in your life so you can figure out why you are attracting it.

A better question might be simply to ask "Why can't I surround myself with aware, informed people who are capable of thinking beyond themselves?" At lease it is bringing in the subject you truly want. However, it may take a few more idiots to get your attention in order for you to make the shift to attract what you desire.

In other words, the more you ask why you are having a certain experience, the more of those experiences you attract. It is similar said than done, because people ARE their beliefs and it is often hard for them to suddenly see themselves surrounded by a different type of person, when they are so use to be surrounded by what they typically see. That is the other part of the equation I have talked about so much on my blog. That part that says "I want this, but I don't believe I can have it." That part of you that rejects the people you want to attract because you don't believe it can truly exist.

Here is another example. I have a client who has asked for more people who "get" what she is into regarding energy work. Then she attracts those types of people, but she continuously rejects them because she doesn't believe they are truly the ones she has asked for and still must have the "old agenda" even though they say they don't. Her belief system is fighting with her law of attraction. This happens ALL the time. This may sound ridiculous to you, but I bet if you have done any of this law of attraction work and you see yourself not getting what you think you want. It is because you don't 100% believe it can be possessed.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Use the question "How come this keeps happening to me?" in a different way. Instead of asking from a pity me space, asked if from a classroom space of true curiosity. Ask yourself  that question honestly and opening and see what answers come to you. You will get your answers. Some of them may be answers you don't want to hear, but you have to be willing to hear it. For example maybe you are attracting less intelligent people in your space because you have the desire to feel superior intellectually. You like being the "smartest" and being able to look around and not see anyone comparing to you. You might even like complaining about it. {gasp} :) Never the less, you can make a shift if you want to if you let go of the benefits this thing is secretly providing. Give it a shot!

Frustration!

What is the value of frustration? It is a feeling we have all felt and worked with. On a higher level, what is the purpose of it? Wikipedia has frustration defined as "a common emotional response to opposition." If we disect that a bit, it is basically our response to things around us not being in alignment with where we are. So does that mean we should change or the environment around us needs to change? I 100% believe, based on personal experience as well as working with clients, that when we change ourselves, the environment automatically responds. If we are aware of our inner workings, we will be aware of what our frustration is truly asking for. The difficulty is that frustration is often very distracting from doing anything mindfully, unless you let it. Abraham-Hicks says that everything is about two things, what is wanted and what isn't. What ever you put energy on expands and often when we are frustrated we focus on what is frustrating us, which is what isn't wanted, which causes it to expand. This blogger, http://www.discoveringpeace.com/the-abraham-hicks-emotional-guidance-scale.html, posted the emotional scale leading back to peace, based on Abraham-Hicks' teachings. So if we follow this theory, we focus on the source of frustration,which causes us to feel overwhelmed, which if we focus on what is overwhelming us, causes us to be dissappointed, when we focus on the disappointment, we go into doubt... and so on. We are in a downward spiral until we either hit bottom (Fear) or reverse what we are focusing on.

So lets apply this to a standard struggle... finding a job you love and enjoy. If you are feeling frustrated with the idea that you don't have a job you love and enjoy and you focus on what you don't have, you will slip down this scale. However, if you use this feeling to help you realize what you do want, a job that fulfills you and comes to you easily, then you may at first feel like it isn't possible to have it, but if you still continue to focus on what you want, your pesimissim will fade and you will just begin to be bored with your current situation, which may motivate you to have optimism that if you use that boredom to focus on what you want you can have it. Up that ladder you go! As long as you continue to choose to focus on what you want, you should be able to rise up to what you can feel joy over. To some, this sounds impossible. But let me tell you... this is so true. Difficult to practice some times, because we are trained to focus on what isn't working... but SO true if you consciously choose your path.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Choose the path to joy. Use your frustration to tell you what you are in opposition about. What are you trying to point out to yourself. If you can work on letting yourself focus on what you want, regardless of the apparent obsticles, you will prove to yourself your own power over your life and well being. Give it a shot and share with me on Facebook what keeps you from being able to follow through with this, we might be able to give you some ideas on what will help you continue to move in the right direction!

Challenges! Yippie!

