Insightful Inspirations - Leanne Holitza

Energy healing, intuitive guidance, oracle cards

Leanne Holitza is an Intuitive healer working with your energy and thoughts to align you with your highest potential. Allowing you to experience more of what you already have, making room for more.  This site offers help with all areas of life through individual sessions, classes, yoga sessions, and more. My expertise also includes working with intuitive children. 

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Lessons of Life, Death, Expansion and Grief

Why live if you are only going to suffer and struggle in life and die anyway? Suffering maybe part of this experience on the physical plane. It may be unavoidable and part of this journey. But you came to play too. You came to bask in the glow of your physical existence.

Life is not a rush back to the other side. This is the playground of time and space. This is the realm of good food, smells, sights, and connections you could not have anywhere else.

Acknowledge the process of your life and your choice to lead it the way you do. No one else, no even your guides, are in charge of how you live if. Everything that comes to you is your soul’s opportunity and choice to learn and grow through joy and the contrast to that joy.

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Manifesting what you are Worth

How can you manifest what you are worth if you don't know what you are worth and you aren't facing what is blocking you from that knowledge. Self worth is a great place to start in figuring out how you are blocked to manifesting what you want. 

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The Unknown - Threat or Opportunity?

People get falsely lured into thinking that if you just know what is coming next, you will be okay and things will go well. Even if we can see the tidal waves coming, we can't always escape being swept away by them. In fact, if you can see them, the chances are you are going to get swept away by them.

Let me tell you quite bluntly, the fear of the unknown is holding you back. You don't have to wait for all things to be clear to trust your gut. You don't have to ask yourself what will be, you just have to look around and see what is.

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The plight of the seeker - Understanding

What are you trying to "understand" better? What information are you trying to analyze, pick a part, think through? Are you in balance with it? Is it create ease and fun in your life or chaos and struggle? If it is creating chaos and struggle, can you let go of it a little bit. Let it show itself to you rather than you figuring it all out.

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Are those mine or yours? - Contagious Emotions

Emotions seem to be the easiest thing to share amongst friends; it's almost like a virus. One person feels happy and passes on to the next and the next and so on. That is ideal... but not always how it goes.

More often one person in line is angry and yelling at the cashier which puts you in a "what is wrong with people?" mood which leads you to go home and yell at your kids, which makes them mad at the each other and so on. Emotions are contagious and the sooner we learn to recognize the difference between our emotions and the people we are with, the easier time we will have in knowing ourselves.

Empathy as a survival skill

Empathy is defined by dictionary.comas "the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another." If you are experiencing the feelings, thoughts or attitudes of another, how do you know you are acting in your own best interest and not the person you are empathizing with? If you are identifying with someone else's emotions and making decisions based on those emotions, they may not be right for you.

Empathy can be a survival skill. When we are born we can't talk yet and don't know much about the reality we have just arrived in. With this skill of empathy, we can read each others thoughts and emotions and make decisions on how we will engage with the environment.

"What am I really feeling?"

Things go off track when we don't know where our thoughts and feelings start and the other person's begin. We are always picking up on each other's energy in subtle ways. We feel each others state of mind and often change our behavior and feelings about the situation accordingly.

If you can begin to acknowledge when this sharing of energy is happening, you can begin to understand yourself more clearly and start setting new intentions. By paying attention to your ability to pick up on other people's thoughts and emotions, you begin to see when you are letting someone else's negativity win.

By becoming aware of how easily you change course based on what another person is doing or feeling you will be able to stop being a victim of others and empower yourself to dictate your mood and actions. 

What mood are you bringing to the room?

It is also helpful to observe those around you, especially children, as they pick up on your moods. Watch for that moment from when they switch over to what they were feeling independently to what they are feeling when they notice you.  Then ask yourself, is this how I want others to feel around me? 

You have more power than you think. If you walk into a room defensive and uptight, that is how the room will respond. This isn't to control how everyone else is feeling, but just to set an intention within yourself of the influence you want to be in the world. 

Guilty Pleasures

I am probably going to have this post pop up with a bunch of porn sites with my title choice... but this is something I have been thinking about for awhile. How come we have pleasures in life that we should feel guilty about? If you ready my blog you know I love to define things first. So here we go... Guilty, according to dictionary.com - having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; justly subject to a certain accusation or penalty; culpable: The jury found her guilty of murder. Wikipedia describes please as - Pleasure describes the broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking.

