Insightful Inspirations - Leanne Holitza

Energy healing, intuitive guidance, oracle cards

Leanne Holitza is an Intuitive healer working with your energy and thoughts to align you with your highest potential. Allowing you to experience more of what you already have, making room for more.  This site offers help with all areas of life through individual sessions, classes, yoga sessions, and more. My expertise also includes working with intuitive children. 

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Lessons of Life, Death, Expansion and Grief

Why live if you are only going to suffer and struggle in life and die anyway? Suffering maybe part of this experience on the physical plane. It may be unavoidable and part of this journey. But you came to play too. You came to bask in the glow of your physical existence.

Life is not a rush back to the other side. This is the playground of time and space. This is the realm of good food, smells, sights, and connections you could not have anywhere else.

Acknowledge the process of your life and your choice to lead it the way you do. No one else, no even your guides, are in charge of how you live if. Everything that comes to you is your soul’s opportunity and choice to learn and grow through joy and the contrast to that joy.

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Energy Addictions and the Stories We Tell Ourselves

We are natural storytellers. We love to pass on information through stories. The story tellers of indigenous tribes are generally held in very high esteem. We read books, watch movies and have conversations revolving around telling stories. 


Some of these things are true and some of them lies. But they are all good stories.
— Hilary Mantel

There is a risk with passing on stories, and that is misinformation. We tend to pass on stories no matter what their validity. If it feels real to us, it is real. This is why we have websites like Snopes, so we can check out facts or find out we have been duped. This Slate article speaks of a mythical story of panic, reportedly caused by Orsen Welles' fake broadcast on a Martian invasion. This article emphasizes to the fact that we can can pass on untrue stories for a very long time.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves 

How does this play out with subtle energies? Well, not only do we tell our stories to others, but the stories we tell ourselves are the ones we can get most duped by. First, because  we generally don't share our full stories to others we don't get called out on how false they are. Second, because the voice we hear loudest is our own. Whatever the story is we tell ourselves, is the story we believe, defend and create in our lives. 

For me, the story of how much time I have versus how much time I think I need is never in balance. It isn't an uncommon story. I share this story with many others around me, which makes it worse. We all perpetuate the time struggle.  

When a story becomes an addition

Oh how we love to spin.

Oh how we love to spin.

As I become more stressed, I start to spin my story deeper and deeper. Anyone who tries to convince me that my story is unreasonable is likely to get a defensive response and I weave the further the story in order to convince the other person that my stress is valid. This does me no good on an energy level, but I am hooked and I do it anyway. It is like a drug and I lose my power to it.

As I have worked with people over the years, I have seen clear energetic addictions in most people's lives, some are healthy, others are not. Most of it has to do with how you learned to be in the world. What your parents, teachers and peers showed you your life was like.

The Cure

As much as you can blame your parents or society for your imbalances it is ultimately your awareness and intention to change that bringing you into balance again. For whatever reason, your soul wanted to learn that lesson by being in it and then bring yourself out of it. So now is the time to change the story. Start finding new ways to tell yourself how to get things done or engage with your friends. 

Some other examples of negative energetic addictions include drama, anger, sadness, hopelessness, victimization and "work." You may even use these states of being to motivate you. Motivate you to go to work, make a change or just get out of bed in the morning. Paying attention is always the key to these things.

Take a moment to notice your energy addictions. Where do you spend a lot of your time? In a state of peace, stress, anger, etc.? Is it possible that you are addicted to this frequent state of being? Take a minute to make a pact with yourself to notice that this energy is a choice. Do you want to choose differently today? Give it a try. Tell yourself you want a new story.

You can also ask some follow-up questions, for example, is this a mental addiction or an emotional one? Where do I store this story in my body? Can I get the same results with a more positive spin on this story? I would love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to share. 

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Guilty Pleasures

I am probably going to have this post pop up with a bunch of porn sites with my title choice... but this is something I have been thinking about for awhile. How come we have pleasures in life that we should feel guilty about? If you ready my blog you know I love to define things first. So here we go... Guilty, according to dictionary.com - having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, especially against moral or penal law; justly subject to a certain accusation or penalty; culpable: The jury found her guilty of murder. Wikipedia describes please as - Pleasure describes the broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable, or worth seeking.