We often find ourselves wishing for life to easier. Dreaming of the day when life is more peaceful, abundance, predictable, etc. But if life were all predictable and easy, wouldn't you be bored? I know... I hear you saying it "I could use a little boredum". But challenges are opprortunities! Opportunities for growth and awareness and better understanding of yourself in the world around you. If you can scream "Yippie!" everytime life threatens a challenge, trust me you will start to feel better. I know you can't expect this from yourself 100% of the time, but give it a try with something small that you have been feeling annoyed about. See how changing the challenge to an opportunity, just in your mind, changes your experience with it.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What challenges are you wishing you didn't have to deal with this week? Is there a challenge you can change to an opportunity? Look at this issue with new eyes that ask "what can I learn here?" or "What positive thing can I get out of the experience?" Don't lie to yourself and try and fake you love all your challenges. Pick something easy, that you can start to play with a bit. Once you learn that it works, then go bigger and bigge

Choosing to be happy

I have blogged a lot about perspectives and perceptions and how they can be changed to change your experience in any given situation. But what if no matter what you do, you can't think positively? What if you are a totally connected person most of the time, but today you just can't see the good in the world? Is something wrong with you? Do you have a block? Are you loosing your enlightenment?!! :) No, of course not. The human experience is designed to be a range of experiences. The good, the bad, the hard, the easy... all wrapped up into one giant box called life. You can't always choose to be happy about where you are. If you were in the Japan earthquakes right now, would you be able to just choose your way to happiness? If you were in the Congo witnessing inhuman acts of violence, would you just choose to be happy? NOPE! That is ridiculous.

The key to all of this is that you choose to be happy when it make sense and you allow other emotions to take over when they make more sense. Here is how this works. If you are on vacation and things seem to just keep going wrong, you luggage is lost, your flight is delayed, your tired and hungry and all there is to eat is crappy airport food. In this situation you CAN choose to be happy. You are on vacation for goodness sake. You may not be doing what you want, but you are safe, you are sheltered and you have the potential to be somewhere great soon. So make the best of it and go exploring the airport. :)

Here is another example, let's say you are being judged by someone else for something they think you did wrong. You try and apologize, you try to explain yourself, but all this person wants to do is make you feel like crap about yourself. Time to choose happiness? Not in my opinion. Time to feel your feelings, set your boundaries and remove yourself from a toxic situation as fast as you can and THEN choose happiness. Your negative emotions are not meant to be suppressed, they are a guide, telling you what is going on. Listen to them, weigh your options, and then choose a route that leads you back to your choice of happiness.

How do you tell which experience is a choose happiness experience or feel the negative experience? You just need to spend sometime asking yourself this.  You will know. Does it help me to feel negative right now? Is there something else I am being called to do? Can I change things? Is there a call to change things or just wait?

Insigthful Inspiration for the week

Choose happiness when you can this week, but also pay attention to those negative emotions. What are those negative feelings trying to tell you? Is there something you can do to change the situation you are in? Does it make sense to just try and change your perspective  or change the situation?  You decide.

Sympathy, Empathy and all things in between

My 10 year old son called me from school this week to tell me that he cut his face on the playground. I asked him if his glasses were broken... no... I asked if he need to come home or go to the doctor... no... So then I gave him what he really called for, which was mommy sympathy. :) I didn't feel the pain for him, or cry for him that it happened. (Empathy) I just told him I was sorry that happened and asked him how he was and gave him my love. (Sympathy) As you are out in the world engaging with people, it is important to know how to tell the difference between compassion, sympathy, empathy and all things in between.

Empathy is rarely helpful, although many of us are empaths and, without trying, feel what the other people are feeling. The reason empathy is not helpful is because it just drags you down into what that person is feeling and offers no help, guidance, love or support. I like to refer to this as getting into the mud with someone to try and get them clean. Now you both are dirty and you are getting nowhere.

Sympathy can be helpful and often times it is all we really want when we tell our stories. When we complain about work, family, friends, etc. We aren't saying "fix this for me" we are simply saying "listen and sympathize". Yes, on a soul level you are choosing this experience, but at the same time, sometimes our choices suck. :) This is often where relationships get strained. One person says "they never listen", mainly because they rarely sympathize. Often times we are trying to offer advice or fix someone, when all they want it an ear.

Compassion can be a tricky one. We use compassion in a variety of ways. We can have compassion for the Tsunami victims in Japan. We can have compassion for our dying grandmother. We can even have compassion for our children, when they are struggling with the oh so common social issues. But what is compassion really?