So in other words, guilty pleasures means an enjoyable mental state that is a crime or wrong.

When I think of guilty pleasures I thinking of chocolate, a drama movie or an extra long nap. To me those are things I am indulging in. Things that maybe make me happy but shouldn't. How is that possible... how could my happiness be wrong? Maybe it is the over indulgence in these pleasures that sends it over into unhappiness that is really wrong. (too much of a good thing) The rest is programming... I should like to eat something healthy, instead I am craving sugar.

Too me in the essence of trusting your own intuition and your own energetic needs, if you crave a guilty pleasure, you should go for it. But I guess I would add a caviat that you were in balance with yourself first. If you are grounded, centered and clear and you still want chocolate... what is the harm? A balanced person probably would have balanced pleasures. Where it is guilty is when we are out of balance with ourselves and desire things that aren't good for us.

So really what we are guilty of is not pleasure but being out of balance.  This sounds more like it! This sounds more reasonable to me. Heck, there is even a Web MD page on being out of balance, that is how common it is.

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Next time you feel a "guilty pleasure" coming on, stop and consider maybe something else it out of balance. Consider giving yourself a break to balance your feelings, mental state and physical body together and then check in with that pleasure. Do you still want it in a balanced state? If yes, but you still feel guilty, you may just be bullying yourself with "have tos

Trust yourself and you can trust anything

We are finding it hard to trust anything any more. What once seemed certain is no longer and what someone tells us is going on can't be trusted. Gone are the days of being able to trust blindly. You can't look to others for the truth. Is all lost? Are we victims of a society that is gone wrong? Or maybe we are shifting to an age where we no longer look outside of ourselves to find the truth. We are shifting to the only thing we can trust is ourselves. However we don't even trust that! When we are making this shift to having to trust ourselves first we get resentful, angry and blame each other for this shift. We fight it and blame others "damn you, now I have to listen closer to myself next time!"

However, what if you could trust everything outside yourself because you could trust yourself, with 100% certainty, that you are always aligning with your highest good? What if you could see the wisdom of your ways without fear of  mistakes, being taken advantage of, or going down a path you never intended? You can!

When you are in alignment with yourself, listening to your internal wisdom, seeing the beauty of your life from the connected eyes of trusting yourself, you see a world that free. You open up to your experiences because you aren't afraid of them. You experience things to the highest possible level because you trust your judgement of when to stop without second guessing. You engage fully in relationships without fear of misunderstanding another's intentions and getting hurt.

How do I trust myself on this level, you ask? Well, it starts with being willing to try to stop thinking of the concept of self trust is bad! It is the only thing you have, but when you have it, everything else can be trusted too. You have been doing it backwards. Start taking time to tune in and pay attention to your gut.

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Start making a habit to listening to your gut. Start working on the issues that keep you from that trust in yourself. If you aren't trustworthy, why not? If you can't trust you, how can you expect anyone else to and how can you trust anyone else? I am not saying the voices in your head are all correct. But if you start to listen, you can start to tell the difference between what is good guidance and was isn't. This is one of the biggest questions you can ask yourself, can I be trusted? If you can't, time to find out why. Make a change so you can freely live your life without blame of others and without fear of yourself?

Why am I surrounded by idiots?

People spend a lot of time in my office asking me "Why do I keep attracting this?!" The interesting part of the law of attraction, etc. is that the more we ask that question, the more opportunities we have to answer it. We attract more and more of the things we find so irritating, until we figure out why it is we find it irritating to begin with. This is a difficult concept for people to get when it comes to the teachings of "the Secret", etc. They want to believe they are a victim of their life, maybe because it is easier than taking full responsibility, maybe because they don't know where to start if they have to think they are in 100% control, or maybe it has something to do with fitting it. What ever the reason people want to reject this idea, is the very reason they Key having these experiences.

Here is an example, one of my clients asks me "Why am I surrounded by idiots? Why is everyone in my world clueless and self absorbed?" This very question is kind of like raising your hand in class. You teacher is going to demonstrate your question, so you get your answer. How do they demonstrate it? Not by giving you the opposite of what you asked, but by giving you a closer look at what you asked, in other words, bringing you more clueless idiots in your life so you can figure out why you are attracting it.