So in other words, guilty pleasures means an enjoyable mental state that is a crime or wrong.

When I think of guilty pleasures I thinking of chocolate, a drama movie or an extra long nap. To me those are things I am indulging in. Things that maybe make me happy but shouldn't. How is that possible... how could my happiness be wrong? Maybe it is the over indulgence in these pleasures that sends it over into unhappiness that is really wrong. (too much of a good thing) The rest is programming... I should like to eat something healthy, instead I am craving sugar.

Too me in the essence of trusting your own intuition and your own energetic needs, if you crave a guilty pleasure, you should go for it. But I guess I would add a caviat that you were in balance with yourself first. If you are grounded, centered and clear and you still want chocolate... what is the harm? A balanced person probably would have balanced pleasures. Where it is guilty is when we are out of balance with ourselves and desire things that aren't good for us.

So really what we are guilty of is not pleasure but being out of balance.  This sounds more like it! This sounds more reasonable to me. Heck, there is even a Web MD page on being out of balance, that is how common it is.

Insightful Inspiration

Next time you feel a "guilty pleasure" coming on, stop and consider maybe something else it out of balance. Consider giving yourself a break to balance your feelings, mental state and physical body together and then check in with that pleasure. Do you still want it in a balanced state? If yes, but you still feel guilty, you may just be bullying yourself with "have tos

My Book Is Here!

I have been so busy that I haven't had time to blog about my news!  I have published a book! Insightful Inspirations, conversation starters with your authentic self. http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000531426/Insightful-Inspirations.aspx This book is a compilation of blogs, work with others and just general wisdom I have recieved. It is designed to be held in your hand, holding a question in your mind and then open it up to some perspective. I hope to have a card deck that goes with it one day. The artist who did my cover, Stephanie Ingraham with Siyo, will be doing that artwork.

I have to admit that I was pretty nervous to put this book out. Even though I have had it written for over two years, there is just so much exposure with putting this out. I have already found one typo, despite having several proofs and am not sure I like how it printed with the questions on the back of the page. But the gift of this experience is that it is a perfect healing opportunity for my perfection issues! It doesn't have to be perfect to be wonderful. That is the amazing gift I will find here, how to just trust and accept my imperfections.

On the flip side, I am even more worried it will do well! :) Fear of success I guess. But part of me worries that I won't have time and won't appreciate the exposure. Again, another amazing opportunity to face my fears and heal. I am catching myself saying "It is just a little book" or "Yeah, no big deal". Wow, who knew I would have such a hard time embracing my accomplishment! I am releasing this issue as well and look forward to whatever this brings.

I have been using the book on my own since I received it and I have to say, I love having it in a format I can hold in my hand. It is so much fun to use! (If I do say so myself.) So I hope you all will take a moment to check it out and find as much value out of it as I do.

Insightful Inspiration

What have you delayed putting out into the world because you are afraid of having it fail? Or maybe you are afraid of it suceeding! What is the worst that can happen? What is the best that can happen? Is it worth the risk?

If you have already faced something like this, share with us. We can all learn from you.

Separation

Separation is kind of the key to all things that ail us in these human bodies. We are separate from one another in form and mind but not in spirit and reality. Together we create our reality, but we do so from separate minds and experiences. This provides a ripe learning ground for our souls, but a lot of complicated matters for our perceptions. When we perceive ourselves to be separate we believe that we must fight another for the resources that are available. We believe that we better or worse than someone else. We believe that judgement  of someone else is necessary to gauge ourselves. We believe that our actions don't always affect others if they don't know about it or see it. We believe that as separate beings we are alone, most of the time. I once heard someone say "You are born alone and you die alone, get use to it."

We are, however, very connected in all ways. Our energy entangle together in all things. We know this deep down within ourselves. Most of us as humans learn compassion and empathy, which leads us to connecting with other people's experiences of the world. Most of us forget at times that others do not know the world exactly as we know it and forget to explain things from our point of view, thinking everyone should already know it. Most of us feel the need to connect with at least one other person on a regular basis, in order to feel fulfilled. Most of us are capable of seeing that our actions do affect others and make choices accordingly. We never completely forget our connection either.