 Wikipedia says "Compassion (from Latin: "co-suffering") is a virtue —one in which the emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy (for the suffering of others) are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnectedness and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood." I have blogged about compassion many times as I see it as a critical part to our human exisitance, experience and spiritual growth.

But quite honestly, I see it differently than the latin word of co-suffering. I see it as being able to understand someone on a deeper level and to not condone their actions, but understand how they are feeling anyway. You don't condone a murderer, but after learning about his abusive childhood, you might gain some compassion for him as a damaged individual who had no other skill. I see compassion as the ability to see each other as connected, human and flawless in our flaws in our wisdom of "oneness".

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Check in with your interactions this week. See yourself from the perspective of these concepts. Are there any adjustments you want to make in your interactions? Play around with it, see what you can and can not offer out easily. Maybe it is hard for you not to try and "fix". Maybe it is hard for you not to empathize and suffer with others. Make note of where you are and point yourself in the direction you want to be. As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences.

Overcoming Adversity

As I do my work on this level I come to understand adversity seems to be the human condition available for all us to go to, if we choose. If our lives are lucky enough to have food, shelter, and cars, we create new adversities to face such as unemployment, abuse, addictions, etc. It seems to me that adversity is always available for us to have if we so choose. As I always love to define words, just because it really helps highlight the issue, Meriam-Webster dictionary defines adversity as: a state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty or adverse fortune. I heard an inspiration on Marianne Williamson's Miracle Thoughts podcast,  from the Oprah Spirit Network, about Women being empowered. I am probably going to butcher the summary, but what I heard was stop saying you are not empowered and take your power. It is there for you to have (if you live in countries where women have equal rights, but I would venture to guess this stands for where ever you are).

This is so true for most of us. We go around saying how empowered we want to be, how hard we have it and we want it to be easy. We focus on our adversities and not on the miracle's that come out of it. The speech therapist at my son's school gave me a book, called Trail Mix, about kids overcoming adversities such as learning disabilities, leukemia, etc.  Those are true adversities to overcome, but the thing I hear when I read this book is when you are facing a true adversity, you have no choice but to go forward. Adversity brings in the possibilities of profound understanding of yourself and the world around you. When things are easy, you don't put awareness on making it better.

I am not saying to diminish how you are feeling about your own adversity because someone always has it worse. That just invalidates who you are. I am saying use this adversity to show you the parts of yourself that want to shine through the experience. The essence of you that wants to be more present in your life when all of this passes.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

What adversity do you feel you are facing right now? Are you dwelling in the story of the adversity or are you looking for the lessons and magic it holds for you? If you aren't facing an adversity right now, think back to a time you did and how you came through it a brighter person. Commend yourself for the strength you have and trust you will continue to have it, no matter what life throws at you. The key is, are you wise enough to glean the wisdom from the experience when it is over. The answer there too is YES!

Snowflakes in your hand

There hasn't been much snow yet this year in Broomfield, Colorado. We are getting a little bit of dusting today, which inspired me to see things in the metaphors that I always see things in. When a snowflake falls into your hand, it is there for just a minute before it melts away. If you hold a snowball in your hand, it may take a bit longer, but eventually it would melt away and you wouldn't be able to hold onto it.

Life is just like this snowflake and all issues you struggle to overcome too. Some issues are like little snowflakes that land on you just for a minute and some are more like snowballs (and may even feel like snow boulders!) and take a bit longer to dissipate and might even make your hands freeze, but eventually do disappear. We all know that this is how life is, yet we some how fret and analyze the issues in our life as if knowing that issue will make it go away or easier to handle. We don't trust the process. We feel that we must do something with that issue that has landed in our laps, when sometimes there is nothing to do but to hold the issue gently and let it melt away.

Insightful Inspirations of the week

Do I sound like a broken record when I say "ease up on the issues of life"?  Well maybe I am just saying it in a new way so you will finally get it. :)

This week, take a pressing issue that is on your mind and just see it, watch it, hold it in your hand. Picture it as a snowflake in your hand. Something you will only get to notice for a minute before it transforms into something else. Bring healing energy, with intention, to this issue and visualize it melting away. Then just wait. See how the issue changes for you over the next couple of days as you let your intentions bring awareness and healing to the tasks at hand.