A better question might be simply to ask "Why can't I surround myself with aware, informed people who are capable of thinking beyond themselves?" At lease it is bringing in the subject you truly want. However, it may take a few more idiots to get your attention in order for you to make the shift to attract what you desire.

In other words, the more you ask why you are having a certain experience, the more of those experiences you attract. It is similar said than done, because people ARE their beliefs and it is often hard for them to suddenly see themselves surrounded by a different type of person, when they are so use to be surrounded by what they typically see. That is the other part of the equation I have talked about so much on my blog. That part that says "I want this, but I don't believe I can have it." That part of you that rejects the people you want to attract because you don't believe it can truly exist.

Here is another example. I have a client who has asked for more people who "get" what she is into regarding energy work. Then she attracts those types of people, but she continuously rejects them because she doesn't believe they are truly the ones she has asked for and still must have the "old agenda" even though they say they don't. Her belief system is fighting with her law of attraction. This happens ALL the time. This may sound ridiculous to you, but I bet if you have done any of this law of attraction work and you see yourself not getting what you think you want. It is because you don't 100% believe it can be possessed.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Use the question "How come this keeps happening to me?" in a different way. Instead of asking from a pity me space, asked if from a classroom space of true curiosity. Ask yourself  that question honestly and opening and see what answers come to you. You will get your answers. Some of them may be answers you don't want to hear, but you have to be willing to hear it. For example maybe you are attracting less intelligent people in your space because you have the desire to feel superior intellectually. You like being the "smartest" and being able to look around and not see anyone comparing to you. You might even like complaining about it. {gasp} :) Never the less, you can make a shift if you want to if you let go of the benefits this thing is secretly providing. Give it a shot!

Separation

Separation is kind of the key to all things that ail us in these human bodies. We are separate from one another in form and mind but not in spirit and reality. Together we create our reality, but we do so from separate minds and experiences. This provides a ripe learning ground for our souls, but a lot of complicated matters for our perceptions. When we perceive ourselves to be separate we believe that we must fight another for the resources that are available. We believe that we better or worse than someone else. We believe that judgement  of someone else is necessary to gauge ourselves. We believe that our actions don't always affect others if they don't know about it or see it. We believe that as separate beings we are alone, most of the time. I once heard someone say "You are born alone and you die alone, get use to it."

We are, however, very connected in all ways. Our energy entangle together in all things. We know this deep down within ourselves. Most of us as humans learn compassion and empathy, which leads us to connecting with other people's experiences of the world. Most of us forget at times that others do not know the world exactly as we know it and forget to explain things from our point of view, thinking everyone should already know it. Most of us feel the need to connect with at least one other person on a regular basis, in order to feel fulfilled. Most of us are capable of seeing that our actions do affect others and make choices accordingly. We never completely forget our connection either.

When we see each other as reflections of ourselves, we can begin to see we are fragmenting what was once whole, to better understand it. When we can see that the illusion of separate is mearly an experiement in better understanding, we still respect the connections we all have. When we are able to connect to the real dilemas of being separate we can appreciate the true gift of connection.

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Contemplate this idea that you are a separate being from everyone else around your. Your ideas, experiences, perceptions are all your own, shared by no one. Then contemplate all the ways you are connected to others and how others have effects on you ideas, choices, actions, etc.  Take notice where your actions, feelings, etc. have an effect on others. Are there any adjustments you want to make to this perception of connected versus separate? Do you want to balance this perception out one way or another a little more or are you happy with your current believes. Weigh the benefits of both and see how that automatically shifts your idea on the subject.

Overcoming Adversity

As I do my work on this level I come to understand adversity seems to be the human condition available for all us to go to, if we choose. If our lives are lucky enough to have food, shelter, and cars, we create new adversities to face such as unemployment, abuse, addictions, etc. It seems to me that adversity is always available for us to have if we so choose. As I always love to define words, just because it really helps highlight the issue, Meriam-Webster dictionary defines adversity as: a state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty or adverse fortune. I heard an inspiration on Marianne Williamson's Miracle Thoughts podcast,  from the Oprah Spirit Network, about Women being empowered. I am probably going to butcher the summary, but what I heard was stop saying you are not empowered and take your power. It is there for you to have (if you live in countries where women have equal rights, but I would venture to guess this stands for where ever you are).