When we see each other as reflections of ourselves, we can begin to see we are fragmenting what was once whole, to better understand it. When we can see that the illusion of separate is mearly an experiement in better understanding, we still respect the connections we all have. When we are able to connect to the real dilemas of being separate we can appreciate the true gift of connection.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Contemplate this idea that you are a separate being from everyone else around your. Your ideas, experiences, perceptions are all your own, shared by no one. Then contemplate all the ways you are connected to others and how others have effects on you ideas, choices, actions, etc.  Take notice where your actions, feelings, etc. have an effect on others. Are there any adjustments you want to make to this perception of connected versus separate? Do you want to balance this perception out one way or another a little more or are you happy with your current believes. Weigh the benefits of both and see how that automatically shifts your idea on the subject.

It is time to look at things differently

This post is inspired by a video clip from the Ted conference that a client of mine sent me. I love this message so much, and it is one I personally subscribe to as often as possible, but being a natural born perfectionist, need reminding of daily. That message is that it is OKAY to be wrong. No really, I swear. It helps us learn. Similar to the challenges post last week, this is me, encouraging you to face your mistakes like wonderful gifts and embrace them. Here is the clip by Kathryn c on being wrong.Shttp://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_on_being_wrong.html

The open mind, the one that is willing to be wrong once in awhile for better ideas than the ones that they currently have, is in my opinion the best gift of all. The Free Dictionary defines an open mind as having a mind that is open and receptive to new ideas. But to me, this means you are willing to say that your current ideas might be wrong. Always willing to reconsider.

The think about giving up old ideas for the sake of new ones, doesn't mean your old ones were ever wrong. For you, they were right, just then. But there comes a time when maybe that idea no longer serves your reality and it is time to look at things differently. Sometimes the only reason we are not willing to do this is because we are afraid to admit we made old decisions from the wrong place. But how about instead of thinking that we are ever wrong, but still being willing to admit it, we think we are always flexible in what can and cannot be true.

I know, I can hear the arguments already. But just try this out a bit on your own "wrong" way of thinking and see if you want to make it "right" for yesterday, but "wrong" for today.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What thought patterns are you hanging on to that are "wrong" today? What is the world trying to fight you on right now that you are "right fighting" for? Are you open minded enough to explore other possibilities? Can you be willing to let yourself admit you are wrong, to see things differently? Find the freedom that comes from not always having to be right? Give it a try, just admit you are wrong on some things this week. Wear it proudly and show that you are willing to admit it and try things from a new direction. Humble yourself a bit and join the human race. "To err is human" which means it must have a divine key to our ability to be the best humans we can.

Challenges! Yippie!

We often find ourselves wishing for life to easier. Dreaming of the day when life is more peaceful, abundance, predictable, etc. But if life were all predictable and easy, wouldn't you be bored? I know... I hear you saying it "I could use a little boredum". But challenges are opprortunities! Opportunities for growth and awareness and better understanding of yourself in the world around you. If you can scream "Yippie!" everytime life threatens a challenge, trust me you will start to feel better. I know you can't expect this from yourself 100% of the time, but give it a try with something small that you have been feeling annoyed about. See how changing the challenge to an opportunity, just in your mind, changes your experience with it.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What challenges are you wishing you didn't have to deal with this week? Is there a challenge you can change to an opportunity? Look at this issue with new eyes that ask "what can I learn here?" or "What positive thing can I get out of the experience?" Don't lie to yourself and try and fake you love all your challenges. Pick something easy, that you can start to play with a bit. Once you learn that it works, then go bigger and bigge

Sympathy, Empathy and all things in between

My 10 year old son called me from school this week to tell me that he cut his face on the playground. I asked him if his glasses were broken... no... I asked if he need to come home or go to the doctor... no... So then I gave him what he really called for, which was mommy sympathy. :) I didn't feel the pain for him, or cry for him that it happened. (Empathy) I just told him I was sorry that happened and asked him how he was and gave him my love. (Sympathy) As you are out in the world engaging with people, it is important to know how to tell the difference between compassion, sympathy, empathy and all things in between.