If you live somewhere, where it doesn't snow... then your second task is to notice what other temporary beauties the earth brings you this message in. A wave, a handful of sand, etc. I would love for you to share that temporary beauty with us.

Learn your lesson already!

This topic is by request. If you would like to request a topic feel free to post it to my facebook page or send me an email at lholitza@insightfulinspiraitions.org I have often been found saying that you don't have to learn your lessons the hard way, you choose to. This doesn't mean that some bad things don't just happen. But for the most part, the struggles that arrive in our life, especially with other people, often carry a message you have agreed to learn. I believe we agree to teach each other things about the way things work and often times to agree to be pretty hard on us until we do learn it. It is the concept that the message is first whispered, then it is said loudly and finally a ton of bricks are dropped on your head and it is screamed into your ear.

We often dismiss the whispers. Why? Well, it can be for a variety of reasons, but mostly because we are stuck in one way of being. Until we are ready to adopt a new way of being, we tend to try and stick with our standard plans. When something comes along and knocks us off of our axis, we tend to throw our arms up and say "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" and finally listen to the answer. Not always though... we might try and still cling to the old way of being, making it even harder on ourselves and daring the universe to knock us over again and undoubtedly it will.

So the question for this blog is really, how do I know what lessons I am trying to learn before I get knocked off my axis? (Correct me if I have the question wrong, but this is the question I am answering.) I don't have an easy answer for you, but I can give you a few tips as your insightful inspiration for the week.

Sometimes however, you just have to experience what you are experiencing (rather than avoid it) in order to learn your lesson. Sometimes even knowing the lesson doesn't teach it to you. It is like telling a child the basic concept of multiplication and then saying go do it, including the entire range of numbers large and small. It is difficult to tell you in a blog how to address this fully and completely because life is the school. But I can give you a place to start so that you can be more aware in your lessons rather than being victimized by them. Use my suggestions as a place to start and then build your own list.

First and formost, go EASY on yourself. You can't expect a baby to know all about the world just becuase they are in it. It takes experiences and perceptions and the ability to self reflect to get the picture and even that isn't the full picture. If you are trying to learn a lesson to avoid the consequences of what you think is coming, you might be missing the point. You aren't learning the lesson, you are trying to manipulate the lesson. :)

Insightful Inspiration of the week 

If you are struggling with something right now that you can't quite understand the meaning of, you might be up against a major soul lesson. This is where being present really counts. Because if you are bringing in the past, present and future hypothetical into this issue, you could be clouding the lesson.

First, remember you can ask for help. Guides, Angles, God... what ever you pray to, they listen and they help. So send your love to your higher source (or yourself if you can't quite get beyond yourself right now) and ask for help. Ask for clarity, understanding and the grace to accept the lesson.  Then listen for the answer. Notice the world around you and see what messages are trying to come through. Trust that these are your answers, regardless of the form they take. 

Second, anchor yourself in NOW. This is where the lesson is being presented. Don't project into the future about the what ifs. Look at what is happening right now. Also notice what is NOT happening right now. Be present with your fears, feelings and thoughts. They are your road map to what you are trying to heal. If you are afraid, ask why. Drill in, find out where this fear is rooted in and allow yourself to ask "is this really happening or do I just think it might happen."

Third, give yourself compassion. You are not going to always know right away why you did something. You may have to just trust that the clarity will come later and right now, you just need to be present to see when the messages come. Beating yourself up for not knowing or being in the situation to begin with only drives the pain and hurt deeper and gives you more to do later.

Finally, don't rush through it. Don't make irrational choices just to hurry up and make something happen. People often try to get out of uncomfortable feelings by rushing through things or asking everyone they know for advice so they can say they "tried" to do the "right" thing. Remind yourself that this too shall pass and ride the wave the best you can.

Anything can happen

My husband finally convinced me (and I convinced myself) to come into the smart phone phase. We purchased the iphone 4. We have had the phone for a week, but our old contract expires tomorrow, so we have been waiting to activate. You would have thought it was the count down to Christmas a new baby or something. Every day my husband says "X more days!". Tomorrow he has blocked off the entire day to play. This got me thinking about the concept of the newness of things. This is true for everything. Marriages, weddings, babies are obvious exciting times to prepare for, but what about those moments that aren't so obvious such as new projects, new friends, and new electronic toys! What is it about that build up that is so exciting?