This is so true for most of us. We go around saying how empowered we want to be, how hard we have it and we want it to be easy. We focus on our adversities and not on the miracle's that come out of it. The speech therapist at my son's school gave me a book, called Trail Mix, about kids overcoming adversities such as learning disabilities, leukemia, etc.  Those are true adversities to overcome, but the thing I hear when I read this book is when you are facing a true adversity, you have no choice but to go forward. Adversity brings in the possibilities of profound understanding of yourself and the world around you. When things are easy, you don't put awareness on making it better.

I am not saying to diminish how you are feeling about your own adversity because someone always has it worse. That just invalidates who you are. I am saying use this adversity to show you the parts of yourself that want to shine through the experience. The essence of you that wants to be more present in your life when all of this passes.

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What adversity do you feel you are facing right now? Are you dwelling in the story of the adversity or are you looking for the lessons and magic it holds for you? If you aren't facing an adversity right now, think back to a time you did and how you came through it a brighter person. Commend yourself for the strength you have and trust you will continue to have it, no matter what life throws at you. The key is, are you wise enough to glean the wisdom from the experience when it is over. The answer there too is YES!

Knight Rider Mind

Would you let your car tell you where to go, what to do, or how to be? Of course not! Even if your car was equipped with an artificial intelligence system like the show Knight Rider, you wouldn't let the car run your life! This is basically what we do with our minds. Our thoughts are just part of who we are, yet we let our thoughts, both conscious and subconscious, run our lives. We are driven by our minds on everything from what to wear for the day to what careers we should get into. Even when we start to awaken to something more, we crave information and understanding so that the mind can digest the concept of "awake" and "enlightened". But enlightenment is so much more than just knowing something about the spirit. It the experience of spirit.

Here is where this goes wrong. Your mind is just a tool for you while you are here. When you die, you are not your mind. When you were a baby, you thoughts were still developing, yet you were still you. So although the thought gurus of the metaphysical world, like Louise Hay, says "change your thoughts and change your life"" and this is VERY true, it is also about going beyond the mind completely in order to reconnect with the bigger sense of you.

When you are able to contemplate on all that makes up who you are and what you are doing here, the message becomes much clearer than just your thoughts. The universe responds to this question with experiences that help you unlock your deeper sense of self.

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You are so much bigger than your thoughts. Live you life beyond what you are thinking. Incorporate it into everything else you are experiencing emotions, spirit, sensations, etc. Ask for help from the universe or your God to show you who you really are, beyond your thoughts. Then see what unfolds in your life. Reconnecting with your spirit means shedding the shackles of the illusions that you are only your mind and body and opens you up to the endless possibilities that are already available to you.

Spend some time doing something that helps you quite your mind and see what other parts of yourself shine through.

Putting your feelers out

People often come to me to find out what's next in their lives. Sometimes we get very greedy for these answers when we finally decide to ask the question. We want instant answers, NOW! Sometimes we aren't completely prepared for the answers, so they come in at levels you can handle them. Inching you along to find that ultimate answer. Put the question out and then you wait, notice and pay attention. The answer may not come in a word or a resounding next step. It may come as a song, a subtle message in an ad, or even just a friend calling and reminding you who you really are. Pay attention to these subtle responses and you will see the universe is constantly answering your questions. You just don't always want to listen to the answer.

For example, lets say you ask "What should I do next in my career?" and the ultimate response is for you to be doing something completely different than you are doing now. You may not be ready to hear that. So the response that comes back might be just to expand yourself where you are or prepare yourself for a move. Rather than just saying "move careers tomorrow" the universe is gentle with us, gliding us through to our next steps that we have asked for. If only we were so patient with our request for answers as the universe is with us receiving them.

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What question are you asking for instant answers on? What do you think you need to know NOW? Put your feelers out on this question. Notice the sights, sounds, and sensations the world is bringing you in response to this question. Don't over analyze it, just pause and sense. Do you like what you are being shown or are you waiting for a different answer? The answer may be different tomorrow if you want it to be, just put out the request and then wait for the next response. Glide yourself through this process rather than forcing it. You will be amazed at all the answers that have been given and are just waiting for you to notice.