Empathy is rarely helpful, although many of us are empaths and, without trying, feel what the other people are feeling. The reason empathy is not helpful is because it just drags you down into what that person is feeling and offers no help, guidance, love or support. I like to refer to this as getting into the mud with someone to try and get them clean. Now you both are dirty and you are getting nowhere.

Sympathy can be helpful and often times it is all we really want when we tell our stories. When we complain about work, family, friends, etc. We aren't saying "fix this for me" we are simply saying "listen and sympathize". Yes, on a soul level you are choosing this experience, but at the same time, sometimes our choices suck. :) This is often where relationships get strained. One person says "they never listen", mainly because they rarely sympathize. Often times we are trying to offer advice or fix someone, when all they want it an ear.

Compassion can be a tricky one. We use compassion in a variety of ways. We can have compassion for the Tsunami victims in Japan. We can have compassion for our dying grandmother. We can even have compassion for our children, when they are struggling with the oh so common social issues. But what is compassion really?

 Wikipedia says "Compassion (from Latin: "co-suffering") is a virtue —one in which the emotional capacities of empathy and sympathy (for the suffering of others) are regarded as a part of love itself, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnectedness and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood." I have blogged about compassion many times as I see it as a critical part to our human exisitance, experience and spiritual growth.

But quite honestly, I see it differently than the latin word of co-suffering. I see it as being able to understand someone on a deeper level and to not condone their actions, but understand how they are feeling anyway. You don't condone a murderer, but after learning about his abusive childhood, you might gain some compassion for him as a damaged individual who had no other skill. I see compassion as the ability to see each other as connected, human and flawless in our flaws in our wisdom of "oneness".

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Check in with your interactions this week. See yourself from the perspective of these concepts. Are there any adjustments you want to make in your interactions? Play around with it, see what you can and can not offer out easily. Maybe it is hard for you not to try and "fix". Maybe it is hard for you not to empathize and suffer with others. Make note of where you are and point yourself in the direction you want to be. As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts and experiences.

Overcoming Adversity

As I do my work on this level I come to understand adversity seems to be the human condition available for all us to go to, if we choose. If our lives are lucky enough to have food, shelter, and cars, we create new adversities to face such as unemployment, abuse, addictions, etc. It seems to me that adversity is always available for us to have if we so choose. As I always love to define words, just because it really helps highlight the issue, Meriam-Webster dictionary defines adversity as: a state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty or adverse fortune. I heard an inspiration on Marianne Williamson's Miracle Thoughts podcast,  from the Oprah Spirit Network, about Women being empowered. I am probably going to butcher the summary, but what I heard was stop saying you are not empowered and take your power. It is there for you to have (if you live in countries where women have equal rights, but I would venture to guess this stands for where ever you are).

This is so true for most of us. We go around saying how empowered we want to be, how hard we have it and we want it to be easy. We focus on our adversities and not on the miracle's that come out of it. The speech therapist at my son's school gave me a book, called Trail Mix, about kids overcoming adversities such as learning disabilities, leukemia, etc.  Those are true adversities to overcome, but the thing I hear when I read this book is when you are facing a true adversity, you have no choice but to go forward. Adversity brings in the possibilities of profound understanding of yourself and the world around you. When things are easy, you don't put awareness on making it better.

I am not saying to diminish how you are feeling about your own adversity because someone always has it worse. That just invalidates who you are. I am saying use this adversity to show you the parts of yourself that want to shine through the experience. The essence of you that wants to be more present in your life when all of this passes.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

What adversity do you feel you are facing right now? Are you dwelling in the story of the adversity or are you looking for the lessons and magic it holds for you? If you aren't facing an adversity right now, think back to a time you did and how you came through it a brighter person. Commend yourself for the strength you have and trust you will continue to have it, no matter what life throws at you. The key is, are you wise enough to glean the wisdom from the experience when it is over. The answer there too is YES!

Snowflakes in your hand

There hasn't been much snow yet this year in Broomfield, Colorado. We are getting a little bit of dusting today, which inspired me to see things in the metaphors that I always see things in. When a snowflake falls into your hand, it is there for just a minute before it melts away. If you hold a snowball in your hand, it may take a bit longer, but eventually it would melt away and you wouldn't be able to hold onto it.