It is the unknown. It is the realm of possibilities. It is where things are not determined yet and anything can happen. That is an exciting point in our creative process. The thing is that we are always creating something new. We start a new day, a new school, a new job, a new recreation, we meet new people. So how come some things are easy to get excited about an others we can't get excited about and maybe even dread? Maybe it is because we think things are already laid out. The possibilities are limited and we aren't that excited to see them play out.

What if we change our perspective to understand that anything can happen, at any moment. The possibilities are endless and are always unfolding.

Insightful Inspirations for the week

Start the day each day thinking that the possibilities are endless. Anything can happen and it is exciting to dream about what that could be. You could meet the love of your life, meet a person who can give you your dream job, you could even WIN the lottery! See if you can reengage that childlike curiosity and joy in the possibilities that are your life. Let them flow in and don't choke them off, thinking you have already got the outcome all figured out.

Shake it off

What is the first thing you do when you hurt your hand? You shake it and rub it. That is your natural response to disperse the excess energy that caused the pain to begin with. Shaking actually helps release energy and restore you to a more natural state. You can use this concept for other things in your life. If you are struggling with a situation that hit you quickly and you felt unprepared, give it some time and think about healthy ways to shake off the energy. Some examples of how you might shake off the energy include exercise, talking to a friend, meditating, or expressing emotion. If you don't shake off the energy, it piles up on you and makes the next situation feel all that more overwhelming.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Shake it off. For the situations that are impacting you this week, consciously shake off the energy in a way you find enjoyable. You already do this naturally, but by bringing awareness to it, you are enhancing its healing affects. Try this visualization. Visualize a tree that represents you, covered in snow, representing the energy of the situation.  This tree has so much snow on it that its branches are bending and are overwhelmed. Now imagine shaking that tree. Allowing all the snow to fall off those branches, popping up the branches back into their strong, unburdened state.

Why are you afraid of feeling?

Generally I am pretty open to my happy, optomistic self. But occasionally, like all of us, I get a little down. It is often a place I resist with fearce determination. I try and meditate, take herbs, get accupuncture, etc. to "fix" the "problem. To feel "better". I spend so much time trying to treat the symptoms I don't get down to what is really going on. I am trying to talk to myself about an imbalance I am ready to address. If only I would stop and listen! Why don't I stop and listen knowing what I know about all things? Well, what is there to look at is very painful and scary. I am afraid if I look at it, it will take hold and be the truth of who I am. I don't trust myself to be with this pain and ever get out of it again. So instead of supporting this thing, I try and run from it, which only makes it worse and stronger. So what if I opened up to this and was this way forever? I want to be able to love myself no matter what.  But I have put certain criteria on  myself that make me "lovable" if I don't meet those criteria I am what... not lovable? Of course not! I am still lovable. Sometimes I just have to remind myself that no matter what I am lovable. It is a test of the faith and trust I claim to have. It is me, like a toddler, acting up, just to make sure you still love me, no matter what. So I rise to the challenge and love my darkness just as I love my lightness in order to make room for light within me to shine brighter.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

jackgetingtuckedin4This week, have a good cry without judgement on yourself of how you "should" be feeling. We have put obligations on our emotions. Emotions are not obligated to do anything, they are there to tell us about how we are interacting with the world around us. If we block ourselves off to our emotions or judgement as right or wrong, we are stealing away the power they have to communicate with us. Then these emotions stop working properly and get out of balance. We start feeling sad at times when we aren't sure why. We feel more anger at a situation than is what you truly feel because you have blocked off the last four times you felt anger. 

See if you want things to fall back into balance. As you release this emotional valve, try no to judge it. Just let it open up and see what happens next. If there is a lot in there, don't worry, it will stop flowing eventually and swing back the other way. When you start to doubt you should have opened the flood gates, just notice. Where is the fear of these emotions coming from? Did you learn as a kid these kinds of outbursts would get you in trouble? Just notice the fear is there as well. Fear of feeling.   Why are you afraid of feeling?  Just notice. Pay attention, see if you can send love to this part of yourself and let it be what ever it needs to be.

If other's around you freak out by this new openness, just notice that too. That is their havingness for this situation and has nothing to do with the right an wrong of you. Send them compassion, but try and keep it from getting into your space about how you are feeling.

Write me if you want. I always love to hear how it is going.