Choose your own adventure

As we seek answers beyond ourselves about how things work and why, we may discover the power of the universe guiding and directing us. You will hear about the divine plan and how things are suppose to happen for a reason.

Does this mean that we are not in charge of the guidance and direction we are going? Are we subject to destiny no matter what you do? 

No way. Think of yourself a co-creator of your world. You are creating your world using your internal thoughts, intentions, etc. But you are also creating your world with the people you surround yourself with, the choices you make and the agreements on what is real and what isn't that you have made with the people around you.

Harness the Power Around you

We are working together to create a world that we want to live in on a micro and macro level. You are in charge of yourself in this experience and the role you play in it. The trick is tapping into your deeper connections with the world around you. This will help you see your part in the co-creation and the part of divine wisdom that is available to you, but not required for you to take every single direction given. It is all free will, whether you choose to do it or not, and will serve you in some way to get you back to the divine source of yourself.

These resources that show up in your life based on the vibration of desire you have put out. If it shows up, you don't have to take it, but if you choose to take it, embrace it and let it help you.

Think of it like a choose your own adventure book. The outcomes are the same and the themes are already written. But the path to get there is always new and different depending on the choices you make along the way.

Here is a great video to explain the creation space from Abraham. 

Take your power back

Are you giving up on directing and guiding your own life for the sake of the divine plan? Are you surrendering yourself into inaction, rather than using the surrender to open up your options and views of the world? Ask yourself if you are misinterpreting your "destiny" in someway that is leading you to inaction and powerlessness. That is not the point of all this. That is swinging the pendulum too far in the other direction. Seek balance and know your free will remains intact no matter what you do. How are you going to use it? That is where your experience of the divine plan unfolds into its own mystery.

Set some clear intentions

Often times I see people stuck in the doldrums of their own unconsciousness. They haven't given themselves permission to even know what they want. They put their desires out on other people and the "what ifs" and don't actually use their free will to create what they want out of life. 

Write some things down for yourself. You don't have to know what you want until your life ends, but what do you want now? Tomorrow? Next week? Put some clear intentions around it and show up to make it happen. 

How do you know what you know?

July 2009 033Last night my four year old asked me, “Mommy, how do we know what we know?”. Ah, the profound questions of a child. My husband said out loud what I was already thinking, “that would make a great blog”. Contemplating what it means to know.  Here are a few words the Microsoft Word thesaurus has for know: identify, understand, realize, grasp, experience, see, tell, distinguish, and recognize. Wow! As I read for people however, I see people constantly questioning what they know, how they know it and whether or not it is “right”. Walking the path, but not sure it is the right path or the right direction on the path. How do they know how to put one foot in front of the other? How do they know where they are headed?

So how do we know what we know? Part of it is just that it resonates with us.  What feels true to us. Information we can be with, without it causing disharmony in us about it not making sense. When something doesn’t make sense, we will do anything to prove it to ourselves. We will tell all of our friends and family and see if they agree. We might research it to find evidence of the facts. We might even do something to make it truer to ourselves like buy something, make something or make a drastic change to something.

The biggest trick to this however is that what we know changes. So if we know it, how can it change? Isn’t the truth the truth and that is it? Nope and the more flexible we are with what we know, the more open minded we can be about the world around us, the more of it we can experience.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Contemplate this four year old’s question for yourself.  How do you know what you know? Pick a thought pattern that governs a good part of your life. For example, “I have to have a job to pay my bills.” This thought may seems completely logical and make total sense to you. But pick it a part a bit. There is no harm in questioning it. If in the end it is still true to you, it is. There is nothing you have to do with this thought, but notice where it comes from and how you know it.

Ask yourself does it still make sense to you today? What do you do to prove it to yourself? How hard do you have to work at proving it? Is it still serving you? What if it wasn’t true? What would that mean for your life? Would you be glad to be done with that thought if you could? Why can’t you be done with it? What would happen to your life if you let it go? How many people in your life believe this thought also?

Can you tap into the joy of life by questioning your reality?

Have a joyous week.  The universe loves you.