Life is just like this snowflake and all issues you struggle to overcome too. Some issues are like little snowflakes that land on you just for a minute and some are more like snowballs (and may even feel like snow boulders!) and take a bit longer to dissipate and might even make your hands freeze, but eventually do disappear. We all know that this is how life is, yet we some how fret and analyze the issues in our life as if knowing that issue will make it go away or easier to handle. We don't trust the process. We feel that we must do something with that issue that has landed in our laps, when sometimes there is nothing to do but to hold the issue gently and let it melt away.

Insightful Inspirations of the week

Do I sound like a broken record when I say "ease up on the issues of life"?  Well maybe I am just saying it in a new way so you will finally get it. :)

This week, take a pressing issue that is on your mind and just see it, watch it, hold it in your hand. Picture it as a snowflake in your hand. Something you will only get to notice for a minute before it transforms into something else. Bring healing energy, with intention, to this issue and visualize it melting away. Then just wait. See how the issue changes for you over the next couple of days as you let your intentions bring awareness and healing to the tasks at hand.

If you live somewhere, where it doesn't snow... then your second task is to notice what other temporary beauties the earth brings you this message in. A wave, a handful of sand, etc. I would love for you to share that temporary beauty with us.

Knight Rider Mind

Would you let your car tell you where to go, what to do, or how to be? Of course not! Even if your car was equipped with an artificial intelligence system like the show Knight Rider, you wouldn't let the car run your life! This is basically what we do with our minds. Our thoughts are just part of who we are, yet we let our thoughts, both conscious and subconscious, run our lives. We are driven by our minds on everything from what to wear for the day to what careers we should get into. Even when we start to awaken to something more, we crave information and understanding so that the mind can digest the concept of "awake" and "enlightened". But enlightenment is so much more than just knowing something about the spirit. It the experience of spirit.

Here is where this goes wrong. Your mind is just a tool for you while you are here. When you die, you are not your mind. When you were a baby, you thoughts were still developing, yet you were still you. So although the thought gurus of the metaphysical world, like Louise Hay, says "change your thoughts and change your life"" and this is VERY true, it is also about going beyond the mind completely in order to reconnect with the bigger sense of you.

When you are able to contemplate on all that makes up who you are and what you are doing here, the message becomes much clearer than just your thoughts. The universe responds to this question with experiences that help you unlock your deeper sense of self.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

You are so much bigger than your thoughts. Live you life beyond what you are thinking. Incorporate it into everything else you are experiencing emotions, spirit, sensations, etc. Ask for help from the universe or your God to show you who you really are, beyond your thoughts. Then see what unfolds in your life. Reconnecting with your spirit means shedding the shackles of the illusions that you are only your mind and body and opens you up to the endless possibilities that are already available to you.

Spend some time doing something that helps you quite your mind and see what other parts of yourself shine through.

Learn your lesson already!

This topic is by request. If you would like to request a topic feel free to post it to my facebook page or send me an email at lholitza@insightfulinspiraitions.org I have often been found saying that you don't have to learn your lessons the hard way, you choose to. This doesn't mean that some bad things don't just happen. But for the most part, the struggles that arrive in our life, especially with other people, often carry a message you have agreed to learn. I believe we agree to teach each other things about the way things work and often times to agree to be pretty hard on us until we do learn it. It is the concept that the message is first whispered, then it is said loudly and finally a ton of bricks are dropped on your head and it is screamed into your ear.

We often dismiss the whispers. Why? Well, it can be for a variety of reasons, but mostly because we are stuck in one way of being. Until we are ready to adopt a new way of being, we tend to try and stick with our standard plans. When something comes along and knocks us off of our axis, we tend to throw our arms up and say "WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" and finally listen to the answer. Not always though... we might try and still cling to the old way of being, making it even harder on ourselves and daring the universe to knock us over again and undoubtedly it will.

So the question for this blog is really, how do I know what lessons I am trying to learn before I get knocked off my axis? (Correct me if I have the question wrong, but this is the question I am answering.) I don't have an easy answer for you, but I can give you a few tips as your insightful inspiration for the week.

Sometimes however, you just have to experience what you are experiencing (rather than avoid it) in order to learn your lesson. Sometimes even knowing the lesson doesn't teach it to you. It is like telling a child the basic concept of multiplication and then saying go do it, including the entire range of numbers large and small. It is difficult to tell you in a blog how to address this fully and completely because life is the school. But I can give you a place to start so that you can be more aware in your lessons rather than being victimized by them. Use my suggestions as a place to start and then build your own list.

First and formost, go EASY on yourself. You can't expect a baby to know all about the world just becuase they are in it. It takes experiences and perceptions and the ability to self reflect to get the picture and even that isn't the full picture. If you are trying to learn a lesson to avoid the consequences of what you think is coming, you might be missing the point. You aren't learning the lesson, you are trying to manipulate the lesson. :)

Insightful Inspiration of the week 

If you are struggling with something right now that you can't quite understand the meaning of, you might be up against a major soul lesson. This is where being present really counts. Because if you are bringing in the past, present and future hypothetical into this issue, you could be clouding the lesson.

First, remember you can ask for help. Guides, Angles, God... what ever you pray to, they listen and they help. So send your love to your higher source (or yourself if you can't quite get beyond yourself right now) and ask for help. Ask for clarity, understanding and the grace to accept the lesson.  Then listen for the answer. Notice the world around you and see what messages are trying to come through. Trust that these are your answers, regardless of the form they take. 

Second, anchor yourself in NOW. This is where the lesson is being presented. Don't project into the future about the what ifs. Look at what is happening right now. Also notice what is NOT happening right now. Be present with your fears, feelings and thoughts. They are your road map to what you are trying to heal. If you are afraid, ask why. Drill in, find out where this fear is rooted in and allow yourself to ask "is this really happening or do I just think it might happen."

Third, give yourself compassion. You are not going to always know right away why you did something. You may have to just trust that the clarity will come later and right now, you just need to be present to see when the messages come. Beating yourself up for not knowing or being in the situation to begin with only drives the pain and hurt deeper and gives you more to do later.

Finally, don't rush through it. Don't make irrational choices just to hurry up and make something happen. People often try to get out of uncomfortable feelings by rushing through things or asking everyone they know for advice so they can say they "tried" to do the "right" thing. Remind yourself that this too shall pass and ride the wave the best you can.

Enlightenment Guides in the most unlikely places

Gurus, teachers, yogi, monk, etc. these are all the titles of people you might go to for some spiritual help. Someone to show you the path to enlightenment. This week I was reminded to remember the true helpers in our life often don't come from the likely sources. They aren't always the ones you want to say "thank you" to and aren't always obvious gifts.You might find more enlightenment in facing a chain reaction of events brought into your life through an encounter with a person, than from a spiritual master. For example, lets say you get a job that you need VERY badly. In this job you are unhappy, but it pays the bills. Part of the reason you are unhappy is because you have a boss who is just awful to you. Finally one day, this boss is so awful to you that you snap and tell them off, causing you to loose your job. Then you face finding a new one, financial struggles and anything else that comes along from the chain reaction of events.  In the end you find yourself a job you love, pays better and supports who you are. You gained wisdom about your strength through the struggles to get there. Lessons yu couldn't learn any other way.  

Can you thank that boss for being the catalyst for your growth? Can you see the wisdom in their involvement in your life?

This isn't a sugar coated avoidance technique to make every one and everything seem good in your life. This is about having awareness of the wisdom that is constantly around you working with you and for you. This is about noticing the gifts rather than denying them.

Insightful Inspiration of week

Become aware of your catalysts. Who is your life has caused a chain reaction of events that you find unpleasant? Who do you have trouble with because of all the struggle they bring? What are they a catalyst for? Maybe they are just showing you how you don't want to be. Maybe they are making you reevaluate your life rather than just going through the motions. See if you can find the gift in the chain reaction they have set off for you. Decide if you want to learn your lessons or keep the chain going until you do. You want the lesson or you wouldn't be there with it. Send them gratitude, forgiveness and love and then do the same for yourself.